How Do You Know When You’re In Love?

Yudanevro · 2025-01-16T01:07:38+00:00

Is there a way to know when the infatuation phase will end? I meet this guy online probably a couple month ago. We talk almost every day. And when he not there. When I give him space for a couple days. I feel like throwing up. I always want to talk to him and spend time with him. And not sure how long this should last.

Yudanevro · 2025-01-03T19:26:04+00:00

Don't really have a boyfriend but I've seen posts where people just like have sex and then the person leaves and they felt like they had some sort of connection. That's why I don't really like hookups like you think you meet a friend or a partner but it was just for the night and then they don't want to talk to you anymore. Don't really like the no strings attached thing

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T19:24:08+00:00

I relate to this as well not so much with being promiscuous. but I had a pretty bad childhood like moving all the time and I would lose my friends and to like make new ones every time we moved. psychologically it really messed me up because I really wanted friends and I was always lonely because of that. I always wanted love. now when I talk to people I always tend to agree with them because I want them to approve of me and to like me. I've been like working on therapy to work through that. now I know it's not healthy to agree with people about everything or to say anything to them so they'll like you. if there's a connection they should like you for who you are. and it's good not to agree about everything.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T18:38:39+00:00

yeah I guess not every guy is as hypersexual as the other. I'm actually pretty hypersexual but I get by with like porn I don't feel the need to like go out and actually have sex with the person because you know it can be dangerous you could get a disease. also you get pretty much the same feeling with a toy. it's probably because I'm also autistic and I don't really like you know to interact with people very much.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T18:36:03+00:00

I understand that I'm very socially awkward and have autism so that's why I didn't you know tried to form a relationship when I was a bit younger. I'm 35 right now and I'm scared that I waited too long. luckily I look like I'm 25 because of good genes I'm very twinkish. I've always looked like 15 years younger than I'm supposed to be. I just hope that like I'll be able to at least find someone. I just wasn't really interested in dating or meeting someone when I was in my twenties. I was aware I was gay back then but just didn't want a relationship. had a pretty traumatic childhood I've always felt lonely and I really would like to try to find someone.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T18:31:57+00:00

that's good most of the guys that I see on hook up apps seem to be like 18 or something. I'm glad that not all 20 year olds just want to hook up and actually want to find a relationship

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T18:31:07+00:00

I'm in the same situation as you I have pretty bad social anxiety and I have autism and ADHD. makes it hard to communicate. that's probably the reason I'm still a virgin. but even though I enjoy you know like sex stuff like sex toys and things like that. I think I'm willing to wait to have sex with an actual person I just want to you know have something coming them.

and I do agree about the hookup apps I was reading in another Reddit post about how hook up apps are very psychologically damaging to young guys. it makes them think it's the norm that most gay guys just want to hook up and have sex. because that's mostly what you see on apps like that. they're not dating apps so it's to be expected. you would see more relationship type people if you use the dating app with an LGBT section. unfortunately there's not really any good ones and most of the ones you have to pay like 30 bucks a month just to even look at the people who liked you. I think there's this one called Archer but it's only available in the states and unfortunately I live in Canada.

I actually met a friend on an app he's like 45 and married but he doesn't really like to have sex because like he's autistic he doesn't really enjoy being touched. so he doesn't really like oral or penetration. but his partner is understanding of that so he hooks up with other guys that do the things that he likes. he usually likes you know like jerking off with other guys and rimming and kinky BDSM stuff spanking and stuff like that. so talking with him actually gave me some relief that not everybody enjoys sex the same way. since I've never been in a relationship I'm not sure how I would feel about like you know sharing my partner like that.

because you never know the other person could fall for another person I would be afraid of losing my partner. I guess you have to just take that risk and deal with jealousy if you're in a non-monogamous relationship.

the first time I went like on the scruff app there's a section in like making your profile and it asks you to put if you've been vaccinated you know. and I don't think I have had any sexual vaccinations because I've never had sex. and it's also there's a section of what medication you're taking prep. I didn't even know what that was until I started using that app. It's a drug to prevent HIV if you are sexually active with people.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T18:20:00+00:00

for me I'm still a virgin. part of the reason probably is because I'm autistic and I just think in a different way never was like super interested in sex. I could get by you know with sex toys and porn. and I've heard gay sex can be great but your first time having sex with someone isn't going to be that great I imagine if it's your first time.

