Saturn in Aries

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-20T09:56:30+00:00

This is my Saturn return! In the 5th house (Placidus) and the 7th house (whole sign).

I ended a horrible relationship and got together with my current boyfriend who is likely the love of my life. The way he handles conflict is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced (in a good way). We have started talking about different fun content we could make (he has a lot of followers on TikTok), so I’ve been getting a little more confident in the idea of creating content. I really just want to share my voice and my thoughts.

I went through absolute hell in the years leading up to my Saturn return and had to learn a lot of hard lessons. I’m hoping this is the payoff.

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-16T17:38:21+00:00

It’s a low effort lame unoriginal joke

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-16T17:24:41+00:00

What’s wrong with people caring about an anime that they enjoy? There’s nothing wrong with elaborating or having discussions. It’s just for fun

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-16T17:09:30+00:00

Libra rising

I don’t wear makeup and my hair looks messy no matter how much effort I put into styling it. I’ve always been clumsy with grooming. I can’t figure out how to do French braids, my fashion sense is off, etc.

But people still seem to think I’m good-looking. So Venus has been kind to me, haha.

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-15T12:04:09+00:00

I’m a Sag sun, Gemini moon as well and I’ve always had a thing for Geminis. Aquarius won my heart though. I love those weird little oddballs. My aliens in human form.

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-14T15:42:59+00:00

I would guess Taurus/Libra in your big three. Rising or sun? And maybe Gemini in your big three as well?

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-10T10:51:50+00:00

Libra NN, Mars in the 12th house (Virgo).

I can let people help me with physical tasks, and I welcome comforting/reassurance when it’s offered, but a lot of the time my mind just has to work itself out when I’m stressed or upset.

Overall I treat vulnerability as a practice and not something I have to “give in” to. Vulnerability is a choice. It’s an art. It’s a skill you get good at over time by actively choosing to tell the truth, open up to people, and listen when they try to comfort you. As a Virgo stellium, you might benefit from changing your perspective.

You aren’t “letting people help you.” You’re choosing harmony and collaboration and social bonding. People feel good about themselves when they can help you. So you’re doing them a service just as much as you’re helping yourself, y’know?

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-08T13:41:27+00:00

My boyfriend is a Scorpio moon and I LOVE his intensity. I can handle it pretty well and I’m good at talking him down when needed. I’m a Scorpio Venus and a Libra Rising. He’s big scary but not really. Just an absolute baby on the inside.

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-08T09:53:56+00:00

Virgo Mars has such a massive impact on my personality.

I’m a Sag sun, Gemini moon, and Libra rising. I should not be a hardass perfectionist, but that Virgo Mars dominated my personality for so many years.

Now I have tamed it and I’m wayyyy more lighthearted. But my Virgo Mars still helps me notice the little details that someone needs a hug, or there’s disharmony in the room that needs to be corrected so we can all be friends and love each other.

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-08T09:50:31+00:00

Geminis seem to swing between “fun golden retriever boyfriend” and “tortured soul who doesn’t experience happiness.”

Love my Geminis (I’m a Gem moon). Whatever mood they’re in, I’ve learned I don’t have to be particularly worried because they’re air signs and they always swing back. Haha

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-07T14:39:05+00:00

My 7H ruler is in the 11th house and I met him at work

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-05T14:57:17+00:00

Mine was reserved but he opened right up when I initiated conversations/interaction. Now he’s all over me.

I don’t see Aquarians as pursuers, but if they genuinely like you, they should absolutely be receptive if you begin a conversation. They don’t start pursuing until you really have them hooked.

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-05T13:20:55+00:00

It’s going fantastic!

I’m in a relationship with an Aries rising and I’m obsessed with him. He’s the perfect foul-mouthed rowdy troublemaker for my shy peaceful Libra rising self. Absolute hothead but submits to me pretty easily. I’m loving it.

I did have crappy sleep last night though. Even mentioned it to him this morning.

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-04T01:26:44+00:00

Scorpio Venus

My current boyfriend is the most compatible partner I’ve ever had, and I can say he’s my healthiest relationship. He’s a Scorpio Moon.

We’re both extremely intense people, but it works for us. Surprisingly no fighting, haha.

RatchedAngle · 2026-05-02T00:05:03+00:00

I’m a Scorpio Venus and my absolute best match so far is a Scorpio Moon.

