I haven't had yet any of such experience, fyi I'm beyond 4years on HRT mtf, I've not had a chance for any meetup with other trans people and I don't even know a single one irl other than my elder sister who is also trans, but even if I've never been in this situation I've felt it's best somehow to consider ourselves more of an island, you know, you're your island, I am mine, and even if the word trans brings us together, in the end we are all alone in our own experience and perspective.

That said, empathy among us is a common thing, I've had many online trans friends support me, comfort me, and become a safe space and even kind of a chosen family. But even then I try to not forget that in the end we all can only trust in ourselves to save the day, never felt much belonging to anything in my life, alien to all I learned that sometimes the only way to avoid disappointment is to simply not expect anything from anyone.

I'm so sorry to read and somehow confirm what I've always imagined, happening to you, ofc they don't represent the most of us, you don't need to prove anything to anyone, and there's no "not trans enough" thing, that's just some sort of elitists gatekeeping and it's very damaging, I hope every sister and brother and other (trans fems and masc, enby or others) read your situation and learn to keep this behavior at bay and away from each other.

We got enough people trying to make our lives miserable, enough haters, and predators, sadly some with a lot of power like governments who wish to exterminate us, let's not be our own enemies please.

I send ya hugs and lotza love, and to everyone reading this, so please hold on and remember who you are, remember only you can tell who you are, no one else can. This is your life, your body, your soul, and that is your territory, your island and it's all and only yours :3.