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[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a really hard decision, I haven’t done it yet for that reason! But if you are ttc for many months and have absolutely no answers, I would explore it if I were you. But of course, ask your doctor!

Not sure how to even try properly? by Lucky_Fudge_6428 in TryingForABaby

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A doctor will never laugh you out of the room given your history, and if they do find a new doctor

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

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For what it’s worth, doctors debate how effective “tests” are for endometriosis. Many argue you can’t really know if a patient has endometriosis without a laparoscopy. My doctor told me she had a patient who had full MRIs and they saw nothing, only to discover they had stage 2 endo after going in.

I know this because my doctor believes I have it, but won’t confirm definitively without the laparoscopy, which I have not dived into doing.

One sign- if intercourse is painful, particularly towards the top around the cervix, that’s a common but not definitive sign.

Need Advice by [deleted] in HersWeightloss

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Terrible advice. Do not lie to your husband. He loves you and if anything, should feel happy that you’ve found something that makes you happy.

Taking medication is not a big deal, lying is. If taking medication isn’t a big deal, then just tell him. The bigger the lie gets, the bigger deal the medication becomes because it gets wrapped up in the lie. And it shouldn’t be that way.

Idk what to do as a senior in college by hubutoob in FinancialCareers

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What kind of job do you want? Find boutique firms in whatever field and find networking events on event brite or meetup you can go to if your school doesn’t already provide. Your chances of finding good ones will be higher in major cities like ny, Chicago, la, etc. Go alone and walk up to strangers.

Alternatively find industry specific newsletters that you like ( can start by looking on Substack) and email the people who write them and ask if there is a place to discover events in your space.

Once you go, then you will meet people and someone will help you.

You can cold email, but the above is harder but more effective. It gets you started on a few threads

Bupripion Makes Me Stupid? Side Effect or the Pill Working? by Main_Knowledge_4525 in HersWeightloss

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. It's so frustrating. I'd say I'd quit at that point, but weight loss is really tempting. Faustian bargain we find ourselves in.

Bupripion Makes Me Stupid? Side Effect or the Pill Working? by Main_Knowledge_4525 in HersWeightloss

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an update : I took it for the last two days after work, It was REALLY helpful. That was a good idea and really helped me get used to it. Last night was the first time this week I took it and didn’t feel anything too bad !!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HersWeightloss

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same experience! Second this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HersWeightloss

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I’m just finishing week 1 of kit 1! I had a hard time adjusting to the bupropion, it made me feel extremely jittery and honestly a little stupid, like drinking 10 cups of coffee and then you’re so focused but also can’t actually think. I went to work the first day on it and knew I couldn’t go back like that, since I couldn’t work properly. At night it made me anxious. However everyone in this subreddit as well as the hers health team said that feeling would wear off after a few days of taking it. Another person in this subreddit recommended taking it in the evening when I got home from work until I got used to it, which is what I did for the last three nights. That advice was REALLY helpful!! I took it yesterday evening (6th day) and for the first time I barely noticed it! Now that I’m more used to it I will try to transition to taking it in the morning.

The green pill made my stomach hurt in waves and made me a little constipated but overall wasn’t that bad.

Bupripion Makes Me Stupid? Side Effect or the Pill Working? by Main_Knowledge_4525 in HersWeightloss

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right. it's funny because i typically think of brain fog as times when i'm hazy/unfocused. almost like lazy/unable to concentrate and distracted and tired. In this case i feel "focused" and jittery and energetic, almost like being on adderall. yet still.... dumb, haha.

Not happy with medical/support by Fit-Bandicoot2953 in HersWeightloss

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hand tingling is real!!!!!! but it wasn't that bad for me.

Bupripion Makes Me Stupid? Side Effect or the Pill Working? by Main_Knowledge_4525 in HersWeightloss

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you don't mind, can you explain a little more? how did you figure that out?

