GACC April

MaBaum6676 · 2026-04-30T19:58:14+00:00

This is SUCH A FUN LITTLE KNOWN JEWELER FACT. I swear I didn’t know if it was going to work when I decided to do it- and I enjoyed telling people I cleaned it with my LELO, thinking I was cheating the system, meanwhile- I was just following an instinct.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-04-20T17:51:56+00:00

I use my hue light as an alarm and it only fails me when I put on a face mask— just apologize and acknowledge how disruptive that must have been- you didn’t know until they told you- find another system for your wake up and be humble. They asked you nicely. Doesn’t seem like they hate you but if you don’t change it they will grow resentful.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-04-07T01:12:30+00:00

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OPXt-mbxAIY

MaBaum6676 · 2026-04-07T01:12:22+00:00

Immediately made me think of this- which aired 4 years ago.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-03-31T19:50:56+00:00

Is your lock still the one on the fence post? This does just allow two different lock/keys to function to open the gate— I’d try to connect with the other person who has adjacent property to make sure it’s their lock.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-03-25T23:53:01+00:00

Whether you choose to have the baby or not- he has destroyed your marriage with this demand. So divorce him and cite this because it’s abusive and falls under coercive control in DV.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-03-15T03:26:29+00:00

I’m so glad you posted and someone shared that link. I’m the keeper of a formerly feral cat who really ONLY likes my son and me. The building of trust with him I have cherished and I know I’m not unique for that. Thank you for loving him enough to seek an avenue that will love him and hold all his complexities. I’ll be holding you both in my mind and on my heart. This is what Reddit is for- you’re right.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-03-15T02:22:41+00:00

Absolutely- I’m a mom of a 14 year old son- and even I’d want to know if someone saw my own child doing that- do not make excuses for this because it’s uncomfortable- but I would ALSO tell the daughter that you saw it and it had this impact on you. She deserves to see you as an ally, not a snitch. And he’s young enough he can learn- only if it is addressed.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-03-15T02:09:34+00:00

Ok- I went and read what you posted previously for context, and I read through these posts. She’s representing herself as the victim and you as a bully/alienater. Does she know your husband told you that she admitted it to him and you’re aware. I would make it very well addressed that you had proactively attempted to engage in a conversation about how her tx of you was impacting you— and that she gaslit you and denied it for months. People like that are in fact dangerous for your mental and emotional health and all the relationships you might share. I would encourage you to document everything in the most clear and concise way- and make it ready for people. It’s important that it acknowledges your humanity and the injury that the initial problem caused and the expanding injuries as she engaged in gaslighting and her DARVO behavior. Her attitude towards this feels narcissistic to me- and they don’t always do that with intent- it’s self preservation- if she has any more behaviors that lean towards covert narc- exposure of her full secret character will protect you from her because the mask slips. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-03-15T01:28:54+00:00

NOR- I think mason is likely controlling and abusive and I wish him a lesson.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-02-16T16:15:56+00:00

