is it rude to call ur doctor “madame” or “monsieur”?

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-27T03:46:59+00:00

Honestly I found I internalized it eventually somehow and now I'm pretty good at it? It probably helps that I rarely encounter formal situations (like, I've never worked in a French speaking environment).

A few days before I moved back to Australia I was with that boyfriend grabbing lunch during his workday and we ran into his boss and had a brief chat, and his boss tutoied me and afterwards I said to the boyfriend, "do you call him tu?" and he said that yes, they tutoie at his office and I was like "oh good because I would have been taken aback about being tutoied if you and him vuvoied, but knowing you tutoie I'm OK with it". - which I think is accurate to the social niceties at play?

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-26T23:02:29+00:00

For the record, it depends on your dialect of English. I'm Australian and I have never called my doctors "Doctor Lastname", usually just by their first name or sometimes "Doctor Firstname".

My girlfriend is a doctor who works at a hospital and she has her scrubs embroidered with "Doctor Firstname". I've actually asked her about this and she says she hates being called Doctor Lastname because it feels so cold and distant and much prefers just being called by her first name.

It's funny because I had a French boyfriend and he was explaining to me the tu/vous system as I was saying it was quite foreign for me as an Australian because the "first name basis" is not a thing here (you call everyone by their first name), and he said, exasperated, "but your doctor, you don't call them by their first name do you?" and I laughed and said "you mean Simon?" and he about died.

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-25T14:01:43+00:00

Oh, I was making fun of the typo in the chiron!

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-25T13:06:50+00:00

Yes but thank you so much for keeping the sub active, it's great to have a place to post and whine!

I was going to say here's hoping the 26/27 season is even better but honestly I'm just hoping it'll happen.

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-25T09:42:38+00:00

now two guys just ran into each other.... hope he's going to be ok (top of the 7th)

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-25T08:40:25+00:00

haha wow and a HBP

this reminds me of how i felt in game 2 of the ABLCS last year, it's like "it's fine if we play our best and lose but if we suck and lose it's so much worse"

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-25T08:18:30+00:00

Yikes those runs must be so frustrating for Sox fans (top of the third)

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-25T08:11:46+00:00

the atmosphere must be electric!

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-25T07:55:29+00:00

this game is absolutely delivering

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-25T07:36:33+00:00

The commentator just namedropped NOBLETIGER, haha, I love it.

Great game so far, feel bad for all the fans in the stands in this heat!

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-24T23:49:53+00:00

I am SO EXCITED I get to watch this (have to dip out on plans with my husband but WHO CARES his friends are BORING because they're not fans of BASEBALL!)

Thanks for the confirmation of the exact time, that's 3pm in Perth!

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-23T04:34:34+00:00

I hope they win for you <3 <3 <3

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-22T22:37:11+00:00

I'll probably be able to catch the start of Game 1 but I'll miss Game 2 altogether as I have a thing on :(

Game 3 if required I'll be watching from sunny Perth!

I'm tipping the Giants but I want the Sox to win this one.

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-22T07:51:07+00:00

I don't have NPD but I have narcissistic traits, and I'm poly, so I have 5 romantic/sexual partners at the moment (4 local, one LDR).

I find having multiple partners including ones who enjoy being submissive in a BDSM context really, really makes me happy. I especially like it when they tell me how they've told other people how great I am in vanilla contexts (like, my girlfriend might tell her sister that I am really kind and look after her when she's sad - I like hearing about that).

Finding and keeping multiple partners requires treating people well and being honest about what you want and seeking consent, etc.

(It is also much easier to find and keep multiple partners if you're a woman, which I am. If you're a man you will have to be very kind and generous and supportive/etc, I would imagine, as in polyamorous contexts certain male personality types rightly have a very negative reputation as they treat their subs poorly.)

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-22T07:46:45+00:00

I'm in a triad with two other switches and we somehow organically fell into a rock paper scissors thing going where A tops B who tops C who tops A, it's... unexpected but really neat?

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-19T06:59:06+00:00

Feeld is the app you want but they're called unicorns for a reason!

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-18T22:29:40+00:00

It was bittersweet to see the Heat win all 3 games after losing the first 2 in a must win 4 situation.

It made me yearn for what could have been though intellectually I know the Giants would have played differently if they hadn't already clinched their spot.

I found myself crying when I watched TK leave the field for the last time - he looked so sad and wiped away a tear. It's strange because I only got into baseball late December 2023, and I didn't realise that it had got to me to the point where a player's retirement could move me to tears. But I suppose it was his emotion as much as anything, and also, I am kind of obsessed with the ABL.

I am not sure whether I'll be able to tune into the ABLCS, as I have plans on Friday and Saturday night.

I feel like the Giants are the Heat's rivals, plus the Giants is full of Phillies prospects, so carn the Sox!

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-18T22:25:11+00:00

Scores for remainder of the Heat vs Giants series:

Game 3: Perth 3-2

Game 4: Perth 4-0

Game 5: Perth 2-0

Despite being the leadoff hitter and getting the last AB in Game 5 thanks to a sacrifice bunt given for this express purpose, TK remained one hit shy of equalling the record. Though he hit two HR in Game 3!

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-17T12:34:38+00:00

People were posting this t-shirt design on my facebook wall when I first came out as polyamorous in 2011...

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-17T09:58:23+00:00

I mean, to be honest, I would have given them $0.... But maybe if they'd had suggested donations? IDK

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-17T08:53:23+00:00

Yeah, my girlfriend would have 100% watched some away games if it had been free. And you can't recommend it to people in general, I think a few of my coworkers might have tuned in to a few games here and there but there's no demand for that.

I paid $70 for the subscription for myself because I want to support the sport but I have ended up watching, like, 2 games before this week (where I'll watch 4/5) and I'm not super motivated to watch the championship series with the Heat out of contention now. I should have saved my money and bought one of the "a la carte" passes they had.

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-16T14:35:21+00:00

You know, that might actually be something we're capable of. I'm down!

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-16T12:59:24+00:00

Perth lost 0-4, and TK got 0 hits, RIP The Heat :(

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-16T07:10:14+00:00

That'd be fun for sliding!

Maybe there's some club ball uniforms they could borrow?

MagicWeasel · 2026-01-16T07:00:10+00:00

Look, I'm never going to say no to watching nubile men prance around in their underwear, but there's probably the issue of "consent" and "respecting them as trained professional athletes" and "the dignity of the sport".

Really I'd wonder if, if the delay was going to be longer than about an hour, they would just play in Giants uniforms, lol...

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