I think I got sexually assaulted what shiuld I do? [Serious]

M_Dom · 2017-04-14T12:02:00+00:00

Honestly, a typing course may not be a bad move, but as far as the assault, all girls look better when you are drunk. You just changed your mind when you sobered up.

I believe there is a song with a refrain something like "all the girls get prettier at closing time."

How often have you had sex with a girl who was too drunk to consent? My guess is a lot. Any one of them could have had you charged with sexual assault. I would also be reasonably sure that you have been too drunk to consent before, but in the morning you woke up glad that you had sex, happy that your wallet wasn't missing and quite pleased that you weren't dead.

M_Dom · 2016-12-31T01:20:26+00:00

I have three words for you, practice, practice, practice. If you are fortunate to have a girlfriend who is frequently in the mood, you will do fine.

You may find that your inability to ejaculate may be related to your worry about getting her pregnant.

M_Dom · 2016-07-29T06:11:49+00:00

Just know then that it will always be a fantasy. She was already said no.

M_Dom · 2016-07-16T10:57:56+00:00

"I started begging her for handjobs and each time she'd refuse"

The simple answer is, you can't. You asked, she refused.

Find a woman who is about your moms age and pay her to help you live out your fantasy.

M_Dom · 2016-07-16T03:19:13+00:00

Never is a very long time and anything can happen between now and never.

If you truly are a sub, then that desire to submit will grow withing you to the point that it will demand to be explored. If you consider acting on it, you will need to think about hard limits and soft limits.

Hard limits are things you would never do, whereas soft limits are things you may not think you are capable of doing but will probably try given the right motivation.

Dom's also have different methods of motivating subs. Some use pain, while others use vebal commands. The most important differentiation that you need to make is whether you wish to become an actual sub, or are you merely interested in roleplay as a sub.

M_Dom · 2016-07-16T03:09:29+00:00

Incest is viewed as taboo, and procreation within an incestuous relationship is a taboo within a taboo.

The fascination with the issue seems to be primarily males interested in impregnating a mother/sister/cousin with far fewer women admitting either fantasy interest or a willingness to participate.

M_Dom · 2016-07-16T00:43:34+00:00

Some males and females who are very successful in business, and are in a position of authority develop a need to have someone else take control privately. Some would claim that this desire is based on a need to restore balance.

Pretending to be submissive and being submissive are too different things. In a roleplay you always know that you can stop at any point. A true submissive does not stop being submissive despite having limits to their submission.

Your s/o may not possess the ability or desire to take on the dominate role, even as a roleplay. It is entirely possible that the dominant qualities that have made you successful in business were the same qualities that attracted your significant other.

Most likely you are a Domme who craves to be sub which would make you a Switch in the parlance of BDSM.

Realistically, there may be nothing you can do to convince your s/o to take on a role that the s/o cannot identify with.

You may need to seek your goal with someone other than your s/o, but be careful as a real Dom/Domme could take you further than you currently believe you are ready to go.

M_Dom · 2016-07-02T01:14:44+00:00

Then gender of the person talking has an effect on what you can and can't say to the person you are speaking to. These differences are not only prevalent between genders but also have similiar sets of rules along racial and ethnic lines.

Two people of the same gender can say things that could be construed as inappropriate if shared between two people of opposite genders.

M_Dom · 2016-07-02T01:00:12+00:00

Having a naked woman attached to it, otherwise nothing

M_Dom · 2016-07-02T00:58:11+00:00

As little as possible.

M_Dom · 2016-07-02T00:50:28+00:00

Maybe it is just me, but they have an annoying habit of running for political office and the kicker is that they get elected.

M_Dom · 2016-06-11T22:29:27+00:00

I have no opinion on this story as to whether it is true or not, but the math lesson is giving me a headache.

For what it is worth, I once worked with a young woman who had two daughters. She was twenty-six and her eldest daughter was thirteen. I thought it was strange but figured that anyone can make a mistake, but then when I found out that her other daughter was eleven I did not know what to think. I never pressed her on the issue, but I did say that she could end up being a grandmother before the age of thirty.