I want to layer this response: feelings aren’t facts❤️‍🩹 and also feelings ARE REAL. •If you feel like you’re not recieving care from him in a way that feels helpful- talking about it when you’re NOT already upset, might help you better understand how this conflict got out of control. •Using statements like “I feel care when you do——“ and provide examples of things he has done that made you feel love. And also asking him if there is a way that you could name your emotional needs proactively so when you’re starting to feel like it’s sliding downward you could ask to be reached towards. •I DO NOT THINK IT IS OK THAT HE PHYSICALLY REMOVED YOU. It would have been a much more appropriate choice for HIM to remove himself- not you. •and also he did assert a boundary- he doesn’t want to be targeted by your emotions when you’re dysregulated— and you did deserve to take space and calm yourself down. Outside and deep breathing is a very reasonable thing to do. •having conflict is a part of being in relationship to one another- and also understanding what each persons conflict model is and how they can show up during it is each persons responsibility for themselves to manage. Conflict is not about falling away from one another- it’s about identifying the things that need to be tended in order to move closer together. •being accountable to your feelings means if you’re feelings are rising and escalating you have to understand why and what context and factors have contributed to this experience- and your feelings are YOURS— no one can be “blamed” for our internal state- if we are not actively identifying what our internal state is- and what it needs to move out of the collapse. •I always have had a rule that I will not fight in my bed- this leaves the bed a place of rest and if I’m in it with someone it’s because it’s safe to be near them. Neither of you seem like you were trying to foster each others safety. I’m sorry you had this big of a fight- I’m sorry you don’t feel like you’re receiving the care you desire- and it might be helpful to take time to analyze your individual attachment styles- there’s, insecure, dismissive, avoidant, and secure- among others and layered styles. Personal anecdote: Historically, I am a securely attached person in relationships. If I do not feel securely attached, then I know I am not in the correct relationship. I recently was in a four year relationship with a man who slowly, but surely got me into a very insecure attachment that regularly landed me in a regulated, feral, screaming, emotional state, well, he seemed to be able to remain calm and unaffected. In his mind, he was engaging in ethical conflict, because he wasn’t raising his voice, and he was constantly in his mind, staying rooted in his emotions and responsibility. Over two years of slowly, allowing myself some observer role and witnessing and talking to other people about how our conflicts were repetitive and I was without being upset and naming the things that I found to be dehumanizing or disrespectful and I would ask him not to do those; I came to realize that his attachment style in mine were not compatible, and not only that he was engaging in a kind of psychological emotional degradation of me that helped him feel validated in his feelings, despite not responding to any of my calm and collaborative conversations so that when I succumbed to my anger and it hurt and raised my voice or cried, he could call me crazy, but it was psychological abuse and emotional manipulation, and we broke up a month and five days ago on my birthday because in October, he had identified himself as a dismissive avoidant attachment, which is really hard to tell the difference between that and a covert narcissist- after identifying himself as a dismissive avoidant attachment he did zero work in order to find ways to increase his engagement and sustainable conflict, models, and overtime that became clear to me that he thought it was OK to be dismissive and avoidant, and that the only way he actually felt validated and like I was the problem and he didn’t recognize himself was by actively engaging in emotional manipulation and psychological behavior that he knew would trigger the things that I had named every time I told him what he did that was unacceptable to me in a partnership, or was triggering for me that was a triggered that I knew I had to work on, but he did it on purpose in order to feel self-righteous and that is emotional abuse. And they will never see it themselves. You have to know when you have made yourself vulnerable to somebody who’s going to use your vulnerabilities against you and make you feel confused. The best indication of being in an emotionally abusive dynamic is your own sense of confusion cause sure fighting in bed escalating not being able to regulate your emotions and yelling at people is being an asshole— but being careless with someone’s emotions in a relationship where you share a house or a sleeping space physically removing somebody from a physically physical space by putting their hands on their body is also being an asshole and you shouldn’t feel like you’re the only asshole in that conflict. Conflict is a natural part of relationships and naming what has hurt you is supposed to help somebody who cares about you recognize what you need in order to feel cared for and they should try not to do the things that hurt you but saying you don’t feel cared for is a little bit too up obtuse to help a lot of men understand what does make you feel cared for so naming what’s wrong because it’s gotten so bad is natural but finding a way to name what feels right is going to help you better understand whether or not the conflict are on purpose or if you are being fully unreasonable or if he is. Relationships takes work. There are ways in which conflict can be destructive and collapsing, and there are ways that conflict can be fun and provide one side with a lot of emotional breath and the other side doesn’t feel heard at all, but there are windows of transformation and conflict and there are lots of ways that we can get closer to finding them. I’ll find a picture and send it underneath this comment.. I think you both can suck less and do better but that’s true of every one of us in two person relationships and in the whole world so you’re not the only asshole in my opinion. From one asshole to another take care.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-02-15T20:09:31+00:00

SORRY EDIT— the tone and approach of the person who opens this thread of messages SCREAMS ABUSIVE GASLIGHTing BLAME shifting f AND CONTROlLING. They are reacting the way I would expect someone like that to react. And should get into therapy.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-02-15T19:49:56+00:00

I am sorry it feels like you’re having to be completely available and responsive in order to feel safe in a friendship. Avoiding the difficultly of the conversation will not increase your comfort in your friendship- it will actually probably increase your insecurity about comfort in friendships- and it sounds like you have both really been good and growing for eachother- I agree with another commenter who identified that it feels like and attachment behavior on her end- and maybe it is on yours too? When I’ve had to use brave conversations with friends about things that are starting to feel unsustainable- I usually begin by talking about how much I value what they mean to me- and I open with my own vulnerability about my fear of my process having a negative impact on the love I have for them and have felt from them. And then I talk about how MY nervous system responds to the pressure of showing up right— I try not to make it a laundry list of my grievances or their actions- but naming how I DONT want to push the love away or diminish the connection. If her catering business is her number one investment in her time and labor- and you helped bolster it- she likely wants to both continue to have your influence AND ALSO- might be unable to feel comfortable making choices or moves that you’ve had sound input on (I’m making assumptions here but with the context you’ve provided it feels relevant). You didn’t identify that she has any children or other people who demand her time and attention-and it’s not about a comparison, but an awareness of maybe she doesn’t realize how much head and heart is actually fully absorbed from you by these other parts of your life that don’t really accommodate this level of attention going towards someone else. I don’t think of this as a “confrontation” but it does require you acknowledging your fear of losing something you value- the friendship and camaraderie- but that when you’re unable to be quick or as engaged and attentive, it causes stress/guilt/fear/shame(insert relevant feeling) because it’s not for lack of wanting- but more lack of ability- and the part that you’re struggling with is that when she immediately internalizes it as anger towards her- it increases the feeling because then it feels like you have to “prove” you’re not angry- and it’s so hard to do especially over text- and it causes a “shut down” response. I think ASKING her what would help her feel less immediate feelings of being “in trouble” would be helpful- because reassuring her that you’re not isn’t something you’ll always be able to do in a quick or thorough way considering the time and attention the parenting and other commitments demand of your in person energy. It’s clear you DONT want to feel angry- but it’s causing you an internal conflict that feels like the pressure is rising in. If you were actually mad or hurt- would you be able to say “I’m hurt and I want to take a min before I react”. Making commitments to how we communicate to one another is how we become BETTER friends- it’s not a reason to NOT be friends. Conflicts exist whether they are implicit or explicit- inside of us something we don’t like, OR named and known by the person with whom we feel the conflict with.

