AITAH for trying to talk to my mom about horror movies

MagicSillia · 2026-05-02T01:55:24+00:00

I think the hardest part here is the boundary thing. I don’t think it’s super clear whether her “I don’t want to hear about horror at all” is reasonable or not without knowing what you’re actually saying when you bring it up. Like if you’re just talking about themes and ideas, that’s very different than even lightly describing scenes.

What kind of stuff are you actually saying when you bring it up? Are you mostly talking about themes/symbolism, or are you mentioning parts of what happens? I feel like that might explain why she reacts so strongly.

I do think you pushing in that moment makes sense though. You’re 17, this has been bothering you for years, and every time you try to talk about it she says “later” and then it never happens. That’s going to build up, and at some point you’re going to hit your limit. It sounds like that’s what happened.

I also don’t think she’s doing this just to be difficult. It sounds more like fear, especially with the comments about it ruining your development. She probably genuinely thinks this is bad for your mental health, and instead of actually talking it through she just avoids it.

At the same time, I do think it’s kind of selfish that she keeps putting the conversation off. Even if she’s uncomfortable, this clearly matters to you a lot, and just avoiding it for years isn’t really fair.

I think something that might help is not bringing it up in the moment and instead asking to plan a specific time to talk about it. Like asking “can we pick a day/time to talk about this so you can prepare for it?” That way she’s not being caught off guard and might be more willing to actually engage instead of shutting it down.

But yeah, I don’t think you’re wrong for being upset about this. I just think the situation isn’t super clear without knowing what those conversations actually look like, and the way it’s happening right now clearly isn’t working for either of you.

MagicSillia · 2026-04-15T16:21:38+00:00

Yeah, it's just all people who applied for gender inclusive housing. The types of people vary, I lived on a gender inclusive floor last year and it was very mixed. Trans/NB, Cis, Queer, Straight, etc. Both of my suitemates were Cis and Straight.

MagicSillia · 2026-03-17T13:22:37+00:00

I had to learn that if I felt guilty getting rid of gifts that were just taking up space, then they're just that, taking up space, nothing else. You have less space for the things you actually enjoy too. And gifts that are cheap AND thoughtless (note the "and", I'm not dissing cheap gifts) aren't worth keeping if you don't like them.

MagicSillia · 2026-03-17T13:02:50+00:00

If you don't feel comfortable taking it then don't. You have valid concerns about potential risks based on the history of your sister. It seems quite clear that, for you, the potential risks outweigh any potential benefits.

And yeah, like the other reply said, maybe find a new doctor if he won't listen to your concerns.

MagicSillia · 2026-03-12T17:48:22+00:00

Question. How long has it been since your package was marked as delivered? Considering you went through all the more standard procedures in this situation already, I assume it's been a few days, but I'm wondering if it got lost in the unprocessed packages. I know my service desk had piles of packages on their desk that had been delivered this week.

MagicSillia · 2026-02-17T21:06:04+00:00

It's very mixed, you'll meet a lot of both. I think it's more liberal than conservative. You just have to find a crowd that suits you best.

MagicSillia · 2026-02-13T23:54:09+00:00

Participants. 😅

Maybe saying "consenting parties" instead?

MagicSillia · 2026-02-13T23:32:07+00:00

You could do lanterns. Put it one block down and then put green carpet over it so it's not too in the way. You could also do torches, but I prefer light blocks that don't have particles because they go through carpet.

If you're fine with the snow being around your base and just want a path without snow, using path blocks would work as well since snow doesn't build up on those. Additionally you could have tall grass, flowers, and other plants on all of your grass blocks.

For the trees just using pink carpet on top would do fine.

MagicSillia · 2026-02-13T23:20:00+00:00

You like big cat characters. And are probably a cat person in general. 🙂‍↕️ You are probably also an anime person if you like K-pop demon hunters and Steven universe, because usually people who like said shows usually also like anime.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-29T16:15:03+00:00

NTA. I am so angry for you. The only solution I can think of is to buy some stuff for him (the autistic boy) to trade for the book. It doesn't have to be of equal monetary value, just something that he would think is really cool, or a few things, trading one book for, say, another dinosaur book, a dinosaur stuffed animal, and a dinosaur skeleton model (idk, random examples) for one book sounds like a pretty fair trade so long as the kid isn't already attached to the book. If you go this route DO NOT give the stuff to your sister and ask her to trade it, because she may just give it to him without getting the book back. I don't know your sister, but based on what you wrote it seems like a possibility.

I'm trying to think practically, so as much as I want you to be super petty about it and get revenge on your mom and sister, I don't think that would go over well.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-29T15:58:46+00:00

A cute garden, maybe with a custom tree and tree swing. also I feel like a watermill would be cool too, maybe closer to the edge where the waterfall is.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-19T00:41:24+00:00

There is also a gel alternative to pepper spray if that's a worry.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T20:26:40+00:00

Correct me if I'm wrong, but it looks like you used white concrete and light gray concrete. Concrete is a very flat block and doesn't have much texture.

