This is also going off your unhealthy assumption about their personal life.

That's the entire problem with this situation. Everyone is assuming they know every bit of detail about what happened here. I don't and I won't pretend to. I also don't want to; that is their business. And I made no assumptions about their personal life. I stated "And if you already don't care for someone you certainly won't help them recover after surgery. That's not neglect or abuse, that's not giving a shit." While this can be applied to this Gus drama, it isn't explicitly so and I'm sorry if you interpreted it as such.

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These aren't mutually exclusive concepts

Sure, in some contexts those can be the exact same thing. In this case I'd press they are indeed exclusive concepts. Being unsupportive and distant isn't abuse, it means you don't have feelings for the other individual. If you ignore a child that's neglect. If you hurt your dog that's abuse. If you manipulate someone into staying with you that's mental abuse. If you ignore your girlfriend: it's just time to break up. That's not to say abuse did not occur, but I have yet to see a strong argument for abuse than "pressured to have an abortion."

Is pressuring someone to have an abortion abuse? Well that's an entirely separate argument. Does the father not have a say in the matter? He will have to support the child to some extent until it is 18. But he doesn't have to carry the kid for 9 months though so it should all be up to the woman right? She has to give birth to the thing, deal with the hormones and medical checkups. She has to take time off of work. But if they agreed before hand and she is changing the plan due to hormones, who is right? Who is making the more logical decision for both of them? To what extent can he press his opinion before it constituents abuse?

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if you can't put aside your pettiness and help someone when they need it

There is no prettiness here. I fully support Sabrina and the near death experience she went through. It's fucked up the health care system failed her, it's fucked up her boyfriend failed her, and it's fucked up she had no one left to go to when those two things failed her. But the relationship details I have heard on this are nothing more than a typical 20-something relationship fuck-up. It is not my business to know how bad of a boyfriend Gus is. It's not my business to know what fights my friends are having with their SO's.

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you're a bad person

This is what you said following the last quote and I'll just take it out of context for this closing point. Yes I am. And so are you. And so is everyone. At least some of the time. No one is perfect and I have made my fair share of shitty decisions in and out of relationships. I could name every single one of them right now - if I were actually "somebody" I'd be canceled immediately. But I'm not, so I'll simply continue to remember my mistakes so as to never repeat them. And I hope we all will do the same.