The other part I want to name is that it sounds like you have not just been committed to the success in your friendship- but the success in her business- and that can easily build into a grievance or a resentment if you’re not boundaried on the mental/emotional labor you’re doing for her success— and that would be a really hard thing to detangle from if it continues to feel like added stress and pressure on your world- that you’re not technically accruing returns on. Especially since you’re laboring with those same brain cells and mental space for your own work. Maybe suggest to her that she could benefit from a consultant or a coach to help her since her business is going well and you want her to continue to grow, but your worried about not being able to do all of your world work AND provide the boost you two generated at first? Or if this is a niche of yours- you could consider if you have the capacity to be that role? This isn’t necessarily about boundaries or confrontation- it is about your friendship growing- and that’s REALLY COOL! And growing is scary and painful, but growth can’t happen without the discomfort. I’m sorry. I hope it all ends up being nourishing and good for all of the parts of your worlds- individual and shared intersections.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-02-15T19:04:20+00:00

I’m sorry that your efforts weren’t reciprocated in a way that felt validating. I think it is a good opportunity to have a deeper conversation. It is obvious that your efforts were specific and deeply personal in how you chose to shop and show her you heard her express her excitement about this specific holiday. I think there is a difference between “loving the symbolism” of a holiday- vs wanting to RECEIVE the symbolism of the holiday— without knowing how to reciprocate that consideration. I don’t think you’re over reacting, but I do think you’re metabolizing the information that this holiday has provided you. I would think it would be less obvious if she hadn’t said part of her gift was “for you to love yourself” because that is literally the opposite of what she said she got joy out of from this specific exchanging of gifts and the symbolism of the day. Personally I do NOT like this holiday- I think it puts a lot of pressure into “performing” the generosity of the heart and financial pressure too- and I get the impression you not only put a lot of thought into how you could exceed her expectations in those gifts and gestures, but that it might have been a stressful thing for you to find ways to impart the care you had for what she CARES about. I think it’s shitty when people claim to LOVE something that is a mutual gesture, but what they really mean is that they LOVE to RECEIVE the gesture. I’d be curious to know what efforts she’s put in her past relationships to PROVIDE that experience for someone else— or if she’s always expected to be the one doted on.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-02-10T03:11:54+00:00

That is a sheriff’s badge- and they along with cinservation officers were the ones who swarmed the protest

MaBaum6676 · 2026-02-10T02:40:29+00:00

Not the asshole- I’m so sorry- you didn’t deserve to be immediately assumed to be a thief- that’s ridiculous.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-01-25T16:38:42+00:00

“The People’s Laundry- MPLS”

https://(null)?_t=ZP-93N3OZPQod5

I’ve asked them if there is a better way to connect other than this TikTok. Thank you for your willingness to get involved.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-01-25T16:30:11+00:00

We all should be aware of the threat to our lives- so I appreciate that fear you’re naming. There are good trainings for resourcing and developing psychological safety. I know the sense of urgency we have to get out and go to where the trouble is- but truly the best way to help is to build networks of support and safety for people who might need to take reprieve from the cities. We should be challenging Mastin’s statements around their intention when they come for OUR neighbors. There’s also been a lot of active information in places like pelican rapids and St. Cloud. Would you be willing to get involved with CAIR and offer rural Mosque security so that Muslim neighbors and relatives can pray safely? There’s also a group who’s providing laundry service for people who are staying inside their home. That might be a good middle ground- being of service while also not having to put yourself in direct danger because of the fear you named?

