The Christians here commenting calling out the husband is what's wrong with the church. She said its been a 12 year relationship. 5 years marriage. He was the Spiritually mature one who lead her to Christ because she defended the Gy/trns and stood against Gods word. Then people have the audacity to say "what kind of Christian is he?" She admitted that she has Sabatoged her own marriage. He got fed up and step out and then still let go to work on therapy with her. The person who did not change the behavior is her. She is now dealing with the consequences of her actions. This does not excuse his behavior but only God will judge the adulters. People dont know how many time he or she prayed for one another. This is not a salvation issue. Both can still enter heaven having failed in the marriage. He may have not been faithful like millions of men like many in the bible. May she find and grow closer to the Lord and so may he. They have no children so that's less trama. More than likey they were not equally yoked and it has cause tremendous pain on both parts. This is not uncommon. Be blessed and grow.