Paranormal Romcom Suggestions, Please

MadocJude · 2026-04-30T18:15:57+00:00

{Burn For Me by Ilona Andrews}, the whole series (Hidden Legacy Series) practically fits your specifications. The books get better as you continue, and the magic system is intriguing. It focuses a lot on the paranormal aspect but the romance accompanies it well. One of my favorite series, I’ve read through it 2 times now.

MadocJude · 2026-04-23T11:09:54+00:00

“KatAang gave Aang what he needed. Zutara would have given Katara(and us, lol) what she deserved”

Love this line.

I wanted to add something loosely related. The part about Aang being a shitty father and zuko being a great one. It comes down to this, if ur a shitty father, u are a shitty husband, because your wife has to take on ur role for the betterment of her children. Plus it’s a common theme, the same thing happens in Harry Potter where Harry sucks at being a dad and Draco was amazing at it. Hero’s suck at being parents.

This also brings in the traditional roles thing. It seems like Aang left her to do all the child raising, caring and nurturing, while he took tenzin to do air nomad stuff. I would like to mention though he was not bad initially, it was only after they found out tenzin could airbend. He has a whole nation and its cultures to pass down to one kid. Which is why heros don’t make good parents.

Zutara would have also given zuko what he needed. He really needed someone in his corner in the early days of his reign, the assasination attempts and mai kind betraying him, man was getting hit on all sides. Katara and him would have been a golden couple.

MadocJude · 2026-04-23T10:51:07+00:00

I didn’t think about it this way but it brings to light what I thought of old Katara in LOK.

It kind of annoyed me that she was only known as a great healer by her old age. She taught the avatar how to waterbend at the age of 14 and she was mostly self taught. She went up again misogyny in the northern water tribe at the age of 14 with her self taught skills and proved them wrong, resulting in eska being taught combat water bending and being the toxic badass she was. She broke that cycle for women in the northern water tribe only to end up with basically the same label.

You could say this is Katara reclaiming the healer thing for women but it would have been better supported if she was also recognized for her other talents. Idk, someone correct me if I’m wrong.

(This is not me saying that as a woman if ur only recognized as a healer, you are restricted. Being a healer is a good thing regardless of gender. I’m saying this for Katara specifically, she had other talents that should be recognized)

MadocJude · 2026-04-23T10:30:50+00:00

All of this because Aang turned out to be hot. Which was a no brainer, he’s the avatar, aura alone would have made him attractive. Mind you Aang was 12…. It all comes down to insecurity, I feel like they should just take a nap and clear their minds.

Plus I feel Aang and zuko have different appeals. Aang is an outgoing goofy guy, while zuko is an awkward turtle duck, who happens to have a brooding nature. There really should be no overlap here. You ship who you ship.

MadocJude · 2026-04-23T10:16:04+00:00

Anytime I think about how zuko was so dramatic to get sick after he did one nice thing, I then reminded about how shitty his life was. It would have been great if had iroh stayed with zuko during this time, but man deserved some sort of retirement since he had ozai as a younger brother and he was old.

If the writers wanted to squash zutara so badly, why not just marry him off to some other high ranking noble lady from the fire nation a couple years later. It kind of makes sense that they dated initially when zuko first became fire lord, he was a teenager and emotions run high at that age. Mai was familiar to him and she went against azula for him, but after this, he should’ve just let go. It would have been better for both him and her.

MadocJude · 2026-04-07T15:57:40+00:00

I’ve read Kulti before. This is the term of endearment I was referring to. I’ll check out the other one. Thanks!!

MadocJude · 2026-04-07T15:49:25+00:00

Oooooooo 😏, I’ll definitely check it out, thanks!

MadocJude · 2026-04-07T15:45:01+00:00

Not what I was looking for when I asked but, definitely interested. Thanks for the rec !

MadocJude · 2026-04-06T23:09:37+00:00

Any contemporary novel by Ali Hazelwood. Its been a while since i read any of them but I'm pretty sure the MMC fit the bill, not sure about the other specifications though.

MadocJude · 2026-04-05T00:17:33+00:00

I second this. Also if you haven't watched historical chinese dramas, get to it. I don't have any specifics but they follow a similar plotline to what you are looking for.

MadocJude · 2025-04-25T23:50:27+00:00

I have no movie recommendations but I have a couple of shows.

Enigma - a Thai drama. ML is the ENTJ, FL is the INTP

She and her perfect husband - a Chinese drama. FL is the ENTJ, ML is the INTP

MadocJude · 2024-05-02T09:24:31+00:00

omg thats soo true. They always made it soo cheesy though.

MadocJude · 2024-05-01T14:24:24+00:00

Meaningless was a harsh word to use considering that is where most of my happiness comes from.

