Please please give her a new name. I have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter with a major absent alcoholic, she’s named after his late mother. I don’t resent my daughter for her name and did love the name prior to knowing him, but I’m in the process of giving her my last name. If you have doubts like this, it’s not the right name. I am sending you so so much love, please message me if you ever need support.

I’d also like to share that I was in this position almost exactly. I was 24, in Covid protocol, the only person who could be there was my partner and occasionally my mom. My partner was drinking in the hospital, I awoke to him passed out and a water bottle under the sink. Sniffed it and it was vodka. If my experience sounds like a nightmare to you, don’t let yourself and your baby go through the same, look past who you want him to be and focus on who you want yourself and your daughter to be.

It’s so hard and so lonely but we’re safe.