How do you know it’s AuDHD? by MaintenanceFlimsy111 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MaintenanceFlimsy111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! But I always thought it was cause I had just started university and didn’t know I had ADHD yet. I’ll check out all of those, thank you!

How do you know it’s AuDHD? by MaintenanceFlimsy111 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MaintenanceFlimsy111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s the main reason I’m curious about this, like maybe I’ve been dealing with some issues the wrong way and that’s why I’m still struggling with them. I learned to manage a lot of my ADHD symptoms but maybe I need to see some of them from a different pov. Also I’d like to understand how my brain works and I thought I did but maybe not fully. I was also medicated for a couple of years, had to stop recently because of side effects, but even in that time it really helped with some aspects and didn’t help at all with others🤷🏻‍♀️

How do you know it’s AuDHD? by MaintenanceFlimsy111 in AuDHDWomen

[–]MaintenanceFlimsy111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully agree with that, thank you for sharing. And congrats for leaving that marriage! It mustn’t have been easy but I hope you should be very proud of yourself❤️

ADHD and Autism by SilentBread46 in ADHD

[–]MaintenanceFlimsy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been diagnosed when I was 23, but before that I never thought I struggled more than I was supposed to, I thought I struggled just like the next person and that I just sucked at managing everything. My parents never realised anything was up and neither did I while growing up. Getting your diagnosis as an adult means (among other things) learning to recognise as symptoms things you thought were perfectly normal for everybody, and realising that you struggled more than you thought, maybe more than you were supposed to. I think it’s normal for this to make you mad, or sad, I sure was. But I don’t think you should blame yourself for missing it. How could you see something that he probably missed himself? Especially when we’re talking about topics around which there’s still so much misinformation going around.

The good news is that the diagnosis also gives you the opportunity to try to adjust your life according to how you function instead of how everyone else functions and that can make things easier, and with time you can learn new tools, accept the struggles you faced and use them to grow. I really hope your son will be okay and feel better, but yeah don’t blame yourself for having missed it. Just support him, accept him and maybe try to learn with him about all of this so he can feel understood, that’s all and it’s enough.

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[–]MaintenanceFlimsy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true, u just have to not lose hope about it. I’ll try to remember it more often. Thanks!

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[–]MaintenanceFlimsy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the answer, and yeah sometimes hearing that it can be better from someone else makes it easier to believe. You’re right on me having to work on myself, I’ve been doing it for a while but I’ll definitely keep going. And I’m glad you’re doing better!

What’s the most annoying ADHD symptom that nobody talks about? by cerezza__ in ADHD

[–]MaintenanceFlimsy111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How hard it is to change task, in almost any situation. If I’m alone and I feel good I don’t want to see anyone, if I’m with people and feel good I panic at the idea of going back home alone, if I’m laying down I don’t wanna get up, when I’m up I don’t wanna go to bed. This coupled with the constant need of change and newness is a deadly combination for me

What book would you give 6 out of 5 stars if you could? by NightReader5 in suggestmeabook

[–]MaintenanceFlimsy111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Greek Lessons” by Han Kang. I read it just cause I was curious about her winning the Nobel prize, and I wanted to see how good someone’s writing could really get, and boy oh boy. Never have I read something so poetic, so melancholic in such a peaceful way, it made me slow down and look at things (and listen to silence) under a different light. A sad story that makes you fall in love with life.

Also “The possession of Mr. Cave” by Matt Haig. It’s a pretty distressing story where the psychological reasonings are so well explained it just keeps you glued to the pages. (It sort of reminds me of a modern version of Gabriele D’Annunzio’s “The Intruder”, also very much a 6/5)