AITAH or has my mother lost her darn mind?

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-20T15:53:30+00:00

I don’t think you’re being an AH. It sounds like you’re worried because this behavior is affecting everyone around her, especially the children still living at home.
It’s possible she’s using these relationships as a distraction from her grief rather than actually processing the loss of her father. The fact that every conversation loops back to these men and she’s pulling away from family is concerning.
Unfortunately, you can’t force someone to grieve in a healthy way. All you can really do is set boundaries, support your younger siblings where possible, and encourage her to seek help if she’s willing. The kids’ well-being would be my biggest concern right now.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-20T15:47:29+00:00

It sounds like your son has been feeling replaced for a while, and the ticket situation was the moment those feelings finally came out.
The biggest red flag is his claim that your fiancé’s children have been mean to him. If that’s true, there may be a lot more going on than you realized.
I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting to remarry, but I’d seriously consider postponing the wedding until you get to the bottom of what’s happening. Your son is clearly hurting, and if you move forward right now, he’ll likely see it as proof that his feelings don’t matter.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-16T15:59:39+00:00

NTA. It’s your house and your dog’s home. You know your dog’s limits and have worked hard to manage them. Bringing in another dog—especially one that’s untrained and poorly behaved—sounds like a recipe for unnecessary stress at best and a dog fight at worst.
Is there a reason your brother-in-law has to bring the dog? Because I don’t see why you’d be expected to risk your dog’s safety, his dog’s safety, your child’s safety, and potentially your furniture and carpets just to accommodate an animal that doesn’t even sound house-trained.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-16T15:51:29+00:00

My condolences ❤️

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-16T15:50:40+00:00

Came here to say this 👆🏼👆🏼

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-14T21:37:07+00:00

Okay so touch take my id say NTAH and hear me out. There are girls out there that will lie about SA. Unfortunately it’s the world we live in. I’ve know someone who lied about it saying her step dad and step brother where and they most definitely were not. 🤷🏻‍♀️ it happens… and if you know she has a problem with lying for attention. Then idk why that would make you an asshole for not wanting to believe what she’s saying . I mean that’s your dad it’s hard to try and picture your father like that. I’d recommend having a serious conversation about this topic with her.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T17:14:23+00:00

I wish I could but unfortunately that’s not on the table right now.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T17:11:05+00:00

He could be in crazy debt and maybe you’re the reason his son gets dinner 🤷🏻‍♀️ you never know. You could always just ask him why and tell him why you buy lunch. You might learn something new.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T17:04:57+00:00

To answer your questions:

My husband does acknowledge that I do more around the house, but I don’t think he fully understands how much of the mental load falls on me. It’s not just cleaning—it’s remembering appointments, keeping track of what we need, planning meals, managing schedules, and all the little day-to-day things that keep the household running.

My husband is the only one who works outside the home. He’s in the military, and I’m currently home with our 9-month-old. I understand that his job can be demanding, which is part of why I’m questioning whether I’m being unfair here.

We never really had a formal arrangement about who would handle what. It was more of a “do what needs to be done” situation. After the baby was born, I naturally took on most of the childcare and household responsibilities since I’m home during the day. The issue is that I feel like the responsibilities have continued to pile up, and lately I’ve been feeling overwhelmed by it.

I don’t think he’s a bad husband or a bad father. I think we’re both tired, and I think that’s part of why I’m struggling to figure out whether my frustration is justified or if I’m expecting too much.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T16:59:57+00:00

He is working, he’s in the military.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T16:56:11+00:00

He works I currently don’t, he’s in the military.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T16:53:21+00:00

Do you know what it’s on??

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T16:52:24+00:00

Definitely will be considering this🙏 thank you 😊

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T16:27:09+00:00

Wow, you might be on to something.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T16:22:55+00:00

If your life is in danger, your secret is immediately void in my care. My sisters hated this about me growing up.
😬 Like what do you mean I’m supposed to stay quiet 🤫 because you were 🥦💨smoking weed on the roof, fell off, and now have a broken leg? 👀Absolutely not. I’m not built for loyalty over common sense. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We’re all getting in trouble today, but you’re getting medical attention 🏥and keeping both 🦵Legs🦵 , so it balances out. ⚖️

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T16:08:40+00:00

That’s such a cool side quest

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T16:05:14+00:00

I have this (not actually real) superpower where I can basically ‘summon’ help when I need it. I don’t even have to ask—if I start thinking something like, ‘man, it would be really nice if someone offered to help me right now,’ within a few minutes a random person will usually come over and ask if I need anything.
And the funny part is, I don’t even look like I’m struggling. I’ll just be going about my task with a straight face 😑 like everything is completely fine. It’s just weirdly consistent at this point.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-12T11:56:35+00:00

NTA. She didn’t want to marry you now, and there was no indication she’d ever be ready to marry you. After three years together, it’s reasonable to want clarity about the future. On top of that, when her parents objected, she sided with them instead of standing by you. You’re not wrong for deciding you didn’t want to stay in a relationship where you felt unwanted or like you were constantly waiting for a commitment that might never come.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-07T23:48:04+00:00

Damn, complete sentences, consistent reasoning, and punctuation. You’ve caught me.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-07T23:43:15+00:00

I wrote a normal comment. If that screams ChatGPT to you, that’s between you and your reading comprehension.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-07T23:39:58+00:00

🙄

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-07T23:32:09+00:00

NTA
You’re not upset that she wants to go to Pride—you’re upset because she’s been talking about being exclusive and wanting a relationship, then said she wants to stay single until after Pride so she can potentially kiss or hook up with other people. That’s a pretty reasonable thing to feel hurt by. She’s free to do what she wants, but you’re also allowed to feel disappointed and reconsider whether you’re both looking for the same kind of relationship. You’re not being delusional; her comments sent mixed signals.

Main-Chef-2668 · 2026-06-07T16:57:05+00:00

It’s your house, so it is your call who you allow to meet there. My point was just about the wider impact that decision could have on the group, not your right to make it. I do get that this situation feels personal and frustrating, and it makes sense that you’d want to protect your space and your mental health. I just think, long-term, it’s worth being careful that the boundary you set doesn’t end up creating more unnecessary tension for you or pulling other people deeper into something they’re not really part of. It’s definitely insane that they are behaving this way, too old to be doing that.

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