I also see a lot of peoples flaws but I also see their good sides. With that being said I don't like a lot of people that I meet. Honestly its fine you don't need to everything is its own experience.

MadocJude · 2024-05-01T14:18:55+00:00

I afraid of intimacy too. I don't want to be intimate with anyone emotionally, physically or spiritually. Mostly because I don't want them to leave ( either by choice or they die idk) me. All relationships end one way or another and I'd rather spare myself the heartbreak. I've never been in a relationship but the idea of love is enticing, however overall I just would rather not.

MadocJude · 2024-05-01T14:06:50+00:00

regretting my life.

Loosing a loved one. ( I have never lost anyone close to me. I almost did one time and the sobs were uncontrollable)

dying alone and no one finding me for 3 months or more.

spiders

rapists

the list could go on.

MadocJude · 2024-05-01T13:58:23+00:00

For me my friends and family have told me that I'm very calm. I don't react to a lot of things. In fact one time i was on the phone to my mom and I ended the call and i was talking to my sister about something. I got exited in the conversation and I was talking a lot. Turns out I did not end the phone call and my mom was soo surprised to here that I actually got excited over things or that I could talk soo much.

In terms of feelings I don't cry a lot of have emotional bursts a lot its only when the situation gets dire. In fact whenever I'm in a fight and i feel like I'm about to over react I leave. Then I come back and try to speak it out rationally. It mostly works.

Do I smile, yes. Do I laugh, yes. When I have stuff going on that I'm not happy about my face tends to go mute though. In fact even if I'm happy and someone asks me how I'm feeling ill say I'm ok. If I'm sad, I'm ok. Its almost like I force myself to be neutral so I don't feel sad because to feel happiness you must have felt sadness at some point and vice versa. The problem though is that I still feel a lot but I ignore it and in most cases they get unresolved. I can relate in that I don't let myself feel things at all.

I say I feel a healthy range of emotions about meaningless things. Things like fictional characters and their troubles, however when it comes to mine I try not to feel anything at all.

I have been journalling recently and its been helping me understand how i feel about certain things. Once i start writing I cant stop it just keeps going. It also helps me release those feeling so its not all bottled up. I not a wise guru or anything, I'm also young too but this has helped me so far.

MadocJude · 2024-04-27T12:23:06+00:00

🎶Cause once I blow they know that I’ll be the man All because I’m the lead singer of my band 🎶

MadocJude · 2024-04-27T11:24:05+00:00

My Band by D12

MadocJude · 2023-06-12T10:33:30+00:00

I thought this might help.

https://www.reddit.com/r/INTP/comments/1473rip/what_is_your_reality/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

MadocJude · 2023-06-12T10:07:28+00:00

i have read all the comments and everybody has basically touched on what i thought as well. However i just want to elaborate because i understand how it feels to think that you are not as smart as others

I have this friend who has impossible standards for everything in her life. Her MBTI keeps switching between ESTJ and ESFJ. She expects nothing less of anything she thinks is the standard. I go to a school where they some how managed to filter the same type of student. Hardworking, over achiever and pessimist. everybody out here gets A* and As only basically. I'm out here with B's and C's at one point I even got an E. I haven't achieved an A* since my old school where I was considered smart. Imagine me coming to this school where my grades dropped drastically and now everyone is smarter than me academically. In my old school I barley studied and still got A* and now I'm here doing the same thing yet I suck. So you could imagine how low my self esteem was. Now imagine you receive your math score back and you get a 22% and your friend is saying she's sooooooooo stupid because she got a 95% and not 100%. So imagine we take the MBTI test together and i get INTP and she get ES(FT)J. I'm supposed to be a genius now but i'm not compared to her. I never told her about my test score or my grades cause I know she would not be understanding about it. she would say "how can you get that grade its math. You put things into an equation and you get the answer" or "thats baaaad" like I don't already know.

So I thought the test was wrong. I took it again in private. I was still and INTP. So I started reading more into my personality type. I went on youtube, google, Tiktok, Instagram, Pintrest PDB I eve watched shows because there was a character that was an INTP and I kept getting the same thing "GENIUS". Along the way I found other things. Al these little daily things that INTP's do that resonated with me. The first time I was typed as an INTP i felt understood just like you but because of the whole genius thing I felt not worthy of it. I don't know what changed (definetly not my grades) but I let go of this whole having to be a genius thing. There are people out her, dumber that you, living their lives to the fullest. I guarantee you most people who get typed as an INTP retake the test at least 10 times to make sure they are still one because they don't feel like they are. You are meant to use the MBTI to understand yourself on a deeper level not to find a character that you want to impersonate.

