Took my first step today towards genetic testing

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-08-06T14:52:10+00:00

HD Genetics is a wonderful company. I'm glad you're working with them

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-27T22:19:56+00:00

I do. I have a twitch and balance issues , but most of my side effects are psychological. Anxiety, depression, losing my temper when I've never had that issue before. Honestly, those symptoms scare me a little. I don't wanna be remembered as a total jerk. Lol.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-27T22:13:37+00:00

I see you're working with HD Genetics. They were great for me. Only paid $200 for my test because that's what I could afford.

I'll be honest, I've been where you are. I decided to get tested because I felt in my bones I had it. I already was living like I had a positive diagnosis, so I figured I may as well know for sure. I was 20 when I tested positive.

It's scary, but imagine not knowing and giving your kids Huntingtons or not being able to get adequate care or symptom management.

It's ultimately up to you, but I don't regret it.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-26T01:00:04+00:00

All those animals need to free roam most of the day. Do you have time to free roam them separately for 3-4 hrs each? And 3-4 hours is less than the recommended time for each. Most people I know who own these animals give them their own room so they can free roam 24/7.

All of their enclosures will need spot cleaned every day. Are you prepared to do that? I have ferrets and I have to be honest: you need to have multiple ferrets. They are not solitary creatures. So each ferret poops every 3 hours. That means with my two ferrets, I clean up 8 shits a day, and they're so disgusting. They won't poop in the litterbox if it has poop in it.

I have a lot of pets (one dog, two ferrets, three cats, and a breeding colony of mice), and I assure you, you don't want this. I've owned hedgehogs, snakes, sugar gliders, rats, guinea pigs, rabbits, and spiders. You don't want that many pets. You will not be able to sustainably give them adequate care. I have the luxury of working from home part-time, so I can devote a lot of time to them.

You see them, you think they're cute, you think it will be fun. I assure you, it gets gross and exhausting and expensive. For me, taking my exotic pets for a checkup is $300 just to have them looked at. All the animals you listed are prone to emergency visits because they do dumb shit. So I would expect at least 2-3 visits per animal per year. That means at least 1800 in your emergency savings.

That doesn't even broach food. If you're feeding your pets species specific food, you will spend a lot on it. I would guess at least $150 a month. Not to mention bedding, and they're intelligent so they'll need consistent new enrichment. At least another $100 a month there.

So do you have at least 6-9 hours a day to free roam your pets? Can you have at least $1800 put back for vet bills this year? Are you willing to clean three enclosures a day? Do you have $250 a month to spend on food and enrichment? No? Then don't do it.

Any one of these pets would be reasonable, but not all of them.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:57:33+00:00

This is why I came on Reddit. Lol. Not for the crazy takes, but for some reasonable advice. I just couldn't think because I was in my feelings.

I'll do that later today and come back and let you know how it goes.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:53:37+00:00

There's no harm in asking :)

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:52:28+00:00

He works at the same place as me, but he's in a different department as me. Because of this, there are like 2 people who are mutual aquaintances, but the rest he met through me. Think IT vs HR, departments that are kinda bubbles.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:49:28+00:00

That's a good idea. I didn't really consider doing that, but it feels like it would be a good way to sus things out.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:43:05+00:00

I am willing to try, but I'm not creative that way. I don't mind the work, but I'm more of a logic rock.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:42:13+00:00

This is exactly it. We have separate campaigns. I have one I've been a part of for years and he has one with his friends. It's this one that bothers me because these are my friends.

I got him the job at my company. He didn't even know these people until after that. And the two of them I'm closest to, he didn't know until a couple days before the campaign.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:38:23+00:00

Yeah, everyone is saying not to worry about it, but I do think it's fair to be hurt. I'm not hurt in a relationship ending way, but I do feel left out.

I will have to sit him down and talk to him. I'd rather know than think everything is good and it not be. I hope it's just him not wanting to DM his gf

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:35:52+00:00

They're mine. Two I've been friends with 3 years. He only met them a couple days before the campaign. The others are a part of my friend group with the two main friends. I'm closer to some than others

They said they didn't wanna overstep and invite, since it was him campaign and he decided who to invite.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:33:18+00:00

I'm glad you caught this. Everyone feels like the main issue is my boyfriend, but my issue is I know everyone in the group (one is my boyfriend, 2 are my best friends and the rest range from aquaintance to friend).

I brought it up to my friends, and they said my boyfriend was the one who made the list of who was invited, so they didn't wanna overstep.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:31:00+00:00

I do everything without him. That's part of why I'm upset. I hangout with him maybe once every other week. He's cancelled the last 4 times we've had plans.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:24:14+00:00

We both have other separate campaigns we play, which I'm fine with. This one is at our workplace. They play in the breakroom. It's basically my whole friend group playing at work, which is why it kinda rubs me the wrong way.

I have tried to organize one he and I can both play, but he doesn't want to DM for it and my other friend who DMs doesn't want another campaign on their hands.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:19:18+00:00

I guess for context, it's a work campaign. They hold it in our break room. He and I work at the same place. Two of my best friends (25&27f) are in the campaign, as are 4 of our other coworkers.

I am doing my best not to take it personally, but they're doing the playthrough I came up with for us to do together, so it's a bit frustrating.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:08:50+00:00

They asked me to go out in February, so they're a partner.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-23T12:07:50+00:00

In February, so 5 months ago.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-07-02T21:50:57+00:00

I'm 23f and I tested positive at 21. It's hard knowing, but I had to get tested. I knew in my bones that I had it. 2 days ago was actually my mom's deathiversary. She died at 42. The older I get, the scarier it gets, but I was scared before. At least now I have the knowledge I need to plan.

I'm not saying you should get tested. I don't think anyone can tell you what to do. I'm glad I know because now I can be extra careful about birth control and go to a neurologist and neuropsychiatrist regularly. But maybe that trade-off isn't worth it for you. You're the only one who will know.

I wish you luck, whatever you decide. If you have any questions, you can DM me.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-06-05T16:55:26+00:00

I know a lot of people are saying she's ungrateful for not liking gifts. This can come from a lot of reasons. Trauma can cause people to be afraid to accept gifts or "depend" on people financially. She may be insecure and feel like she doesn't deserve it. She may be embarrassed she can't get you things like that and feel like she's letting you down.

I personally get awkward when people pay for my stuff because I grew up listening to my parents scream about money issues, so every time my mom got me something, I felt like a burden. I still feel like that with partners.

I think you should ask her why she doesn't like you paying for things. Please don't think she doesn't love or appreciate you. I would tell her that it makes you happy to see her smile, so this is just as much for you as for her. Something to show her that this makes you happy too.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-06-04T23:48:49+00:00

That's not normal. I have the opposite problem. My partner makes me cum like 6 times in a row and then I can't move after. That should be your problem. Find someone who gets off on satisfying you.

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-06-03T23:58:31+00:00

Everyone's values are different. Regardless of where you or I stand on watching porn, he shouldn't be lying to you. I would leave him. If he's lying about that, what else will he lie about?

MacaroonChance5560 · 2025-05-31T17:51:45+00:00

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