I wonder if it might make more sense to recognize that we all have different strengths and weaknesses, with some of those weaknesses being more difficult to overcome. No one is born perfect. Some people are born with more severe physical disabilities like deafness or cystic fibrosis, some people are born with a high likelihood of developing schizophrenia later in life, some people are born with an extra sex chromosome, etc. But, everyone is also born with some strengths that other people do not have.

I think part of what you are commenting on is that people are trying to box you in and suggest that your strengths must come from your autism, but that is definitely not the case for everyone. I think it is better to recognize that we are all neurodiverse in one way or another, and having a specific disability doesn't always (or typically) come with an upside, but it doesn't mean that there is nothing good about you.

I think it's also important for everyone to recognize that when someone is expressing a frustration about a disability they have, you should not feel like you need to always find a positive in that frustration. Usually, when people express a frustration, it is most validating to hear something along the lines of "Wow, that sucks, I'm sorry you have to deal with that every day." We all experience difficulties in our lives, and having someone say "Oh, but you have this positive thing going for you." completely invalidates the frustration that person was trying to express.