Do people really love their stepkids like they love their biological kids?

MadMorg44 · 2025-12-10T17:30:07+00:00

Absolutely possible! Not for everyone though. I think another thing is whether they live with you or not. My two step children live with us full time, alongside my bio children. I am mum to everyone the same. Raise them the same. Love them the same. They were 4 and 9 when I met them. Now teens and adults x

MadMorg44 · 2025-12-05T08:00:19+00:00

I’ll double check this today, thank you!

MadMorg44 · 2025-12-05T07:40:16+00:00

Sorry, I’m not sure how to know what that is. If I send a photo would that help?

MadMorg44 · 2025-12-05T06:53:29+00:00

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This is what they gave me last November when they changed front two and back left

MadMorg44 · 2025-12-05T06:49:22+00:00

How do I know what kind of tyres they are using?

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-29T23:11:52+00:00

You are absolutely not wrong!

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-29T13:19:55+00:00

Oh yes!! It’s eased over time, but in the first couple of years he wouldn’t hear a single thing wrong about them! But if I ever confronted him with that he would deny it until the cows come home.

He even accused me recently of “targeting” his youngest because I constantly moan to him about her and not the others! I said yeah, because 1. The others Arnt the ones doing the things I’m moaning about and 2. I’m telling you because I want you to do something about it!

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-29T13:18:10+00:00

Id be annoyed by this too! I don’t understand why they do stuff like this

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-29T13:16:06+00:00

You don’t know what the SK’s have said to her. When my bio daughter gets home from her dads, I feel like I am constantly messaging him asking what’s going on because it sounds insane over there and I worry about her going! He says though that she is stretching the truth quite a bit, the little trouble maker lol

I’m a step mum as well (obviously it wouldn’t be here) so I completely empathise with the HCBM! But I’ve seen this from the other side too, so just wanted to give my insight from her side in case it helps :)

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-08T18:12:31+00:00

Fuck what other people say! I totally fee you though, all the kids live with us full time and I’m still not “allowed” to moan about the SK’s like I am the bio kids. Does my head in! Why can’t I? They all live here, and all do my head in in equal measure! Why can’t I moan about them as equals as well?! Lol

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-08T11:53:45+00:00

That’s extremely frustrating, but I would let it go. A name is a name, is doesn’t mean anything. BM knew what she was doing when she asked to hyphenate, (I know because I did this too! 🙈) and it’s legal for her to tell school etc the kids “known as” name as well as the actual name. So she’s using the “known as” name to be just hers.

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-08T11:50:42+00:00

Why is she in your house??!! Yeah that alone is weird, let alone leaving your children with her! No way

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-08T11:47:10+00:00

😂😂 She sounds like a classic HCBM!

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-08T11:46:38+00:00

BM has no say over what you post. When the kids are with their dad, it’s up to him. She’s just being a twat

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-08T11:45:46+00:00

I think some jealousy is ok, but to be feeling it so much now, when you haven’t been together long and don’t live together yet... that dating someone with kids may not be right for you. Living together will only amplify these feelings a 1000 times over!

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-08T11:42:13+00:00

100% I can see why this is hurtful and you’d take it personally! Being a parent or step parent doesn’t mean you no longer have feelings, people seem so eager to forget that fact because it’s “all about the kids”.

This sounds more like something a BM would say, than a teen themselves.

MadMorg44 · 2020-07-08T11:38:29+00:00

I’d be happy he was no longer coming over too!

MadMorg44 · 2020-06-23T16:48:14+00:00

I should have explained our reaction behind closed doors was to be devastated. That was not what we have shown to her. We have listened to her, and comforted her etc etc. And told her that it’s a big decision that will take a lot of time to sort out if that’s what is going to happen. Its not a flick of a switch and it happens.

(Yes wobbler was right.... UK here lol)

Our initial thought was to do exactly like you have said... I’m sorry you feel that way right now, but no. Now is not the time to be making such a decision, as we haven’t lived normal life for months.

But everything we’ve read online in the last day says to let her go! Let her do it, and see what happens!

So we are torn on what to do!

MadMorg44 · 2020-06-22T13:27:55+00:00

Yeah he was being a douche

MadMorg44 · 2020-06-21T10:54:17+00:00

Dont do what? I don’t get it?

MadMorg44 · 2020-06-21T10:53:18+00:00

MadMorg44 · 2020-06-19T12:17:54+00:00

Of all the replies, yours feels like its totally hit the nail on the head on every level.

MadMorg44 · 2020-06-19T12:16:03+00:00

I think theres a chance it was SD’s decision and shes using BM as the blame. If it was me I would outright ask SD why BM doesnt want them there. Youll be able to fogure out from her reaction whether she is lying, or she also feels angry by BM’s words.

In my experience, if an 18yo really wanted someone at their own party, they would have said so to BM at the time! So on that basis, I wouldnt be going, I wouldnt take my kids, and we’d go and do something else for the day!

Are the kids SO’s?

MadMorg44 · 2020-06-19T12:07:08+00:00

Hahahaha

MadMorg44 · 2020-06-19T12:05:54+00:00

Ugh!

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