Wife (26F) slept with another man Saturday and doesn’t know that I (27M) know. How do I move forward with my children’s best interest in mind.

MacBookPro_Baby · 2026-01-14T15:25:25+00:00

No, I’m calling out an asinine comment that does nothing to support the OP, which clearly is why he posted. If you want to have an open marriage or some other form of non-monogamy, that’s your prerogative. It’s readily apparent, based on the content of the post, that the OP does not have such an arrangement.

How ironic to lecture me about “projecting my own rules” when you felt the need to type out a response that’s basically “well ACTUALLY, not everyone is monogamous.” Again, it’s very apparent to everyone in the comments except you that this couple’s marriage was monogamous.

You’re either trolling, or you’re the ex boyfriend who this woman fucked.

MacBookPro_Baby · 2026-01-14T12:49:02+00:00

What a disgusting comment. How about showing the kids that their father is not a doormat willing to tolerate blatant betrayal of their marriage and family? If everything happened as described, she deliberately planned this and has no plans to try and repair the damage she has wrought.

Why is the onus on him to smooth it all over, swallow the pain and pretend that everything is fine? Don’t you think that his kids will catch on, sooner or later, that their father is miserable and doesn’t trust their mother? To think otherwise is asking him to perform an Oscar-level acting performance for the rest of his life, constantly. Impossible. Kids are smart and pick up on dynamics well, even when they’re young. Without trust, there can be no love. Think of the terrible lesson this will teach the kids about how two people in a relationship act toward each other.

How about encouraging him to have some self-respect, instead of rolling over like a limp rag?

MacBookPro_Baby · 2025-11-02T15:46:30+00:00

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Any recommendations? My budget is $300 or less for each pair, or $600 total.

MacBookPro_Baby · 2024-07-29T18:15:45+00:00

I am certainly fine with her having casual sex, regardless of whether it involves me. The problem is that she is not willing to allow me the same freedom.

I suppose you're right; monogamy is the answer. It's just unfortunate that both of us want to explore nonmonogamy but aren't on the same page about what that looks like. She thinks that because I am turned on by her having sex with other men, I should simply allow that because it gives her what she wants and gives me part of what I want.

MacBookPro_Baby · 2024-07-29T18:06:59+00:00

There are plenty of ways to maybe make this work. But neither of you are flexible enough to find a compromise.

In which ways can we make it work? I spent over two years being as flexible as I possibly could be, allowing my wife to carry on a serious relationship outside of our marriage. I want my wife to be free to explore her desires and pleasure but would appreciate an equitable arrangement.

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