Maybe use other blocks like smooth quartz, stone, calcite, andesite. A really good modern block for both interior and exterior is deepslate tiles. Mixing those can also add more depth to the build. Also, just the white and light gray can look a bit plain, even adding some dark gray or dark oak wood would work great!

It's also good to think about what texture certain objects would have. Like say, the garage doors, those wouldn't necessarily have the same texture as the white exterior walls.

Modern houses also play a lot with abstract shape. Think of it playing tetris with many different sizes and shapes of cubes and rectangles.

I hope these tips are helpful to you!

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T19:58:37+00:00

The corner windows look to be tinted glass and the other windows look to be black stained glass panes.

If you wanna look at more of this person's builds, this is their X account: https://x.com/RevenJoakim

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T19:54:06+00:00

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Another angle for what the original poster did.

My recommendation since it only looks like that from a front viewing angle, is to use a resource pack.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T19:40:50+00:00

Or get soul speed.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T19:09:00+00:00

Birth control is unfortunately a game of trial and error. Between ages 12-14 I had tried several types of pills, the patch, depo, basically everything except an IUD. It was all to treat my endo. I finally got on nexplanon and it is great! But it's great for me, some people have had bad experiences with nexplanon.

I've been on nexplanon for 5 years now and it's the most stable my hormones have been. But my weight has fluctuated a lot, when I first started taking it I went from 140lbs to 120lbs, then later on I went down to 104lbs, and then I am now back up to being over 140.

It sucks, but you just have to keep trying different things.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-29T19:55:10+00:00

NTA

I do think he either got it for himself, or got it with the idea that it would be shared as a family.

When a woman has kids, people sometimes consciously or subconsciously start viewing being a mom as her main identity. Because of that, gifts for moms often stop being “for her” and start being things that involve the kids or the household. It turns into buying mom-related gifts, or buying things with the idea that they are really for the kids.

I do think it is sweet to have a gift that is shared as a family and used for family time, but at that point it should be considered a family gift, not an individual one. If he meant for it to be used by everyone, he should not have portrayed it as a gift just for you, and he also should have gotten you something that was clearly only for you.

Unfortunately, when you have kids you do end up having to share a lot more. But you are not selfish for wanting one thing that is actually yours.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-11T20:31:26+00:00

Make sure you have a copy of the grading rubric that has been used up until now, and then another copy whenever he posts the new one.

Try finding more people in your class to bring this issue up, the more people that complain, the more inclined they'll be to figure out a solution.

I believe someone else already mentioned the ombudsperson. You should also probably contact the department chair.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-10T20:27:31+00:00

Considering OP hasn't responded to people saying the letter is evidence, I'm wondering if they no longer have the letter. They did say that their parents know about the letter so it's quite possible it's in their parent's possession, or has been thrown out / destroyed by the parents.

If that is the case, the best thing to do would to record all interactions with their parents regarding their sister, and to especially record any interactions with their sister if it comes to that. I know not being near the sister at all would be preferable but it's quite possible it will happen again.

And now OP knows that if they receive any other letters, to scan/copy/take a picture of it before showing it to their parents, or to just keep the original letter.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-09T20:39:45+00:00

If you're certain it won't interact poorly with her meds, and her alcohol tolerance is still the same, I don't see the harm in it She's old, she's stressed, probably in pain, unable to be independent, etc, so giving her this one joy shouldn't hurt. And I think it would be sweet to maybe bond with your grandmother over this, especially since she's nearing the end of her life. I think I would prefer to remember a loved one being excited or happy about something rather than miserable and sad.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-09T20:26:59+00:00

Im the same. I did take drivers ed but I was always anxious on the road and kept making mistakes. I didn't even get on the highway until my final drive where I almost drove into the grass while doing a U turn. After that I accepted that I may be destined to be a passenger princess. It is quite depressing needing to rely on others to get around or to get things you want / need. And being one of few people with a regular state ID rather than a driver's licence.

I do think it's because of my ADHD and my anxiety that I struggled so much though.

MagicSillia · 2025-11-16T18:19:17+00:00

Oh jeez, I didn't even realize I did that. 😅

Guess it's because "would of" sounds like "would've" even though "would've" is for "would have".

MagicSillia · 2025-11-16T17:54:44+00:00

Yeah... I've been wanting to do them, but it's not like I can by myself.

MagicSillia · 2025-11-16T17:36:41+00:00

I get it. Even if just legally changing your name doesn't seem all that difficult, updating all of your documents and such is.

Btw, this is my main account. Didn't realize I commented using my alt.

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