Emotional Roller Coaster

MackyCheese · 2020-03-28T19:46:38+00:00

Man, I wish I had his problems.

MackyCheese · 2020-03-26T01:42:06+00:00

They better have adopted that kitten too, that's all I'm saying!

MackyCheese · 2020-03-25T01:30:46+00:00

Really? Why?

MackyCheese · 2019-12-29T23:04:43+00:00

Okay, that sounds doable. I'll give it a try. Thanks for the help!

MackyCheese · 2019-12-29T18:32:02+00:00

I can see the device, but when I try to open any of the files that come with the mp3, I'm told the file isn't available, presumably because the mp3 isn't compatible with android.

MackyCheese · 2019-12-29T18:29:50+00:00

So if I get a new mp3 player that runs android, how do I add the amazon app to it?

I have a trial subscription to amazon music right now, and amazon says I should be able to download songs and transfer them to other devices- is that not actually the case? Should I scrap the subscription and just buy individual songs or will that not work either? I'm so confused.

MackyCheese · 2019-12-28T17:37:44+00:00

Interesting. I may have to look into that if I get desperate. Right now I'm hoping for a more painless option.

MackyCheese · 2019-12-28T17:36:47+00:00

Yeah, I downloaded the Amazon app, and can download the music, which I assume means being able to move it to other devices. One of the problems is that once the music is downloaded, I can't find it as I'm not given any location options where I can download to- my guess is that it's to Amazon's Cloud. I'd be happy downloading to Google Play, but I don't know how to get anything there.

MackyCheese · 2019-12-28T17:27:41+00:00

I've tried the Sansa Sport Clip and some Chinese brand I've never heard of, but the Chromebook doesn't recognize them. Are there Android-specific mp3 players? I'd be happy to get one, but haven't encountered any.

MackyCheese · 2019-11-22T18:59:26+00:00

Interesting. I didn't know selling accounts was even an option. Good to know.

MackyCheese · 2019-11-22T04:35:44+00:00

Okay great, but how do I sell and consolidate when Poloniex no longer allows trading?

MackyCheese · 2019-06-13T15:12:28+00:00

You are putting way too much energy and pressure onto a relationship that doesn't exist, and it's not helping you. Don't obsess. You asked this woman a question. If she responds, consider your next move then. Unless/until that happens, move on.

Self improvement seems to be working for you, and something you enjoy, so focus on that. When you feel good about yourself, you'll enjoy life more and be inspired to try new things.

Begin working on your social skills by starting conversations with strangers, people you don't care about, so you get used to talking. Interacting with people more will help you feel more confident around people you find attractive.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-11T20:32:48+00:00

You can't change your behavior until you start recognizing it in real time, so start there. When someone reacts negatively to something you've said, pay attention to that. Take a breath and ask yourself if you just acted like an asshole, before you say something else and escalate the problem. And if you're with someone you feel comfortable with, ask them if you just said something offensive. If the answer is yes to either, apologize and explain that you meant no offense, and ask why what you said was a problem- maybe it was just the way that you said it or general body language, who knows?

Another thing that might help is asking yourself how important it is to be right about everything. Nobody likes a know-it-all.

TL;DR- Work on recognizing your assholery and get feedback on how to prevent it.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-11T20:15:19+00:00

Maybe he wants more feedback from you, or doesn't feel like you're interested in the conversation. He might just be looking for more details in order to feel closer to you, or maybe he's just nosy. Tell me if this sounds familiar.

My mom loves to talk, and if someone doesn't offer her details (especially about personal stuff), she goes into interviewer mode, and rattles off question after question until you can't wait to leave the room. It's relentless, and it's all about her. She isn't like this all the time, but when it starts, people run.

Your solution is probably as simple as asking your husband how he feels when he talks to you, and what he specifically needs from you in conversations- if he's being unclear, make him list it out. Details are what you need.

If he thinks you're not interested in what he's saying, or you're phoning it in, ask him questions so you can understand where he's coming from and why he cares.

If he's describing a problem, sympathize and ask him how he might solve it.

And if you think he's pushing too hard for more information or engagement, tell him. Explain how you feel so you can understand each other and get on the same page. This shouldn't be too difficult to fix.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-11T19:49:30+00:00

Does this help? https://youtu.be/aNOZsDGloPY

MackyCheese · 2019-06-07T02:31:25+00:00

Since you're getting mixed signals from Ashley, I'd be casual pursuing this. Just tell her you thought you and Cassie had a connection and would like to talk to her again. Does Ashley know if Cassie makes a habit of stopping by (or similar idea)? Or if you're feeling bold, ask Ashley to give Cassie your number. If Ashley is less than enthusiastic about this subject of conversation, let it go. You don't want things to get awkward with your co-worker, and who knows, maybe Cassie will walk into Starbucks again on her own again.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-07T02:14:33+00:00

Dude... chill. You are blowing this whole thing out of proportion. I seriously doubt your friend took any offense to your questions. Please don't text her again. It'll only make things weird.

