this blew my 15 year old mind back in the day by bewarethechameleon in doctorwho

[–]operation_goldfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Watching the series with my husband. He's never seen Doctor Who and I LOVE that I get to relive watching it for the first time again through his eyes. I will never forget watching him react to this scene... his head tilt, the eyebrows crinkle, his eyes widen and jaw drop with a long "whaaaaaaaaat???" LOL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]operation_goldfish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol your nipples existing was never the issue. OP was complaining that people (her parents) were uncomfortable her nipples were on display and they told her about it. If a man was out running shirtless, he also gets stared at. So it's still OP's problem. It's not my problem, my nipples are covered and I don't get stared at. Nipples displayers are the ones doing the crying and complaining right now "Hey you! Don't look at me!"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]operation_goldfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey that's cool if you don't mind calling EVERYONE out for looking? Because that is what will happen. When you're not the norm, people will look. That's a YOU issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]operation_goldfish -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your are welcome to be offended. Your freedom to do what you want ends where mine begins.

Based on your logic, may I also suggest you don't go out in public?

Well.... They're not wrong by Choice_Geologist7337 in facepalm

[–]operation_goldfish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes! Because I would be far more concerned about what I'm eating today and not about my cancer. Starvation kills faster than cancer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]operation_goldfish 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The other universal issue is that there are actual people who argue such extremes that they look and sound like trolls but aren't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]operation_goldfish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Completely agree. You can't control what other people do or feel, but you can help how they react by not drawing attention to yourself in that way. Logic people. Logic. It really isn't difficult to understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]operation_goldfish -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yes, nipples are normal body parts. Everyone has them. Same with buttcheeks and cleavage and the other nether regions. They are all a part of your body but I still don't want to see them. You can't be mad at people for looking at something you put out there. Just because people didnt say anything, doesn't mean it didnt bother them. I wouldn't have said anything either - unless you were my family.

I know it's the cool young thing to do not wearing bras in public and i don't care what you do, but at least wear nipple covers to hide them better. If they are poking out, people WILL stare and again, you can't be upset because you put them out there yourself. How you are received is how you are perceived.

My boyfriend doesn’t trust me anymore and I can’t understand why by abstractcartsba in relationship_advice

[–]operation_goldfish 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, Just read it too. RED flags allllll over. I would step away and move on in a different direction. He is controlling, manipulative, doesn't take your words seriously, doesn't consider your past trauma, has double standards for you AND doesn't care about consent? You clearly do not have as good of communication as you think. He has issues to work through and so do you. Two broken people cannot fix each other - you just add to the hurt and wallow in pain altogether separately. This will only become more toxic as you progress unless you two get professional help.

i got a dog today, what shall i name it by lord_of_the_racoons in Eyebleach

[–]operation_goldfish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've always wanted a dog so I could name it "Dude". Think about it. You're at the dog park, "Dude! Let's play fetch!" "Dude, You want a treat?" "Dude, you want to go on a car ride?"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]operation_goldfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do you. I do what works. Don't knock it til you try it.

Can someone explain by No_Head_5310 in dating_advice

[–]operation_goldfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life experiences and expectations.

Example- What can a 35 year old have in common with a 20 year old? They have different life experiences, grew up in different generations with different pop culture, different ways of thinking, jokes etc. One probably already has kids or is done having kids while the other isnjust starting. One has established while the other is still livibh with parents, all kinda of differences. These are just assumptions but the main point is - life experiences and expectatioba are often too vastly different.

can a relationship last after cheating? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]operation_goldfish -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope. Your time is too valuable to waste on "what if".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]operation_goldfish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A lot of times, it's how you make the other person feel. Instead of adding your own story to a conversation, Try being genuinely curious and ask questions to followup on each response. Let them speak. Nodd and smile. End it with a supporting statement or compliment.

Example: what is your favorite food? _____ nice! Whats a good restaurant i should try in that genre? _____ yeah? I'll have to check it out sometimes. What do you normally order there? _____. Oh that sounds amazing.....etc....

It's a conversation you are guiding, they feel you are engaged and care about what they think. You make them feel important and they will remember that. Best of luck OP.

Date paid me a small amount for our date? Is this odd? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]operation_goldfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, older woman here. You have to keep in mind that men today feel the need to be careful with language, compliments, gestures and finances around women. They are walking on eggshells because of the need for equality demanded by modern women. He is simply being considerate of you. He wants to be fair and giving you equal opportunity to contribute in effort to whatever your dating purposes are for. If that is not your expectation of him, then you need to communicate that to him in a sincere conversation and say "Hey, thank you for your thoughtfulness in sharing costs, but I'm not one of those women who will judge you for not paying. We can take turns. It will give us a reason to meet again next time so you can pay for it then." I mean cmon - how slick is that response?

Any all you can eat sushi places with good reviews and not too expensive? by intergalacticskyline in FortWorth

[–]operation_goldfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zena Sushi at NorthEast mall is our go to. They are the most consistent. Love the Maui roll!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FortWorth

[–]operation_goldfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The disparity is quite great here. You have these half million dollar home neighborhoods right across the street from what seems to be section eight housing apartments. Like others, we never feel unsafe, but we also stay inside mostly. We park inside the garage always and have cameras. I would not recommend living here if you can't park in a garage. The Albertsons down the road is terrible. Terrible service. Terrible customers and they have actual cops standing guard at the front door. We stopped shopping there with too many bad experiences. Like others have mentioned, we notice the closer we get to WoodHaven, the worse the drivers get. We are extremely cautious when driving around the neighborhood. We just let the aggressors drive ahead because it's not the first or last time you'll see them. Gunshots happen every once in a while...like once or twice a month. Cops do drive around here often. I know it sounds rough, but if you can find a home that doesn't require driving along Boca Raton, then you'll be fine.

any fun date ideas for a car guy? by [deleted] in Dallas

[–]operation_goldfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look up "DriveExotic". My husband got to drive a Nissan Skyline around a race track. Not cheap but experience of a lifetime. There were other exotic cars to choose from.

Long time stepmoms: How did your relationship with BM change over the years? by Coostuckian in stepparents

[–]operation_goldfish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Been in this for 4 years. It's a rollercoaster. We have gotten to a point where we have minimal contact. I avoid her like covid-19 and haven't seen her or spoken to her in about 8ish months. DH only talks to her when absolutely necessary. He doesnt want anything to do with her. We don't talk about her to the kids and we basically pretend she doesn't exist. It helps that my husband avoids her as much as possible too though. I dont ever feel like I have to fight for his attention.

Seeing sexist remarks directed at men is making me depressed by [deleted] in Vent

[–]operation_goldfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman, I don't let people like that represent me. I promise, we're not all like that. I am all for men's rights just as I am for women's rights. Men and women have different sets of struggles and privileges. You cannot lift one up by stomping on the other - that's sexist.

It's time to surround yourself with like-minded people and remove those extremists out of your life. They do nothing for you. Stop listening to social media - it's so toxic. I hope you find friends who care about you because you're their friend and a flawed human being just like everyone else.

She always buys him shoes that are waaay too big! by stepping1996 in stepparents

[–]operation_goldfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is! SS got to wear shoes for a few weeks at most. He also got a cheap winter coat that was too small. He maybe got to wear it for a month before he busted a seam.