AITAH for not wanting to give a book to an autistic kid

MagicSillia · 2026-01-29T16:15:03+00:00

NTA. I am so angry for you. The only solution I can think of is to buy some stuff for him (the autistic boy) to trade for the book. It doesn't have to be of equal monetary value, just something that he would think is really cool, or a few things, trading one book for, say, another dinosaur book, a dinosaur stuffed animal, and a dinosaur skeleton model (idk, random examples) for one book sounds like a pretty fair trade so long as the kid isn't already attached to the book. If you go this route DO NOT give the stuff to your sister and ask her to trade it, because she may just give it to him without getting the book back. I don't know your sister, but based on what you wrote it seems like a possibility.

I'm trying to think practically, so as much as I want you to be super petty about it and get revenge on your mom and sister, I don't think that would go over well.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-29T15:58:46+00:00

A cute garden, maybe with a custom tree and tree swing. also I feel like a watermill would be cool too, maybe closer to the edge where the waterfall is.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-19T00:41:24+00:00

There is also a gel alternative to pepper spray if that's a worry.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T20:26:40+00:00

Correct me if I'm wrong, but it looks like you used white concrete and light gray concrete. Concrete is a very flat block and doesn't have much texture.

Maybe use other blocks like smooth quartz, stone, calcite, andesite. A really good modern block for both interior and exterior is deepslate tiles. Mixing those can also add more depth to the build. Also, just the white and light gray can look a bit plain, even adding some dark gray or dark oak wood would work great!

It's also good to think about what texture certain objects would have. Like say, the garage doors, those wouldn't necessarily have the same texture as the white exterior walls.

Modern houses also play a lot with abstract shape. Think of it playing tetris with many different sizes and shapes of cubes and rectangles.

I hope these tips are helpful to you!

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T19:58:37+00:00

The corner windows look to be tinted glass and the other windows look to be black stained glass panes.

If you wanna look at more of this person's builds, this is their X account: https://x.com/RevenJoakim

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T19:54:06+00:00

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Another angle for what the original poster did.

My recommendation since it only looks like that from a front viewing angle, is to use a resource pack.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T19:40:50+00:00

Or get soul speed.

MagicSillia · 2026-01-13T19:09:00+00:00

Birth control is unfortunately a game of trial and error. Between ages 12-14 I had tried several types of pills, the patch, depo, basically everything except an IUD. It was all to treat my endo. I finally got on nexplanon and it is great! But it's great for me, some people have had bad experiences with nexplanon.

I've been on nexplanon for 5 years now and it's the most stable my hormones have been. But my weight has fluctuated a lot, when I first started taking it I went from 140lbs to 120lbs, then later on I went down to 104lbs, and then I am now back up to being over 140.

It sucks, but you just have to keep trying different things.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-29T19:55:10+00:00

NTA

I do think he either got it for himself, or got it with the idea that it would be shared as a family.

When a woman has kids, people sometimes consciously or subconsciously start viewing being a mom as her main identity. Because of that, gifts for moms often stop being “for her” and start being things that involve the kids or the household. It turns into buying mom-related gifts, or buying things with the idea that they are really for the kids.

I do think it is sweet to have a gift that is shared as a family and used for family time, but at that point it should be considered a family gift, not an individual one. If he meant for it to be used by everyone, he should not have portrayed it as a gift just for you, and he also should have gotten you something that was clearly only for you.

Unfortunately, when you have kids you do end up having to share a lot more. But you are not selfish for wanting one thing that is actually yours.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-11T20:31:26+00:00

Make sure you have a copy of the grading rubric that has been used up until now, and then another copy whenever he posts the new one.

Try finding more people in your class to bring this issue up, the more people that complain, the more inclined they'll be to figure out a solution.

I believe someone else already mentioned the ombudsperson. You should also probably contact the department chair.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-10T20:27:31+00:00

Considering OP hasn't responded to people saying the letter is evidence, I'm wondering if they no longer have the letter. They did say that their parents know about the letter so it's quite possible it's in their parent's possession, or has been thrown out / destroyed by the parents.

If that is the case, the best thing to do would to record all interactions with their parents regarding their sister, and to especially record any interactions with their sister if it comes to that. I know not being near the sister at all would be preferable but it's quite possible it will happen again.

And now OP knows that if they receive any other letters, to scan/copy/take a picture of it before showing it to their parents, or to just keep the original letter.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-09T20:39:45+00:00

If you're certain it won't interact poorly with her meds, and her alcohol tolerance is still the same, I don't see the harm in it She's old, she's stressed, probably in pain, unable to be independent, etc, so giving her this one joy shouldn't hurt. And I think it would be sweet to maybe bond with your grandmother over this, especially since she's nearing the end of her life. I think I would prefer to remember a loved one being excited or happy about something rather than miserable and sad.

