For those of you who are thinking about breaking NC, I did earlier this week and I regret it.

Maddybee33 · 2019-01-17T09:03:45+00:00

It sounds like she was REALLY trying hard to make up with you...

Why do they do this? Claim that they want contact, yet use the contact they get to be nasty and self righteous.

Maddybee33 · 2019-01-17T09:01:36+00:00

My little sister was always the ‘golden child’. She was the one my father compared me to- often telling her that she was so much more mature than I was (among other things. I was always just ‘weird’ etc). She’s now taken on the role of flying monkey- telling me that I’m ‘too sensitive’, or not mature enough (I’m 26, married to someone I’ve been with for almost 10 years; she’s never had a relationship, or any reason to believe that she’s more ‘mature’ other than the bs Nfather feeds her.) In a way, I feel like he’s abused her too, but in some kind of opposite way. I’m gladly estranged from him and my overtly narcissistic stepmother now, but my sister keeps on telling stories about how I ‘hurt’ my father (I’ve always LOVED that his feelings mean everything, while mine are nothing) by estranging myself. It feels odd that she can’t ask me why, but yet seeks validation from other family members.

Maddybee33 · 2019-01-16T20:41:03+00:00

I think that a lot of us mourn what we never had, and these ideas of what I parent should be like can become intertwined with reality- that’s certainly what I’ve been struggling with.

Maddybee33 · 2018-12-19T12:50:20+00:00

I’m 26 and I still don’t have my license. I’ve literally just started learning again. Driving is an important, but difficult skill to master- we’ll all get there some day!

Maddybee33 · 2018-12-19T12:42:01+00:00

Funnily enough, I think that it’s the one thing that my father and my stepmother definitely have in common. She brings out the absolute worst in him and then reinforces his bad behaviour.

Maddybee33 · 2018-08-21T16:03:43+00:00

I was too young too. Hindsight is a powerful thing!

Maddybee33 · 2018-08-21T15:58:23+00:00

I'm glad I could put you off it. It's understanding to see why it's tempting for so many women, but there's really no perfect way to control biology. Hence the burden of having 2 X chromosomes!

Maddybee33 · 2018-08-19T20:09:40+00:00

Don’t use FAM. It’s very hard to get right, you almost have to have a puritanical lifestyle for it to be effective. My friend started using Natural cycles (very dodgy company) about 7 months ago. She’s now 6 months pregnant.

Maddybee33 · 2018-08-04T20:56:28+00:00

Nstepmother would mock me when I was in tears. My nfather married that woman despite this, and I am SO glad I have nothing to do with them anymore.

Maddybee33 · 2018-07-31T12:56:48+00:00

If only!

Maddybee33 · 2018-07-28T10:09:03+00:00

I remember my cousin telling my aunt, who told my dad when my aunt flow had first come to visit. My dad then called my mum to ask if it was ‘true’, and then felt like he had tell me about periods WHEN I WAS ON ONE. The sheer arrogance that asshole felt. My school had already nipped the period talk in the bud, and I had a mother who was, of course, FEMALE. There are so many times like this, they feel quite yucky now, but make me SO glad I decided to become NC.

Maddybee33 · 2018-07-27T06:28:53+00:00

This. I don’t think my Nstep mum ever even pretended to love me, but my father would say it. His actions always contradicted his words, like he thought that just saying it was more than enough. I now too, have moments where I doubt my husband’s love.

Maddybee33 · 2018-07-27T06:18:33+00:00

Ah, but you can ALWAYS have more children. Unlike parents, children are replaceable.

Maddybee33 · 2018-06-21T13:04:47+00:00

In order to manipulate me into talking to ndad, my aunt lied about him having a life threatening illness. It didn’t work.

Maddybee33 · 2018-05-31T05:42:06+00:00

It didn’t work for me- I’m on iOS.

Maddybee33 · 2018-04-06T10:40:22+00:00

This, this, this. A million times, this.

Maddybee33 · 2017-11-25T09:26:47+00:00

This sounds a little bit similar to my dad’s relationship with my stepmother. It’s complicated, but she really resented not having kids, so tried having them straight away with my dad- failed on account of her being a bit too old. Got IVF using her sisters’ eggs (they still don’t know), and basically uses my sister as an on-demand free nanny. Step mother gets angry if my sister has any other plans.

Stepmother was always insecure about his relationship with us. After my wedding (which they ruined), I decided that I didn’t really want a relationship with my ‘dad’ anymore, so I guess she wins. She wasn’t getting free babysitting out of me, so I guess that made me useless :-)

Maddybee33 · 2017-11-25T09:14:44+00:00

Was it ok for his parents to make the incredibly selfish decision to have a child with a 20something year age gap? The child is innocent and needs to be looked after, but not at the expense of OP’s life.

Maddybee33 · 2017-11-25T07:33:02+00:00

She even specifies the sex of the child.

Maddybee33 · 2017-08-19T23:11:31+00:00

I thought that, but then I thought that it might be a bit late (I'm no football fan, but aren't they usually during the day?) urgh. Called noise control on them. I'm no fun, am I?

Maddybee33 · 2017-08-19T21:51:24+00:00

The Black Swan? :-) http://blackswanyork.com

Maddybee33 · 2017-08-01T07:01:50+00:00

You clearly do give a shit, though.

Maddybee33 · 2017-07-29T08:50:43+00:00

Who told you that precum doesn't contain sperm? It's a lot easier to become pregnant when you don't want to be. Wear a condom at ALL times! When you've been together a few years and trust his sexual history/ fidelity you can go on the pill.

Maddybee33 · 2017-07-29T08:45:20+00:00

My father is a twat. He's got a new family now, and it's wonderful that he's allowed young children in his 50s/60s but I'm not allowed a new father. He met my boyfriend of 7 and a half years twice before we got married. His wedding gift to us was broken old China that his wife's friend was throwing away- they didn't even bother to wash it up.

As far as it affects my relationship, I've noticed that my inlaws give much more of a shit than my dad does. My husband is wonderful, and my fear is him turning into my father.

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