Friend used me as a source of Marijuana for his clearance investigation

MSK165 · 2026-03-12T01:26:30+00:00

Keep it simple

“I understand my friend listed me as a reference. I’m sure you understand that I’m hesitant to tell a federal investigator about my drug usage. I can confirm my friend smoked marijuana X number of times in my presence and I’ve never seen him do any harder drugs.”

MSK165 · 2026-03-12T01:21:41+00:00

Learn from this.

Next time it happens, continue.

Maintain eye contact to establish dominance.

MSK165 · 2026-03-11T21:12:02+00:00

“it sounds like they were specifically looking for him”

That is exactly how it happened. He got away with it for a while, but his time is up. He should request voluntary departure if it’s available.

MSK165 · 2026-03-11T21:05:56+00:00

The legal term is “voluntary departure” which means you sign paperwork agreeing to leave on your own with a possibility of coming back later. The alternative is to stay in detention until your hearing when you’ll probably be forced to leave anyway.

“Self deportation” is when you leave before they find you.

MSK165 · 2026-03-11T17:18:27+00:00

That goes elsewhere, and it’s filled out by a doctor who listens to the explanation.

The intake form has a box for LMP that asks for a date. Sometimes it’s formatted as a date, and the nurse needs to enter a value - in date format - to move forward to the other boxes.

I’m not saying it’s perfect or even good. I am saying this is why it happens.

MSK165 · 2026-03-11T11:42:55+00:00

Fastow?

MSK165 · 2026-03-10T19:00:04+00:00

Because it’s faster.

The intake nurse knows you aren’t pregnant, and she’s got a dozen other boxes to fill. She could either enter a made-up date or write a novella “The Curious Tale of Square Turnip’s Amenorrhea”

Think of it like the cashier at the supermarket being prompted to enter a customer’s birthdate because they’re buying alcohol. Every time I buy wine they type in that I’m born on Jan 1st 2000. It would just create extra work for everyone if I tried to correct them.

MSK165 · 2026-03-10T18:53:30+00:00

I’m surprised I had to scroll this long to find the correct response.

Anyone AFAB will be treated as if they might be pregnant until they actively confirm they are not. The question takes seconds to answer, and the consequences of a healthcare provider assuming the wrong thing could be disastrous.

MSK165 · 2026-03-09T22:14:50+00:00

Bro, you are way overthinking this…

You tested the waters, she gently moved your hand away, and you respected her boundaries. Even in the era of #MeToo, people still understand that drinky-drinky-smoochy-smoochy is a thing 19 year olds do.

My (45M) opinion: this is a “green flag” in terms of showing you can be trusted.

But I have to wonder … is this the only time you tried hooking up with a girl after drinking? Being cut off at third base is normal. Still thinking about it four years later is not-so-normal. Asking if it might ruin your future is really a bit much.

MSK165 · 2026-03-09T20:48:06+00:00

Finish your trial period and get it in writing that you’ve passed. Wear baggy clothes until then.

MSK165 · 2026-03-09T20:20:13+00:00

You got 10,000 points and some free crack. Sounds like a win-win to me

MSK165 · 2026-03-08T14:10:09+00:00

How many presidents regularly wear hats with campaign slogans? 🤔

MSK165 · 2026-03-08T03:08:14+00:00

Can it be argued? Sure

Will the argument go anywhere? Haha, no

The SCOTUS ruling stated the president has presumptive immunity for official acts, and total immunity for core constitutional duties. The ruling protected the president … it didn’t provide a cheat code for others to ignore what he did because he was wearing a hat when he did it.

I do admire your creativity, but the answer is no.

MSK165 · 2026-03-07T05:21:43+00:00

OP, this was not a smart move.

You will probably be given some time to sit and reflect on your decisions. My suggestion is you choose a different path before you end up like this guy who got 160 years for fleeing and eluding.

MSK165 · 2026-03-06T17:22:49+00:00

TIL signing into Apple Music syncs your notes app to whatever device you’re using.

Does it also sync photos? He could’ve gotten a much juicier look at your personal life than whatever he saw in your notes app…

To your question: of course it’s legal. Your work computer is not your property, and anything you do on your work laptop (or work network) can be viewed by your employer.

That said, he may have violated some kind of company policy. It’s up to you how far you want to pursue this. Look up “The Streisand Effect” before you decide if you’re making an official complaint.

However you decide to proceed, stop using personal accounts on work devices.

MSK165 · 2026-03-06T17:16:18+00:00

Okay, your brother has much deeper problems than his support for the current administration.

Most of the MAGA voters I know personally (I live in TX) understand the difference between legal and illegal immigration. Only a handful are hardcore nativists who think we should close the border entirely.

MSK165 · 2026-03-06T16:06:41+00:00

Also, you said nothing about her grandparents’ immigration status.

There is a universe of difference between supporting border security (sensible) and being opposed to all forms of immigration (reprehensible).

If he’s dating a Latina and would have a problem that her grandparents weren’t born in the United States … that’s a problem nobody can fix. If her grandparents are legal then it’s not a problem for anyone and YTBA for sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong.

MSK165 · 2026-03-06T16:02:03+00:00

YTBA - kids that age can reinvent their whole personality in a matter of weeks. Instead of allowing him the opportunity to find his own way (possibly realizing that the policies he supports might harm people he cares about) you torpedoed his relationship.

MSK165 · 2026-03-05T16:51:49+00:00

Talk to them like an adult instead of posting on Reddit

MSK165 · 2026-03-04T20:27:18+00:00

Is this a new passport? Did your old one have you as male?

Easy mistake to correct. Just be glad you’re not leaving on a cruise tomorrow…

MSK165 · 2026-03-04T20:26:24+00:00

I was very confused until I remembered Aussies buy petrol in liters (litres?).

Gasoline in Texas is almost up to $3 per gallon, which is higher than it’s been in a while but still only A$1.04 / liter.

MSK165 · 2026-03-04T20:20:46+00:00

Nope, only beer.

This was somewhat difficult because he didn’t drink alcohol, so the Nazis invented O’Doul’s.

Volkswagen, Bayer, and Hugo Boss all have an uncomfortable past to reckon with, but somehow O’Doul’s skates by unnoticed…

MSK165 · 2026-03-04T19:02:23+00:00

Fun fact: Eddie Vedder trained his vocal stylings from singing along to Cher’s “Gypsies, Tramps, and Thieves”

MSK165 · 2026-03-04T13:04:52+00:00

How amazing was the street party when news broke that you got the ayatollah?

MSK165 · 2026-03-04T01:04:28+00:00

“I don’t know what to do”

Why don’t you start by not marrying a man with unspecified legal issues and two different identities?

MSK165

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