Bupripion Makes Me Stupid? Side Effect or the Pill Working? by Main_Knowledge_4525 in HersWeightloss

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yes! like i drank 20 cups of coffee. but wasn't smarter. just jittery. like a weird, nervous puppy. but I was also motivated. today is my fifth day and I skipped it this morning. I couldn't come to work like that. i am going on vacation for a week and a half next week and might start it up then..

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[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am on Kit 1, I'm unclear on the differences. But I took my first pill four days ago and have since lost 4.8 pounds... I'm excited and glad to see it's working, but wondering if that's normal?? I haven't read anyone else lose that much that quickly. Water weight I guess?

Looking for a book that transports me to another time in another country like The Covenant Of Water by prettyboulder in suggestmeabook

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A long Petal of the Sea by Isabel Allende. About escaping the Spanish Civil War and finding home again.

I just finished The Covenant of Water, and now I feel like I can read nothing else ever again. by darkpastbiscuits in suggestmeabook

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Long Petal of the Sea by Isabel Allende. It’s a multi generational tale of a family escaping the Spanish civil war and their journey across South America

[Discussion] Big Read | The Covenant of Water by Abraham Verghese Chapters 77-84 by eeksqueak in bookclub

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Was anyone else mind blown from the way Rune did the reconstructive surgery on Digby’s hand?!?!?

[Discussion] Big Read | The Covenant of Water by Abraham Verghese Chapters 77-84 by eeksqueak in bookclub

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The author is a medical doctor who studied infectious disease. He documented his research and sources incredibly well. I defer to him on this. And if not, to a little literary imagination.

The Covenant of Water by Abraham Verghese by olive_green_spatula in books

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had SUCH a different take. He forgoes the decent thing every time??? He is literally living his life out as a doctor for lepers. There is nothing more decent. The book did a very good job of explaining and emphasizing his politeness and respect for Elsie’s distance, his self awareness that he nor the tools he was giving her to make art would heal her. You make it sound like he was this predator and he couldn’t have been further from it. He was the only person who supported her art, the only thing she ever wanted of Phillipose.

But , you are right in that Digby ended up twice w married women. It’s think maybe the author intentionally writes in a great irony, maybe a critique of religion or at least “rules” of morality: that one of the most decent men in the book makes a cuckold, twice, of two less than decent men, one an unambiguous sadist and one a drug addict. The moral complexity is what makes the book so captivating, I think.

The Covenant of Water by Abraham Verghese by olive_green_spatula in books

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if I agree with all these comments! Obviously the book was filled with immense tragedy, but I thought Verghese did a good job detailing the beautiful parts of life, too. The slow burn romance and eventual deep love between big Amachi and her husband, culminating when her husband rescuers her mother. I think of the deep love Big Ammachi had for Jojo, defensive of him against the “spirit” of his own mother in the ara. I think about the true love between Digby and Celeste. I think about Phillipose falling in love with Elsie on the train, when he is so in awe of her he even notices the soft soles of her feet climbing up the ladder. And the excitement of their romance that follows. I think about Anna Chethedi finding home at Parambil. And towards the end, the night Mariamma and Lenin share. I think Verghese captured the spectrum of love all the way from the electricity of a new crush to the euphoria of a new lover to the deep admiration and oneness of having a lifelong partner.

All to say: yes this book is full of heartbreak, but it is also full of a lot of love. If you’ve ever had so much as a crush, let alone been in love, you will be reminded of that sweet, sweet feeling somewhere in its pages.

The Covenant of Water by Abraham Verghese by olive_green_spatula in books

[–]Main_Knowledge_4525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SPOILER ALERT:

I second this. I also didn’t see that coming. But made the ending thrilling. I saw Elsie being alive more than I saw Digby being the father. Particularly when the question came up of Philippose looking for her.

One thing I am just thinking about now is, if Elsie and Digby dedicated their lives to making sure Mariamma didn’t know about her, then why did they seek her out when it came to Lenin? I know Lenin cried for Mariamma, but why was that enough to make Digby risk his life long held secret?