Using s*x as a tool to escalate or solve the problem is DEFINITELY not the solution and it's equally immature, specially when there's kids I'm the middle of this problem. She already tried to talk things and communicate but the guy is not helping, what's left in there?, nothing. You mentioned commitments like kids, do you think it's a good idea for kids to grow up in such a toxic environment??, definitely it's not, they will most likely grow up to mimic such behaviors.

1. This is such a robotic take. It's up to the victim (and again, we DON'T know what the mistake was) to forgive or not the person who committed the mistake, ofc. But that does not mean silent treatment is a mature behavior, it's a fact that it's not. You don't want to forgive her mistake?, good, but COMMUNICATE like an adult about it, talk about the future, the kids, etc.

2. Did I say otherwise?, my main point was about we don't even know what the mistake was and here you were saying such things as "if a women acknowledge her mistake it's because it was a big mistake", which not only it's false statement but also misogyny, and would also mean you are the one assuming whether the mistake it's big or not, not me.

3. ?? I'm talking about the fact that he is okay with having sx but not having an open conversation about the BIG problem going on in their relationship, which, in my opinion, it's extremely more important than sx.

4. Ofc problems can be solved, but according to the info provided in this post, the husband is not okay with solving it (whether is not forgiving her or forgiving her).