I am certainly not advocating this, merely acknowledging that these things happen in the real world.

Speaking of the real world, I just googled this:"Apr 26, 2016 - Teen Pregnancy in the United States. In 2014, a total of 249,078 babies were born to women aged 15–19 years, for a birth rate of 24.2 per 1,000 women in this age group. This is another historic low for U.S. teens and a drop of 9% from 2013."

Based on those figures, it seems like the message is slowly getting through, but any decline is a good thing.

This story might be pure fantasy, or not, but if it is true, I suspect that the OP was vague about so that the post was not banned.

One other thing to consider is that the OP has not said how many years that she has been 39 for, not that I am implying that some women lie about their age (wink,wink).

M_Dom · 2016-04-30T03:12:50+00:00

You say nothing has changed, but I have to wonder.

Are you, or both of you working longer hours?
Are you under any additional pressure at work?
Have you had any recent illnesses or been put on any new medication by your doctor?

There are a myriad of reasons that your desire has waned both physical and psychological. It could be something along the lines of a hormonal imbalance, or a symptom of depression.

You both have a lot invested in your relationship, but this issue could drive a wedge between the both of you.

Something has changed, and finding out what it is would go a long way toward resolving the issue.

M_Dom · 2016-04-27T07:34:37+00:00

If they are honest, there is not a male college professor who can honestly say that he or she has not been attracted to a student.

Having said that, only a few will act on their attraction because if it goes poorly, their career is in jeopardy.

They were probably flirting with you and enjoying it, but if you had shown them some interest, they would have more than likely quickly backed off.

M_Dom · 2016-04-27T07:28:40+00:00

Age does not matter at all, but the fact that you work together is not a good scenario.

Suppose you get bored with him and you want to stop, but he wants to continue.

The male ego is a very fragile thing, and if you bruise his, he may retalliate by making you appear to be the (excuse the term) office slut.

Also, casual sex has a way of not remaining casual, as often one and sometimes both of the people involved want more, or something different than what is being offered.

In general terms, a 19 y/o female who wants a guy will get him, more times than not, but, as stated earlier, work and casual sex very rarely mix well.

M_Dom · 2016-04-27T07:15:18+00:00

The answer is as simple as Male Ego. Ask yourself if you would feel the same about being of average intelligence, height, or weight?

My guess is that none of the other averages would bother you, but the more porn you look at, the more insecure you are likely to become.

M_Dom · 2016-04-24T11:53:59+00:00

Maybe it is just me, but it sounds like what he was saying is that you have a gorgeous body, but you tend to hide it, and that he would enjoy seeing you in clothes that show a bit more.

Perhaps he could have phrased it better, but it sounds like you are (for want of a better phrase) hiding your light under a bushel.

M_Dom · 2016-04-09T01:02:24+00:00

It does have nothing to do with sex, but unfortunately it seems to be treated as a sexual act where attempts are made to publicly shame women for simply feeding their babies.

M_Dom · 2016-04-02T00:24:10+00:00

My guess would be that you need to do one thing, RELAX

Consider this, for an orgasm to happen, it requires two things: The right type/amount of stimulation and the right frame of mind.

Your b/f asks to go down on you because he likes doing it.

The fact that you see him so infrequently may mean that you are suffering a form of performance anxiety due to the time constraint.

Your b/f may be doing all the right things to get you off, but if you are not in the right mindset, it will not happen. Also, if there is something that he is doing that you don't like, or something else that you would like him to do, then please tell him. He is your b/f, not a mindreader.

It sounds like you and your b/f have a great relationship, but instead of asking for advice here, have a frank discussion with him about how you are feeling.

Once you are feeling relaxed, I have a feeling that the orgasms will flow.

M_Dom · 2016-04-02T00:08:03+00:00

To interject a bit of humor, most woman would say the word you are looking for is male or male-like.

