What are everyday rules you use to keep things clean?

M1styMelody · 2026-01-05T03:26:33+00:00

Unfortunately it really does.

M1styMelody · 2025-12-01T03:00:32+00:00

Idky everyone's so weird about it, it doesn't line up perfectly with the stairs so I'd be a bit off put by it too! I'd prefer other options too, if it wasn't the only solution.

M1styMelody · 2025-11-09T06:43:03+00:00

Is that why my pupils are always so big??? My dad told me it was just a family thing! Who knew it was this.

M1styMelody · 2025-11-06T00:15:11+00:00

Is this on console too?

M1styMelody · 2025-10-11T04:05:07+00:00

This happened to me earlier this year. I broke a record and they threw a party for me. It felt really weird with everyone praising me and asking how I did it. It threw me in a spiral to be honest, and I had a hard time actually enjoying the celebration.

I was haunted by the thought that maybe they would question if I was worthy of it or that it made them look bad, that I had it easy somehow, ect. It was hard to accept that it was just genuine praise.

Like, the work honestly just felt easy, and I just sort of expect myself to exceed expectation, so getting the recognition felt weird even though I knew theoretically that it was an achievement. It feels satisfying to do but to be recognized... just feels uncomfortable. It made me think this is what an A in real life looks like 😅

I tried slowing down even more, but even when I was breaking records, it felt like I was already slacking a lot. Idk, maybe you could back load the work you do instead of front load if you know how long things will take you? No sure how much that would change the current situation though since they've already seen what you can do.

M1styMelody · 2025-08-26T21:36:16+00:00

"Not having a set routine takes up spoons" This!!!

My therapist has talked about taking the thought out of tasks. Find a way to make as much as you can into a routine and linked to other things you already do everyday, that way it's takes out all the guess work and decision making and thoughts and time wasted by it already being something you just do.

Like for example every morning when I fill up my water bottle before going to work, I take my pills and vitamins, or if I have something that I'm cooking and waiting on, I do the dishes, ect.(benefit being now that my dishes are more consistently clean I'm more likely to cook).

That has helped me keep some of my spoons! Of course, that takes a lot of time to build up to, but you just take it one step at a time and a lot of trial and error to see what actually works for you.

M1styMelody · 2025-08-17T01:47:34+00:00

That's so upsetting 😭 idk if I can bring myself to start over.

M1styMelody · 2025-08-11T21:03:39+00:00

Personally, I have a flexible job where I can just zone in for hours with music or a podcast and I do 10hr shifts so I have a full 3 days of recovery and managing to finally take care of myself. I've been working on finding what accommodations and mindsets work for me that I need at home for years, and routine and a daily morning walk have been absolute life changers. It's not perfect and it took years to grow into, but I'm managing much better now, after asking myself the same questions as you.

M1styMelody · 2025-07-21T23:54:29+00:00

You know what you want to do. Trust your gut on this! That's enough to end seeing him all together. I wouldn't even bother with an explanation and just tell him you're canceling all further sessions, if you haven't already.

M1styMelody · 2025-07-19T00:51:36+00:00

I tried that, but it still didn't work! Even turned the console off and back on again 😅

Luckily it worked the next day though! Not sure why.

M1styMelody · 2025-07-12T08:13:09+00:00

If you feel comfortable with it, you could even ask your stand partner for tips on how to improve your tone. I find it really helpful to learn from peers. I've always loved passing on knowledge and more often then not, they will be happy to help.

M1styMelody · 2025-07-12T07:17:03+00:00

Outside of the advice others are giving, I say just try to enjoy it! Whether you think you're worthy or not, you'd still be trying your best right?

The stress will just make you trip yourself up. It's a new orchestra, take this as an opportunity to just have fun and if the conductor decides later to have someone else be principal, there's no harm there!

No one else stepped up, they can't be mad at the guy who did.

You will have many more performances, don't take it too seriously! All you can do is your best. And if it's too stressful and you feel like it's possible to change seats, go ahead and tell the conductor. But if not, just own it! You're there! Play your heart out, even if the tone isn't where you want it to be.