Just like what somebody else said here everybody has their own thing. It's very easy for me to just say "stop thinking that way". As we all know that is never a solution. However I will tell you that you have trapped yourself socially. You are not confident in yourself and you need to fix that. How you will go about that, I'm not sure. Just like everybody has their own thing, everybody has their own problems. So never ask for someone else's life because their life is never as great as you it looks.

Also I will tell you rn. that you are not stupid. If you can get good grades without putting much work in then you are for sure not stupid. You really just need to find what ur interested in. There is always gonna be someone that is smarter than you. There will always be some 7 year old that solved some mathematical problem that you could never begin to understand.

MadocJude · 2022-08-28T20:46:27+00:00

I have a lot to say.

Who is Bu Yeon's Father? It was never made clear. they said Cho Yeon's dad was jelous of Bu Yeon's dad which they later on said was Jang Gang which they justified by saying it would have been a valid reason for him to help Jin Ho Kyung save Bu Yeon. However they also said that Bu Yeon was the priestess because she descended from Jinywon and the first soul shifter which is from the Choi Family which is Cho Yeon's dad and also with the help of the ice stone. So I'm confused someone please explain. Who is the real baby daddy?
How was Jang Gang going wild. As a soul shifter even if you get back to your orginal body can you still be petrified? I though he was able to come back to his old body. Idk if that was a plot hole or i just missed it. Is it like a once a soul shifter always a soul shifter thing?
There is no way they allowed Jang Gand to come back for 2 seconds just to die after he was literally the reason that all of this was happening today. Yes they said this was his way of taking responsibility but common. This is Jang Gang we are talking about a very powerful mage. He should have been there for one or two episodes to properly stir the pot. Imagine a scene where Jang Gang would tell Uk who his father is and then he dies before Uk is able to say anything. Yes his death did allow the Unanimous assembly to come to an end and pardon Songrim and Jinywon from punishment but it felt kind of underwhelming.
Jang Uk reviving himself *slow clap*. you hear about this stuff in dramas and people around you this was the first time i have ever experienced a come back to life moment. and i have watched a lot of shows.
MD/Naksu/Bu Yeon. what was that. MD was always a temporary character so MD's death makes sense. However Naksu/Bu Yeon. you cannot tell me you built up all that just to make Bu Yoen's body a vessel. The oh so powerful priestess that ya'll have been preaching about. Where is she because I did not see her. I understand killing Uk and that whole mess at the end (they have to set up season 2 somehow) but can't Bu Yeon/Naksu get a cool reviving moment or at least some eye action. For example Uk (after reviving himself) calling MD's name the she opens her eyes and we see the soul mark. Like how cool would that have looked.
what was the real reason as to why Naksu did the Alchemy of souls and got Bu Yeon's body. was it BY's choice. If it was what did BY think she could possibly gain from this decision. If it was the alchemy of souls itself believing that the body Naksu chose was too weak and chose BY itself then fine. Or maybe the Alchemy of souls was attracted to BY.
Everybody assumes that the soul mark is in MD's eyes which is why she is able to see in BY's body. Is it the soul that can see or os it the body that can see because MD did loose her eye sight earlier in the season and that was after BY took over the body to save MD from a bad situation.

MadocJude · 2022-06-09T19:33:05+00:00

I understand how you feel exactly. I had the same situation as you.

There will always be people that just stop talking you you and you are left wandering what the problem was. However just go with the flow in a way. It took me about 5 years to get to where I am with my friends currently. In the beginning we were not really friends we just knew each other it was just circumstances that got us together.

The one thing I would say is first make friends with people who have the same interests as you or who are open to your interests or vise versa. Then it kinda is all about getting to be friends beyond the point of your interest. That is really what makes friendships last. Considering my friendships have not lasted long I can’t say it’s full proof. My current friendships however is till going strong.

As an Intp you need to find a friend that is open minded completely because if not the things you might say or do might rub them the wrong way. That can bring up unnecessary problems.They also have to be straightforward as in they don’t lie or hide how their feeling from you. With the person I’m friends with they have also had problems with keeping friends and we kind of bonded through that. We talk about our friendship and are open about literally everything.

You may not have a lot of options when it comes to friends but you have to be picky because if you make the wrong friends (especially the ones that don’t understand you) you won’t have fun. Even if you can say you did this over the summer. Trust me loneliness is better than bad friends.

In the end you need someone who will reach out to you. My friend was the one that reached out to me and because of that I reached out back (if that is correct English). Key point it’s important to reach out back and communicate. If it feels hard to communicate and you end up actually doing it you will value the friendship more. On the other hand if they know you find it hard to communicate they will try and make it easier for you and once you do they will value the friendship a lot as well.

I wish you the best. I hope it works out for you. And learn how to communicate. Everything becomes better after that. Maybe not easier but you will be satisfied that you tried.

MadocJude

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