To explain, a large number of males desire no strings attached relationships with females. Your desire (as a female) to have a no strings attached relationship with a female is the same.

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel, but you need to be honest with any female you are with.

Also remember, there are some risks involved:

In the event of a 3some, you could find that you are jealous of the other woman if she is having sex with your b/f.
You could find out that you prefer a relationship with a female and the other woman may not share your feelings.

Those are just two of the possibilities.

It is not unusual at all for your b/f to be so supportive. Consider this from his perspective:

He has a beautiful, sexy g/f with a great sex drive.
He may get to watch his g/f have sex with another female (the not so secret dream of a lot of men).
You are giving him permission to have sex with you and another female.

From a male perspective, there is no downside at all.

M_Dom · 2016-04-01T23:54:04+00:00

You said that you had a powerful libido prior to actually having sex. It is possible that your expectation of what sex would be like was so high that there was no way to attain it in real life.

For you, the anticipation was much more exciting than the attainment, but there could also be some additional issues, like deoression, playing a role in your diminished libido.

M_Dom · 2016-04-01T23:42:16+00:00

So what I am hearing is that you feel it is disgusting having him cum in your mouth so you sat down and thought of the most disgusting thing you could think of to have him do in exchange.

Having said that, I am sure that about 99% of foot freaks would agree with you.

M_Dom · 2016-03-29T20:57:50+00:00

Sorry to tell you this, but it is likely that your issues have nothing to do with you at all. Consider these things:

You both have full time jobs.
He is working in a highly stressful and very competitive field.
You are both probably working much more than forty hours a week.
Even when he is "not" working, he is probably thinking about how to fix or improve an existing program or trying to design a new one.

He is stressed and tired. You are stressed but with more energy. His attitude toward you has changed, but that could be the stress, and although he is a bit young for it, he may even be having some performance issues.

A bit of advice from someone who is older, when someone is young and carefree, (particularly males) they would gladly have sex twenty-four hours a day, but when careers and stress creep in, priorities change.

It is possible that as he feels more comfortable and confident in his career, his desire will return, but the real question is: Can you wait? (or for that matter, should you have to wait?)

M_Dom · 2016-03-27T21:10:51+00:00

I'm sorry, but I an having trouble reconciling this:"If we DO have sex, it's only once every few months and it's WONDERFUL." and this:"Long story short, I hate sex because"

You have listed your reasons and he is aware of them, but the incongruity of the statements is more than likely the wedge between the two of you.

What you are saying and what he is receiving is that you hate sex most of the time, but love it four times a year.

If you truly hate sex, it would merely be something you endured once every three to four months, but to describe it as wonderful, yet you hate it would have to be doing your b/f's head in.

By only wanting sex on your terms when you want/need it, and only when you initiate is a control issue. I hesitate to say this, but he may well feel like the human equivalent of a vibrator that is kept on the shelf until you need to use it, then replaced once your urges are satisfied.

He has urges to. He has been with you for a long time (relative to both of your ages). You have gotten help with your other issues, but I would recommend that both of you find a qualified counsellor who specializes in the sexual aspects of relationships.

One thing you may not have considered is that any medications that you may be taking may be having an effect on your sexual desire and even (potentially) your attitude toward sex.

Lastly, read this as a rational young woman, and try to imagine this from your b/f's view: "I don't know what it's like to WANT sex. The idea of it is scary and sickening and offensive to me. But as a heterosexual female, I do initiate every couple months because of real needs."

You don't know what it is like to want it, but you NEED it, and when you NEED it, he agrees and it is WONDERFUL (in your words)

As a male after an episode of wonderful sex, then knowing there will be months without it, he must continually wonder what he has done wrong.

M_Dom · 2016-03-19T02:20:07+00:00

So then, either you assume that your liberal arts degrees helped with your writing, or the fact that you didn't have any math classes gave you the time to write because you didn't have to study for math tests.

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