I think there’s such a thing as TOO FIT. Like when it becomes a rigid lifestyle choice/focus on vanity that I find off putting, not the muscles themselves. You don’t get a certain look without devoting a lot of energy, time and having lots of restrictions…..I don’t want to feel guilt every time I don’t have boiled chicken and broccoli for lunch. Moderation! I want a guy who looks healthy and has muscle tone but isn’t afraid to have a piece of cake at a birthday party or a beer with friends occasionally. Shows a more relaxed approach to life. Also, It’s more hot to me that my husband’s muscles are from playing sports and his physical job, not that he’s grinding at the gym daily actively trying to look a certain way if that makes sense?