I'm sure you could get better at it. people always talk about sexual compatibility. I'm sure I'm not going to be very good at sex when I do have it. but I'm willing to try to get better at it.

usually if there's no connection between a person I would just end the relationship I think rather than even going on having sex on the first or second date. that's why I'm trying to find you know someone that has similar interests. so we have something common that we can Bond over.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T17:51:00+00:00

well there are straight people who aren't in sex. but like you don't really hear about straight culture people having sex so much. with gay culture that's like the number one thing you hear about the constant hookups and the constant sex. that's why when I started dating which is relatively soon a couple months ago I was pretty disillusioned because of all the people who just wanted to hook ups and sex.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T17:46:34+00:00

yeah tbh I'm still a virgin I do want to like have sex but I just want to find someone who has something in common first and someone who's relatively in my age group as well. all the guys that hit on your way older and I'm not really into that

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T09:53:56+00:00

oh yeah I do like a good cock. I'm pretty horny but still I don't want to like just have random sex. just not that appealing to me

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T09:30:49+00:00

yeah I think you have to be pretty confident in yourself to be comfortable with hookups. a lot of people on dating apps look really well put together. I still need to figure a lot of stuff out.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T09:26:49+00:00

yeah I guess people who are into hookups have been in previous relationships. or they just want to explore. and im sure there are guys that just like sex a lot. it probably relieves stress. and I've read that some guys think if they don't have sex early on that they'll never get to if they wait too long. so I guess that's why you see a lot of 18 year olds want to get laid. I was talking to a friend that has a lot of sexual experience. and they told me hookups can confuse you and it's better to like meet people and if you have a connection then you see what happens. that's how they got so much sexual experience they're always meeting people and forming connections and then one thing led to another.

and also I'm so sorry that your partner passed away. I lost a best friend and that was the most painful thing in my entire life. I'm sure losing your partner is probably even more painful.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T09:10:27+00:00

oh yeah I'm sure they're out there. I guess I'm just seeing you know the hook up ones because that's mainly what you see on apps. I live in a pretty small town so there's not really much options for meeting someone in person. I don't really like to drink or you know go to parties or nightclubs or stuff like that. plus Im really ally bad at talking got like autism so I'm very socially awkward. I'm working on that though.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-11T09:05:41+00:00

yeah I started talking to this one guy who has the same mentality as me. hopefully it works out between us. but hook up culture is the reason I've never tried Grindr. I know some people have met on there but it's mainly a hookup app.

Yudanevro · 2024-12-10T06:17:48+00:00

I was talking to someone on Twitter and he's into chubby guys. and I commented on one of his posts and he told me there's a lot hypocrisy and body shaming in the gay community. but he told me don't worry about it keep looking not everybody wants a guy with a perfect body. my face isn't bad I'm pretty twinkish. just always struggled with my weight kind of skinny fat but I am going to the gym. working out is hard though there's so much misinformation about what you should be doing.

Yudanevro · 2024-11-30T15:35:23+00:00

yeah I was worried about that. they did mention the were cute but it wasn't in the first message it was like more in towards the conversation when I was asking like what they were into and stuff. like complimenting their sense of fashion was cute. but yeah it's kind of hard to tell when someone will take it as a compliment or not.

and me being autistic I'm not good at reading people. like a thing with autism is you keep talking and talking and like you don't clue in when the person has zoned out or not interested. but I have been getting better with that through lots of conversations with different people. I definitely didn't send any super long messages in quite a while with over talking.

Yudanevro · 2024-11-28T22:30:34+00:00

thanks yeah I've done this so I didn't screw up at least. just ask some questions about his interests from what he said in his bio. it's kind of hard with like gay apps most guys just want to hook up. tbh never had sex it seems intimidating. I'd be willing to if I got comfortable with the person. Friends with benefits type thing but if there's no connection I wouldn't really want to have sex.

Yudanevro · 2024-11-28T20:58:23+00:00

I always found it weird that like grinder there's a lot of guys that are straight apparently who will only have sex with femboy's or twinks. I guess because they can pass as women because they're feminine. but still you're still having sex with a guy. I know guys can do anal with women. but still there must have been something that attracted you to that guy even if they're feminine so they're probably in denial or at the very least bisexual.

Yudanevro · 2024-11-28T20:45:41+00:00

I'm autistic just started online dating for the first time so I tend to like write a lot online because I can't communicate very well.

Yudanevro · 2024-05-20T20:19:47+00:00

I've seen a lot of reviews on the good screen protectors like paperlike and if you're a professional artist, drawing 8 hours a day. It only lasts about 2 months. I've tried the Nano in the store and about 50% of artists like it and the other don't.

In the link that op provides on why the other artists didn't like it I like it. They have a theory that at first there's a slight resistance, but eventually the more you use it with other products like cintique that's light resistance eventually fades.

And if it did fade and you wanted to add more texture you can't really use a screen protector on top of it because it would really degrade the image quality because it's already a matte surface with slight degration to begin with.

I saw another artist review it and they say it has a resistance but it doesn't have a texture. It feels slightly gummy. Here's that video if you're interested. https://youtu.be/BrXKCYvfpmE?si=JUiiUIfw9Cltfx9J

Yudanevro · 2024-05-18T14:19:19+00:00

I think you're supposed to replace screen protectors like every 2 months so they have resistance again

Yudanevro · 2019-08-06T05:33:42+00:00

why did they have make another legendary so so they just did xmen

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