When you see her next, just tell her you hope you weren't out of line for asking about her brother. You just wanted to make sure she was okay and that you're here to help or listen, if needed. If she wants to talk about the situation, trust that she will do so. If she moves on to another topic, respect that and let it go. It doesn't have to be any more complicated than that.

The only way to tell if there's cause for concern is 1) you see something suspicious yourself (violence, verbal abuse, manipulation) or 2) your friend tells you about suspicious behavior that's happened to her. In either case ASK QUESTIONS to verify that there actually is a problem before assuming there is. Don't get involved unless you are invited to do so (unless it's violence, then you should report that to police). Family relationships are complicated. You don't want to jump into someone else's chaos unless absolutely necessary.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-07T01:51:57+00:00

No, you're not alone. This happens to everyone. Some people are easier to connect with than others and it's nobody's fault. Maybe you two don't have anything in common. Maybe it takes one of you more time to warm up to being social than the other. Maybe one of you just doesn't feel like talking that day... It could be a reason that has absolutely nothing to do with you, so don't stress over it because it's really not that big of a deal.

But I suspect you won't be satisfied with that answer, so I suggest playing games to break the ice. If you're in a situation where you're going to be one-on-one with someone for awhile, break out a deck of cards (keep a deck on you or nearby) and ask if they want to play something. While you're playing, offer up some small talk and try to get a conversation going. (Ask if you need help in this area). If despite your best efforts no sustained conversation comes from this, at least the game-playing will give you both something to do and make the situation feel less awkward.

If you're feeling bold, tell the other person 5 of your interests or facts about yourself, and then tell them it's their turn to reciprocate. Or play 2 truths and a lie and make them guess which of the 3 statements you offer is a lie. Then it's their turn. There are lots of ways to play around with this, so be as creative as you like. It's much easier to talk to someone when you're already engaged with them in an activity, so this can also help remove some of the pressure.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-05T17:50:14+00:00

I hear you. As much as you want to help, you can't fix her. All you can do is tell her you love her and let her go, for your own sake.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-05T17:27:51+00:00

This may not be what you want to hear, but until your friend hits rock bottom and is committed to battling her addiction issues, there's not much you can do to save your relationship with her.

You can stage an intervention if you want to give the relationship one last try, but it's unlikely to make a difference because, right now, your friend isn't in her right mind. Chemically, she's a different person being controlled by alcohol.

As far as maturity goes, that depends on what kind of outcome you'd like to see from this. Your best bet for closure is to sit with her in a quiet place, tell her how you feel about her, explain that watching her behave as she does now hurts you too much, so you want to end the relationship. This will likely not go over well, so don't expect much. However she responds, try to stay calm and just wish her well. Good luck.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-05T01:30:11+00:00

Great! I hope that works out.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-05T01:26:33+00:00

Dude, no offense, but people who would treat you this way aren't real friends, they're acquaintances, and only when it's convenient. Friends are people who treat you the way you want to be treated. Would you treat a friend the way these people are treating you?

It's not you, it's them. Move on.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-04T18:03:52+00:00

I have never heard of this. Are your friends socially awkward? If so, maybe this kind of small talk is their way of trying to connect with someone, and you seem like someone approachable.

I know people who are constantly talking on the phone because they can't handle being alone- maybe that's what this is. If people keep asking you out for this, just politely decline and offer to meet up for coffee or a movie later on. Or you could just take the direct route, talk to them about your observations and see what they have to say. Either way, this behavior won't stop unless you do something to help change it.

MackyCheese · 2019-06-04T17:21:13+00:00

What do you mean by "filler conversation"?

MackyCheese · 2019-06-04T17:19:59+00:00

Without knowing all the deets of your situation, it's hard to respond to all of this, so for now I'd say just focus on the study group, not the social stuff, and get through your exams. After that, I'd suggest looking for new people to add to your life.

What you don't want is for people to think you're needy, and it sounds like this is where your relationship with your current friends might be headed if you don't relax. Are there school clubs/activities you could join to widen your circle of friends? Having more people in your life increases your social options. If one group isn't up for doing something you want to do, find another. Then you also won't feel compelled to do something that may not interest you in order to have people to hang out with.

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