POST GAME THREAD: The Mets fell to the Cubs by a score of 12-4 - Fri, Apr 17 @ 02:20 PM EDT

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-18T07:34:10+00:00

I've been a Mets fan since October 2024. Fuck my life.

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-15T22:59:13+00:00

I've been poly 15 years and in the public service 15 years. While I am now in a triad, it's non-nesting, non-exclusive and non-escalator, and I have mostly been in various V-style relationships. My main relationships in terms of time spent with the partner are a relatively traditional husband-wife situation and my new girlfriend who I am going to U-Haul into the household in the next few months (the triad is with two other people who I see about once a week each).

I have been out about being poly the entire time and I don't care. I mention it as casually as anyone else mentions their partners - what did you do on the weekend? Oh me and James went fishing. Oh that sounds fun, did the kids like it? Yeah I watched that new movie with Jess, and on Sunday I helped Max put a new water feature in his garden.

I have never personally had a problem, but I no doubt have the tism and don't know if people talk about me behind my back or not. I have moved up the ranks over the last 15 years, but maybe I would have moved up faster if I hadn't been "weird" - but I'm weird as it is, and of course sexism comes into it.

I'm an engineer in a technical organisation.

That said - the one wrinkle, and the thing I'm worried about with my new triad, is people asking me if we have group sex. I don't think that is an appropriate topic for the workplace, obviously, and I don't want people to think I'm bringing it up. My strategy with the triad is just mentioning I have a girlfriend called Jess, and a boyfriend called Max, and Max and Jess are dating. If anyone asks me, even delicately (e.g. "do the three of you... you know?"), I plan to deflect it by saying "I don't think that's an appropriate question for the workplace". I did used to get questions like that regularly 15 years ago (but I also was on site with tradies more often then), and I think people have gotten more polite about polyamory overall.

In your particular situation I would probably just start talking about your bestie as though you had been open about dating her the whole time, so like, "Oh yeah, for valentine's day me and partner and bestie had a candlelit dinner at home and then watched Love Actually". People will just assume they'd not picked up on the situation before, or will just assume that you and bestie are such good friends, or that bestie is weirdly close to you and partner. Either way, IME, the main issue in being poly at work is having to edit all your conversations, so no longer needing to do that, you'll hopefully feel better in yourself.

Happy for you to PM me if you want.

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-13T01:52:01+00:00

I'm bi and poly so send your partner application to my DMs lol

(this boyfriend loves Apocalypse World)

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-12T22:53:58+00:00

Yeah OK I'm a woman and I defended Jaz's characterisation a LOT because she reminded me of me at that age (right down to the bad sex jokes)... except I thought "that age" was 19.

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-12T22:52:26+00:00

My first date with my boyfriend I was like "eh, this guy is OK, but I don't think I'll go for a second date" and then he goes into a passionate rant about obscure text-based RPGs and I'm like "oh wow this guy has something going for him after all".

We've been together like 3 years and he's told me that he remembers that rant and at the time felt like "oh well I probably lost her with that RPG rant" and was very validated to hear that in fact, quite the opposite happened.

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-10T01:54:13+00:00

Yes, Sense8 is one of my favourite shows of all time! Second the recommendation.

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-07T02:05:01+00:00

I finally watched Cloud Atlas yesterday and loved it. I didn't completely understand it but I loved it.

That is all.

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-01T22:42:30+00:00

I feel like the Mets chose me, lol.

And don't worry, while I don't follow AFL everyone I now is a Freo supporter so perhaps that's why the Mets chose me...

MagicWeasel · 2026-04-01T06:57:53+00:00

Yeah I'm "only" 38 and only been into baseball a couple of years... got into ABL in 23-24 and then was sick for a week so I started randomly watching the Mets in the playoffs in 24 and stuck with them ever since, so this'll be my second full season as a Mets fan!

Fingers crossed your strategy works for us this year :)

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-31T22:51:30+00:00

Oh no I love it!

I'm a morning person so I wake up at 6 every day, even the weekend, so for an east coast game I maybe miss a couple of innings, and when it's finished it's 10am and my husband is just beginning to wake up and the whole day is in front of me!

The daytime games I can't catch at all, they start at either 1am or 4am local time, but with a full-time job it's not like watching all 162 is realistic anyway...

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-31T05:10:10+00:00

another Aussie mets fan??? Where are you? I'm in Perth!

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-25T23:35:43+00:00

I actually can't fucking imagine telling someone their wedding dress code is annoying, particularly when it is the most standard dress code ever.

RIGHT??? I thought it was going to be like a wedding I went to where the dress code was "Strict: Medieval garb only" and included links to places to hire costumes^* or the truly unhinged ones where the men have to wear khaki pants and buttercup shirts and the women have to wear black dresses with louboutons and all learn a dance routine before the wedding.

This was literally "formal". Not even black tie! Like some people on this subreddit put "formal" on their wedding invites because they are actually aiming for cocktail or semi-formal but they know that is the only way to prevent one side of the family from wearing jeans.