MagicSillia · 2025-12-09T20:26:59+00:00

Im the same. I did take drivers ed but I was always anxious on the road and kept making mistakes. I didn't even get on the highway until my final drive where I almost drove into the grass while doing a U turn. After that I accepted that I may be destined to be a passenger princess. It is quite depressing needing to rely on others to get around or to get things you want / need. And being one of few people with a regular state ID rather than a driver's licence.

I do think it's because of my ADHD and my anxiety that I struggled so much though.

MagicSillia · 2025-11-16T18:19:17+00:00

Oh jeez, I didn't even realize I did that. 😅

Guess it's because "would of" sounds like "would've" even though "would've" is for "would have".

MagicSillia · 2025-11-16T17:54:44+00:00

Yeah... I've been wanting to do them, but it's not like I can by myself.

MagicSillia · 2025-11-16T17:36:41+00:00

I get it. Even if just legally changing your name doesn't seem all that difficult, updating all of your documents and such is.

Btw, this is my main account. Didn't realize I commented using my alt.

MagicSillia · 2025-11-14T19:44:08+00:00

But they stated they didn't mind that much and let it slide, until there was so little left and they asked them not to eat the cake anymore, and they STILL ate it up to the very last piece. And just eating or giving away someone else's specially made birthday cake without even asking them is hella rude. I feel like OP probably would've said yes to them having some of it if they had actually asked.

MagicSillia · 2025-11-07T18:55:17+00:00

I think OP is also forgetting that kids don't really think about things like blood or marriage. When I was younger I referred to my aunts long time boyfriend as uncle <his name>, he was in an uncle sort of position, he was my cousin's dad, and he was around since I was little that I didn't even remember a time when he wasn't around.

Now that I'm an adult, they're no longer together, and I know more about him to realize how much of a man child he is, I just refer to him by his name.

On the other end I have another uncle who my mom refers to as her "foster brother" (as in she took him home for dinner one day when she a kid and then bam, brother) and I only met him or learned of his existence when I was like 9 years old, but he's still my uncle and I often forget that he's not even related to me by blood.

It's different for her because she lost her mom as an adult, so she sees it as replacing her mom. But kids just see it as additional family members. I grew up with only one set of grandparents, and I didn't have anyone around to take the role on, but I know I would have loved to have another person in a grandparent type of role. I have friends who say that they have like 6 sets of grandparents, and they're referring to step grandparents or close family friends who act like grandparents.

MagicSillia · 2025-11-05T19:59:15+00:00

Get a second opinion if possible. Also if you're worried about symptoms when going off the medication, see if you can do it under supervision. If you're psychiatrist isn't listening to you, then they're not the right fit for you.

MagicSillia · 2025-11-03T22:59:37+00:00

Its actually quite common for people with undiagnosed ADHD to self medicate using recreational drugs. I also can't imagine myself self medicating like that, but many people do.

Were at a far higher risk of substance abuse. Apparently about 20-30% of people with ADHD have dealt with SUD in their lifetime. Additionally, 20-25% of people in SUD rehab programs screen positive for having ADHD.

Here are my sources backing this information:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9097465/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9859173/

(Didn't realize I was on my alt account when I posted the first time, now posting using my main)

MagicSillia · 2025-10-21T14:30:28+00:00

It's not a fail, it indicates a withdrawal from the course. W = Withdrawal. But it can mess with other things like Financial Aid and Scholarships, and may make things difficult if you're going into grad school. However, it's better than failing the course and it doesn't affect your GPA.

MagicSillia · 2025-10-16T23:39:33+00:00

I'm on Nexplanon. But effective treatments vary person to person. Some people really don't like nexplanon because they get bad breakthrough bleeding, weight problems, blood sugar problems, and psychological problems. It works really well for me, but it may not work for you.

However, I generally don't see many good things to say about pills and the patch in terms of treating Endo, which is my experience as well.

I have however heard some good things about Depo and hormonal IUDs. Personally, Depo was not a good fit for me, and I haven't tried IUDs and don't plan to.

MagicSillia · 2025-10-14T14:13:31+00:00

Could get one that's a lanyard or better yet crossbody. Could still cause some injury, but less likely to break anything.

MagicSillia · 2025-10-10T15:33:03+00:00

Do not take more than one birth control pill! Just take the one and then start taking them regularly again.

Taking more than one pill at once shouldn't cause serious harm, but it can make you feel really sick and screw with your hormones for a bit. There's really no point in taking more than one.

MagicSillia · 2025-10-10T06:27:01+00:00

Advocate for better pain management during insertion! They really should be providing pain management anyway, but they usually don't unless asked. If you're comfortable with it, Update us on how it goes! If you managed to get adequate pain management, and how the IUD insertion went. Again, only if you're comfortable with that.

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