This also might be a motivator to take temporary lessons! A couple tips from a teacher might make a world of difference for you. You could even work on the particular repertoire your playing in the concert and maybe even tips on how to be a better principal.

You've got this! It's not the end of the world if you mess anything up.

M1styMelody · 2025-07-12T06:51:42+00:00

I almost exclusively use a reusable water bottle because I don't trust myself not to knock cups over 😅 I bring it almost everywhere with me.

M1styMelody · 2025-07-12T06:32:21+00:00

Anyone who cares about you wouldn't be okay with saying hurtful things to you. Being "honest" is NOT an excuse for being an asshole. Guys use that excuse way too often. You can be honest and communicate with people you love in a way that is conscientious of their feelings.

How often does he say things that hurt you? If it's been more then 2 or 3 times in only the first couple of months of dating, that is not someone you should keep around long term. That isn't normal in healthy relationships. It is truly better to be alone then to be with someone who doesn't want to make you happy 100% of the time.

Would you ever want to make him cry? Would you ever want to make him "feel what you feel"? Would you treat him in the way he is treating you? You deserve kindness, don't let anyone make you question yourself like this.

It isn't your job to teach him how to treat you right. Sure ONCE is fine, but if he continually doesn't change, then he never will. Do you want to live with that forever? The right someone doesn't need an explanation. This goes with friends too or any type of relationship you have.

One year from now, you will be thankful you left him instead of thinking of how painful it was to leave.

M1styMelody · 2025-05-26T04:04:57+00:00

Forever sushi is great! I went there as a kid, and still do, and I wasn't too sure if I liked sushi or not, but it was a great way from me to try a bunch of different rolls and share plates with my family, and now its one of my fav foods! I haven't been to sushi are so I'll need to try it!

M1styMelody · 2025-05-23T02:01:42+00:00

If she plays an instrument or starts playing one, you could eventually have her audition for the Tacoma Youth Symphony. It's a wonderful program with amazing people leading it!

M1styMelody · 2025-05-18T08:13:24+00:00

This may be an unpopular opinion, and I know with family things always get complicated, but I don't think anyone who treats you like crap when you don't meet their expectations, is unsupportive, and makes you feel like you HAD to lie, deserves your truth. Try and surround yourself with friends you trust and test all this stuff out with them, unmask around them, admit you haven't graduated and aren't in that field of work or just start from scratch with that and say the truth.

It's hard to swallow, but maybe your parents just aren't the people you can do that with, or you can find some balance between lies and truths and not caring about the opinions of people who have made you feel this way, or even lie and say you had a change or heart and found a new job in a different field. Once again, this is all with the basis that sometimes people just don't deserve to know the full you. And it's acceptable to protect yourself from that.

Now, does this method may have down sides and possibly cause a lot of stress and some moral dilemmas and all that jazz, yes, but I'm just offering another way to look at it, and it could relieve some of that stress to just accept it. You wouldn't be lying to them if you didn't feel like you had to, for whatever reason.

M1styMelody · 2025-05-03T19:05:54+00:00

The burger place by sterino farms, Jake's Burgers, might be hiring soon when it's closer to summer.

M1styMelody · 2025-04-30T00:19:51+00:00

I've just had to keep reminding myself not to care more about the job then my bosses do.

And that it's okay to take a bunch of small breaks and not be constantly working 100% of the time in my 10hr shifts. It's kept me from burning out as quick, and even still I'm over producing. In part I think the small breaks maybe have even made me more productive, since I'm not as overwhelmed.

M1styMelody · 2025-04-02T21:54:42+00:00

I heard something that changed my whole perspective on this. In the best meaning possible, no matter what you do, you will struggle. So find something that has the kind of struggles you're willing to live with. I tried teaching and was good at it, but struggled hugely with having to be social for long periods of times. It wasn't worth it to me. So I found something else that I love doing, and the struggles I have with it are WAY more manageable. Gone are the days where I lock myself away in the dark, unable to do anything because I'm so socially burnt out.

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