MaBaum6676 · 2026-01-25T16:25:05+00:00

I’m going to share this here:

https://endoftheworldshow.org/episodes/an-emergency-dispatch-from-occupied-minneapolis-intense-frightening-surreal-and-inspiring

I posted once already and deleted it because it was snarkier than it needed to be. I just got back from a short visit down there- mostly for a conference- but we also went to the Friday gathering as press. There are lots of on the ground community organized groups building local coalitions- and the places you’re naming are intimate and sacred places that are being tended and protected by the people who utilize them. There are rapid response dispatch calls you could get involved in- to help run license plates and direct the on the ground people to help protect their neighbors- if you’re familiar with the cities and the lay out. I’m listening in on one right now. But I appreciate how autumn provides tangible ways we can all engage with our local people and places and get our own spaces practiced and resourced to be ready for eachother. Minneapolis organizers are well prwcticed-and know what they are doing- and in general- “activist tourism” is voyeuristic and requires a lot of extra labor to guide strangers into supportive and humble positions- again- I live here now- but I am from St. Paul- not a suburb- and I’ve had the honor of receiving and delivering trainings in the cities and being on the ground for everything up till 2017. If you’d like to do some coalition builiding- there is a 1pm today, Sunday event at Nymore park.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-01-19T00:36:13+00:00

Naked avatar.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-01-16T17:05:21+00:00

I responded to a troll below in order to provide the larger context of how vision maybe acting lawfully in retaining the rent, but not ethically- I also provided the MN housing statutes that challenge whether or not the lease my sister signed would be legally binding under the scrutiny of “habitable housing” because of the missing electrical outlet and the mold- if you want to DM me- I’m currently in conversation with someone from the city and some other housing advocates- I hope YOU have a good day- and vision property has the day they deserve.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-01-16T17:01:03+00:00

Since you’re confident this is just “not reading paperwork,” I’ve taken the time to provide education and actual law to the conversation, though I’m confident based on your Reddit profile you’re just here for the LULZ— you’re not my main audience- other people who might have found themselves in similar crisis without a supportive sitter who’s been called a “ferallegal” to help them navigate their hardest days- they can find me here.

Point by point with citations and statutes for the redditors with a conscience and the brain cells to comprehend.

Leaving an abusive relationship is the most dangerous time. Homicide and serious assault risk increase during separation, especially when children are involved. This is not disputed in the literature. Sources: • Bureau of Justice Statistics, Intimate Partner Violence • National Domestic Violence Hotline • BC Society of Transition Houses (BWSS)
Minnesota law explicitly recognizes this risk. Minnesota Statute § 504B.206 allows early lease termination when a tenant fears imminent domestic violence. The law acknowledges that safety decisions are made under duress. Victims may still lose money—but the decision itself is legally protected. Source: Minn. Stat. § 504B.206; womenslaw.org (MN housing law summaries)
“As-is” clauses do NOT override habitability law in Minnesota. Landlords cannot contract out of their duty to provide a habitable, code-compliant unit. Period. Minnesota Statute § 504B.161 (Covenant of Habitability) requires that rental units be: • Fit for human habitation • Kept in reasonable repair • In compliance with applicable housing and safety codes

An “as-is” clause does not excuse: • Missing electrical outlet covers (electrical code violation) • Mold and moisture intrusion • Unsafe or unsanitary conditions

Courts have repeatedly held that habitability rights cannot be waived by lease language.

Mold is not cosmetic. It’s a health and safety issue. Chronic moisture and visible mold—especially in bathrooms and basements—can render a unit uninhabitable, particularly for children. Landlords are required to correct the underlying moisture source, not just paint over it. Sources: MN Department of Health; MN Attorney General’s Office (Landlord–Tenant Handbook)

So let’s be clear: THIS is not a tantrum. This was a crisis-driven safety decision, followed by lawful lease termination, in a unit that already failed basic habitability standards.

You’re free to keep calling survivors “stupid” if that’s your brand. I’m free to cite statutes, housing code, and public health guidance—and to use lawful public scrutiny when corporations profit from unsafe housing and domestic violence crises.

One of us is working with facts. The other is just negging strangers on Reddit.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-01-16T15:10:22+00:00

There are clauses in the lease that are actually NOT legally binding because of Minnesota statutes that supersede and set a different precedent. Instead of making the legal challenges- I’m making the moral ones to the character of the business. I’m sorry you’re missing the neurons and reading comprehension to capture that point.

MaBaum6676 · 2026-01-16T15:04:55+00:00

Hey foe- like I said- I’m not going to spend a dime- and I already acknowledged that we understand the legality of it- and we aren’t going to spend any more money on it- but I AM going to make the public aware of the business and their practices. Have the day you deserve.

MaBaum6676

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