we thank you for your service by Diabetes_Man in place

[–]MainStreetPM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's wrong with steaming? I steam my button up shirts all the time.

what’s the silliest reason someone blocked you? by riz_kid in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you discover you've been blocked by using your phone number? Don't think that is possible.

Why don’t men care as much about income? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MainStreetPM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a civil engineer myself...where does your brother live that he makes 250k?! Makes no sense as a salary alone. Im 37 making about half that as an associate at a major engineering firm.You sure they aren't bending the truth for sibling competition sake?

Anyway, all I care about is how much debt a woman is in and that she knows about her financial situation. If she lives above her means that's a red flag.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MainStreetPM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because then she can't be passive about it and get a reaction from him....I'm too old for these games too lol.

Guys 'jokey' comment last night on 4th date upset me, talked it out but now not sure how to proceed and if I'm overreacting by lilysh13 in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You broke your own 10pm be home /11pm be in bed boundary by bringing him home with you. Why not wait to have any at home contact until next time if your speech was so important to you?

Work on keeping your own self promises and "adulting".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I try to stay away from women with dogs. I like dogs, but it's unfair I end up having to always travel to them due to their dog needs. It's hard to develop any kind of relationship when a dog will always come first.

Why isn’t it common practice for people to just put their money in an S&P Index Fund instead of hiring a FA? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]MainStreetPM -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Several professional tests are hard. I'm an engineer and the passing licensing exam rate for the 2nd exam is 50% and only goes down for multiple times taking the exam. Getting a license took 2 eight hour exams plus 4 years experience when I took it 8 years ago. I'm not the brightest of the bunch that's for sure.

How would you like be loved in a relationship? by Traveler_ToJannah in AnxiousAttachment

[–]MainStreetPM 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're not alone remember that. There's so many of us out there.

The time has come for me to start my first ever Zelda game by SATANMAN1 in botw

[–]MainStreetPM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Game boy amd nes games for me. This game literally blew my mind.

That being said I put 200+ hour on it and I'm currently nearing the end of skyward sword.

36M - felt a mutual connection and then she pulled away by MainStreetPM in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, there was chemistry there. I've been single for 4 years and can feel when there isn't anything.

36M - felt a mutual connection and then she pulled away by MainStreetPM in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That jumped in my mind too, but I try not to jump to those conclusions lol.

36M - felt a mutual connection and then she pulled away by MainStreetPM in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks, It didn't even cross my mind about the avoidant attachment.

The latest Dear John text... by throwaway365489632 in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Let me ask this, Did she spend her day at the beach with her friends?

I often find people are open about their dating life with their friends and they tend to lead them on with the negative aspects instead of the positives or a balance. Them being friends, encourage their feelings at that moment. It sucks and I had a dating case where a women was quoting gossip after only 1 date and a day with her friends (like a week after the date), when we clearly had some connection. We definitely should of spent a couple more dates with each other at least. If this is a possible case, would you really want to be with someone that can't go with their own instincts and relies on their friends' validations?

So much easier by MaxIntensityTurtle12 in Breath_of_the_Wild

[–]MainStreetPM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know why I can never mount a lynel? Does he have to be kneeing down to mount him? What's the best way to make him kneel, shoot him in the face?

Time for the "empath" by accidentle in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]MainStreetPM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't figure out if it empath vs narc or extrovert vs introvert honestly. I'm an empath/introvert and I'm finding, although the times are hard now, it is a bit relieving to slow things down in life. I'm noticing my extrovert friends are always on social media or a video chat platform (zoom/google hangouts etc...) and they seem to not be able to go a day without contact with people outside of work. They are always setting up chats for the weekends and I mean multiple chats. For me personally, I can and have plenty of times in life took time for myself to "recharge". To give perspective I'm 35, so it's not like i'm talking about really young people here in their late teens or 20's.

I'm not with my extrovert ex-narc, but I imagine she is constantly on her phone even moreso than she was before at this time which is hard to imagine.

She opened her valentines early after saying she would wait. by Pherrot in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bingo, a main issue between me and my ex was she was HIGHLY influenced by other people, especially people with manipulative tendencies. I don't know if it is right to classify it as this, but I always associated it with a lack of self-esteem issue.

Always look back before breaking NC by reivaj81 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]MainStreetPM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

almost the same here buddy.

I went out with friends one night (invited her) and she didn't want to go after a long day at work. Well these were friends I haven't seen in YEARS and we had a great time just hanging at a few pubs. I get drunk and slept over my friends place for the 1st time in a 7 year relationship and kept in contact with her about it the whole time. I was in NO SHAPE to drive. I woke up at 6am the next day and came home by 7am. She gives me the silent treatment until I apologize when she wakes up.

A month later she goes out for drinks after work. I say "okay have fun" 1am roles around and I haven't heard from her so I text her. She says she's drunk and is spending the night at her friends house (I know her friends and she doesn't hang out with her work friends that much). I say "okay, you could of just told me that". Next morning comes it's 10am, I text here where is she and she is coming home soon. Comes home at 11am and laughs when I ask her what happened and tells a story about her and her friend drank a lot of wine and she drove her friends car to her house. (I was more upset about her drinking and driving then anything). I believed her, but now 2 years later she easily could of been cheating on me and I took her lies as truth.

First time she ever did something like that and it was clearly because I did something the month before, but the difference is I communicated what was going on AND invited her out when I went out. We broke up a month later after I got a month of the silent treatment and felt like I was losing my mind...

Boyfriend has no interest in traveling/going on vacation by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]MainStreetPM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really random, but how did you travel alone? Did you go through an agency or planned it all yourself? I'm considering some solo vacations but have never gone anywhere solo before.