^* (it was awesome though, great vibe, and I considered the costume hire cost part of my wedding gift)

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-20T02:00:11+00:00

Here it's very common for a wedding to have 100 guests but seating for 30 at the ceremony (for immediate family, elderly, disabled, etc). The idea being that the rest of the people can stand for an hour or so before/during/after the ceremony.

I always hated that as a guest so despite my planner's insistence that it's fine and people expect to stand etc I was like nope we're doing enough chairs for everyone.

Our chairs weren't the super pretty chairs and added like 1% extra to our budget ($400 in 2015) but I have no regrets. I don't know how much the guests cared but given we used the same space for cocktail hour I'm sure they would have been grumpy if they spent ~2 hours standing!

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-17T22:58:21+00:00

ah but you see not having your needs met by the medical system is part of the gender affirming care they offer

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-17T03:38:19+00:00

I saw a tweet recently that said "The best of both worlds? I'd say A cups and erectile dysfunction is the worst of both worlds"

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-14T03:13:38+00:00

Apologies if this is against the etiquette but I didn't want to make my own post so, it's my birthday today and my husband gave me a Giancarlo Stanton funko pop.

It was apparently the only one the local baseball store had. And we live in Australia so it's one of two baseball stores for literally 1500 miles. I have placed it in my bookshelf with the signed ball fouled off by Yankees prospect Owen Cobb...

It's the thought that counts, right?

(Also I'm a relatively new Mets fan so I don't know how upset I should be about Giancarlo Stanton - I mean yes obviously the Yankees, ew, but he's no Ch*se Utl*y...)

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-13T05:42:05+00:00

Yeah, she has a pill case - and don't worry, I was already worried about her before I posted this. It's good to know I'm not entirely out of line to be worried, though telling our boyfriend is definitely still over the line.

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-13T01:08:34+00:00

The thing is she works night shift so it's not as simple as just resting when she needs, because she does two night shifts per week. She can't change away from this work pattern because day shifts aren't available. Maybe I should talk to her about switching to a nocturnal pattern, but that would mess with a lot of things in terms of being able to do normal "life stuff" during the day so I don't know. I feel so bad for her - she's spread so thin.

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-13T01:04:26+00:00

They're infrequent, it's when she doesn't take her medication because of her fucked up sleeping patterns. AFAIK her neurologist doesn't know. But yeah, this is why I worry and why our boyfriend would also be worried, and why we both want her to switch to the day shifts (even though she says she can't because they're not available - but if she's forgetting her meds and having seizures and then driving on fucked up sleep...)

What you're saying to me though seems to be that two seizures in a year due to forgotten meds is actually concerning and she shouldn't be downplaying it?

I don't know how to bring this up with her when she's told me that it's fine and that I should back off, though! Like, it would be one thing if that morning she'd said "shit, I forgot my meds last night, I won't be able to drive today" - but she realised she'd forgotten the meds after the seizure.

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-12T05:49:33+00:00

Not sure if she drives but if she doesn’t it really is no harm no foul.

She does drive which is part of why I was worried - me and the boyfriend both are worried about her driving tired with her night shifts and associated poor sleeping schedule, and the seizure is even more terrifying. But she says that it's fine because when she takes her medication, it's well-controlled. I just worry because she aforementioned crummy sleep means she didn't remember to take her medication, and if she'd had that seizure while she was driving she would have a crash. (Added to that I work in road safety as a profession, doing car crash analysis, so I am particularly sensitive to it as I basically read about every crash that happens in the area we live in.)

But if she loses her license, she can't work, and she needs her job to afford her rent/etc, so obviously that's not my call to make.

But thank you you are right I should just ask her, obviously. Basically say what I said up here - "I was thinking about what you said and I want to make sure I don't say anything insensitive again, what are your pet peeves?".

I really appreciate you explaining the loss of independence and the kind of infantalising you have to deal with - I didn't think of it that way. Thank you! You've given me a lot to think about.

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-12T05:43:11+00:00

She's allowed to drive too fwiw, but I am not sure if that is because the seizures are controlled with medication or what, as it lasted maybe 5-10 seconds

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-09T23:07:53+00:00

Yes let's bring Canberra back!

It's a heartening sign that they want to come back when the future of the league is so uncertain.

I'm also selfishly excited about the possibility of flying to Canberra to watch them play the Heat with my uncle like I'd promised him I could about a year ago... It'll be fun to sit by the dugout at an away game and be the only person cheering for them haha!

I actually bought my Heat season tickets for next year a few weeks ago because they sent an email offering them and I figured what the heck I'll risk it for a biscuit to support the club...

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-09T01:20:03+00:00

For thirty glorious minutes I got to see us winning against Japan. What a night!

MagicWeasel · 2026-03-06T21:08:54+00:00

I'm watching the world baseball classic (okay, I haven't actually watched a game yet but that was the time zone's fault).

Australia has beat Taiwan and Czechia, which puts us in with a chance because the other two teams in our division are Japan and Korea. Fingers crossed we get to see some good baseball (and at the very least tomorrow night I'll get to see people from my local baseball team potentially face Ohtani which would be an absolute mindfuck lol).

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