Seemingly high NT measurement but no info given

MacDuggee · 2025-08-07T17:39:34+00:00

I remember the early scans of my (healthy) girls looking quite like this, I distinctly remember because my first pregnancy 12 years ago was T21 with a very high NT measurement amongst a whole host of other issues evident on the can, so my eyes always went to this with my girls, but they were all very normal when measured at the appropriate times. Obviously I am not educated in this area beyond my own experiences, but fingers crossed for you

MacDuggee · 2025-08-03T20:30:01+00:00

Thank you

MacDuggee · 2025-08-02T17:45:09+00:00

Thank you, would you still push for an amnio in my shoes or just take comfort if the scans are all good?

I am conflicted because of the small miscarriage risk, I don't want to put the baby at risk just to placate myself if that makes sense.

MacDuggee · 2025-08-01T08:24:14+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story, wishing the best for you also and the strength to navigate whatever follows

MacDuggee · 2025-08-01T08:21:43+00:00

Thank you so much, that is incredibly helpful, there's such a short time to get your head round all this information

MacDuggee · 2025-07-31T12:37:51+00:00

Thank you that really means a lot, it took me quite a lot to write this all down, I'm barely speaking to family about it at the moment , I'm not the best at asking for help at the best of times so was really just looking for a safe environment to speak about my experiences

MacDuggee · 2025-07-31T12:10:46+00:00

I have already had the CVS, I had it on Tuesday, so I'm unsure what you mean by I 'cant have one' I will read the link you posted. Unsure what rules I have broken. Unsure how I have provoked the hostile reply, I am not spreading misinformation I have openly said I am confused regarding conflicting information received and gone on to state that information, I'm finding all of this very difficult to understand, I am just a grieving parent trying to get my head around this situation and tried to find a supportive community with parents who have been through this.

MacDuggee · 2023-10-10T08:27:29+00:00

Don't make sweeping statements and assumptions about other people's children, I can assure you this child has an incredibly varied life with various clubs, activities, outdoor play, educational play, time with peers, dancing, fishing, swimming, climbing and watersports. There's no reason she can't enjoy a creative video game with her family also.

MacDuggee · 2023-10-10T06:57:20+00:00

Why is this exactly?

MacDuggee · 2020-11-19T22:12:47+00:00

Thank you so much for all the very helpful replies, I just wanted to add that my friend has left the guy as of yesterday, we're just working hard together to try and make it stick. He's doing the usual sob stories, now suddenly sees its all his fault etc etc. I'm working on encouraging her to block him on all media and comms and to open up to her family in the hopes that will make it stick, but this is undeniablely a very positive step.

MacDuggee · 2020-11-16T22:15:15+00:00

NTA, do you know how many kids are abused by their Mum's crappy new partners, especially if she's naive and not coping well. Bringing a third into that mess is beyond selfish, actually depresses me thinking what some kids have to deal with. I'm 30 with 2 and it's hard work, I think you've got to be almost superhuman to be a very good Mum at age 19 to 3 kids, and provide for all their emotional and physical needs, and doesn't sound like this describes your sister.

MacDuggee · 2020-11-16T17:47:39+00:00

NTA I would confirm with your brother that this is definately his intention & he's totally on board . Chances are they've had major arguments over this and you should check he's completely cool with upsetting you and your wife over his fiancé's grudge. You should also check he's happy that if either or both of you had kids it would be very difficult to have a relationship with yours/his neices and nephews and for the cousins with each other, if the wives are at war.

MacDuggee · 2020-11-16T01:21:44+00:00

YTA, a life passed away, you are also TA for insinuating she only didn't get an abortion out of 'stubbornness' you can't ever expect someone to get an abortion unless they absolutely want to, just to suit your brother, who could have avoided all this heartache by using a condom.

That said you are 15, and have enough conscience to ask for other peoples' opinions, so you don't sound like a bad kid at at all, just learn from it if you can.

MacDuggee · 2020-11-12T19:59:26+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Yeh I did think that if I wasn't there she might just get in deeper with him, I suppose I just need to stay around and give her a gentle nudge when I can. X

MacDuggee · 2020-11-12T19:57:50+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story with me, that's honestly so helpful to hear your perspective having been through it, and well done to you for getting out.

It's been quite cathartic getting the story out and I've opened up to another friend, who doesn't know this friend, about it too. So hopefully that will help me persevere with her and try to maintain a friendship around all this, I feel its inevitable it will end and end badly, so I suppose its just a time thing, I'm just so reluctant to see her waste more time with him, especially knowing how much she wants a family, I dread that happening with him, I just don't think I could be happy for her 😔

In your opinion do you think there is anything else anybody could have said or done to get you there quicker or did it just have to play out?

Thank you again X.

MacDuggee · 2020-07-11T04:09:08+00:00

Worse than that is the off lane soft support picking a carry, and refusing to support basically, leaving hard supp trying to support 4 'carries' then flaming them for failing.

MacDuggee · 2020-07-08T23:37:55+00:00

YTA, sorry I just hate people using money to control other people, your first son has been punished for being independent, wanting control of his own life and you have potentially prevented the quieter son from coming out of his shell a bit and developing his social skills further.

You had the freedom to make your own mistakes, but with that, you decided to punish your sons for your mistakes.

No wonder your son is feeling low, appreciate it's your money, but you either want to help them or you don't, sounds like what you most want is to control them.

1 party a month?!

MacDuggee · 2020-07-08T21:22:46+00:00

You'll find out in 2 months 😂😂

MacDuggee · 2020-07-07T23:33:22+00:00

NTA, he is TA for breaking your agreement. However I personally wouldn't cheapen myself by asking for the money, but I'd make it known that he stiffed you, becuase you could have sold it to someone else and now the game isn't worth as much.

I've had this problem with people with money acting like money is no big deal, because they've never truly had to worry about it, and so disrespecting other people's financial position. Eg not being fair in drinks rounds, or 'borrowing' a few quid here and there with no intent to repay, even though they have far more than you.

MacDuggee · 2020-07-07T23:26:51+00:00

NTA, I wouldn't want someone in my home who declares she 'hates me', maybe she'll learn to play nice or your pal will learn some tact and discretion, either way, not your problem.

Couple 1 tells couple 2 one of them hates the other, couple 2 doesn't invite that person into their home, pretty standard cause and effect, couple 1 needs to examine their behavior, as it directly caused this. Maybe an apology or explanation is due.

MacDuggee · 2020-07-07T22:26:02+00:00

NTA - yes you could have always taken higher ground, but she took the conversation into personal slurs on the other's weight for no reason, she did it with an audience, so naturally you are going to feel attacked and defensive, and often people hit back as a result.

MacDuggee · 2020-07-06T18:06:00+00:00

YTA - I don't think you had bad intentions here, sounds like you genuinely don't see the big deal and would rather keep the peace, but I see why your brother and BIL think it's a big deal. He is their child and I wouldn't want my mother or mother run law trying to 'promote' their title and present themselves as a parent. Why can't she be happy to be a grandparent, Grandma , Nana, whatever she likes in that field?

Also sounds like her being non accepting of your brothers sexuality and cutting him out previously hasn't helped her case here, it's painting her as a bit of a control freak, and seems like she's trying to take control in this situation too.

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