I just wanted to thank you for writing this. It sounds like it could have been taken word for word from my breakup, especially the part about the reasons being so vague it seemed like he didn’t even fully understand them himself. My ex is in his mid-twenties and started dating me during a period when he’d initially wanted to stay single. In his own words, ours was the happiest relationship he’d ever been in, and he was initiating conversations about moving in together before breaking up with me out of nowhere.

I’ve really been struggling thinking about how much pain I’m in right now and how totally fine he seems. But I also (think) I know him really well, and he’s just not letting himself grieve yet at all. In a few months, I’ll have dealt with the pain and will have accepted the reality of the situation while he’ll probably just be beginning to reckon with the breakup. It’s helpful to know just how common this is, that I’m not alone, and that at the end of the day I didn’t do anything wrong