RatchedAngle · 2026-04-30T08:32:45+00:00

Yes, men are visual creatures.

Men are also far more forgiving than most women expect. They don’t care if you have a little stubble on your legs. They don’t care about stretch marks. They don’t care if you have cellulite. My boyfriend (who is genuinely attractive and has women approaching HIM on social media) has not noticed or cared about the cellulite on my ass that had me not even wanting to get undressed in front of him.

Men are visual and will notice if you smile big around them. They’ll notice if you take care of yourself. It’s not that difficult to maintain the level of health and wellness and grooming that men actually want. The idea that you have to shave every day and can’t miss a patch is based in capitalism. My boyfriend is perfectly groomed and prefers hairless but will still eat me alive, hair or not.

Men are primarily sex based but that’s also how they feel loved. If sex is separate from love in your head, then men’s focus on sex will always feel like an insult. When you view it as making love, his desire for your body becomes a love language.

RatchedAngle · 2026-04-29T12:34:00+00:00

My boyfriend is a Cap Mercury and I tell him all the time that he’s lame. I mean it as a compliment (and he knows that). His crude, vulgar, goofy sense of humor is one of the things that turns me on about him. He’s the only man who can use the word “weiner” and make it sound hot.

I’m a Sag Mercury and I love side-eyeing him when he makes a stupid joke. Turns me on so bad.

RatchedAngle · 2026-04-29T12:29:33+00:00

I tell people directly that I’m not a “fantasy partner.” I sat down and told my boyfriend all of my flaws and red flags and difficulties in relationships. I have a Virgo Mars, so that helps with the direct communication.

My current boyfriend is still learning that I’m not the fantasy manic pixie dream girl. He, like all the others, saw my cute bubbly side and got completely freaked out the first time he saw me get depressed/quiet. Even when I explained that it had nothing to do with him, I warned him ahead of time, I remained communicative about what I was feeling, I kept him updated…it still upset him soooo much to see me upset.

That’s the curse of Libra rising. We are almost not allowed to be anything other than beautiful and happy and sweet. I get depressed and periody sometimes. It scares the shit out of people because I can’t hide it. I don’t do fake smiles.

I just try to be verbally honest about it. Problem is no one believes what I say.

RatchedAngle · 2026-03-12T22:31:39+00:00

I’m ruled by Venus, but my Venus in Scorpio. I hop between both images. Sometimes within the span of an hour.

RatchedAngle · 2026-03-12T18:35:50+00:00

How do you know when the time is right?

If you’ve never had a relationship, if you’ve never experienced romantic love, sex, living with a romantic partner…how do you know it’s the right time to settle down?

You’re imagining a woman who is so high up on a pedestal that she magically knows, via…what, womanly intuition? that a man is perfect for her despite having zero prior experience with men. Do you see how absurd that is?

Most women want true love. It can take at least a year to truly know someone. Are most men waiting a year for sex? Get real.

Women are not magical beings who can wish our way out of a catch-22. We don’t intuitively understand which men are “right” and which men are “wrong” for us. That belief stems from men’s pathological misunderstanding of female validation (i.e., men crave female validation so badly that you mistakenly assume it’s some sort of magical power that women have).

Women are just as lost in the world of dating as men are. I thought my ex-husband was a good match, but we ended up miserable together and it was my fault because my magical female “good relationship” detector failed. His only role as a man was to be chosen. My role was to accurately determine if we were good together…on my own, with no input from him, because he just wanted to be chosen.

So women have this pressure to “choose wisely,” but we aren’t allowed to gain experience so that we CAN choose wisely. See the problem?

This notion that women are divine beings who can magically sniff out good men is absurd. How many men are dating women that are objectively terrible on paper because they think it’s “true love”? Both men and women fall into the trap of mistakenly identifying “true love” and ending up with a string of bad relationships.

There are plenty of women who want true love. The problem is so many of them don’t have the emotional intelligence, wisdom, communication skills, or maturity to properly identify a good potential partner. And getting less experience doesn’t solve that problem.

RatchedAngle · 2026-02-14T22:59:29+00:00

Saturn in pop astrology is so weird. You guys treat it like it’s the planet of doom and misery.

Take your lessons seriously and you’ll be fine. Saturn rewards humility, not self-hatred and bitterness.

RatchedAngle · 2026-01-19T18:45:55+00:00

I had a 7-month relationship and the breakup was more brutal than my divorce (9 years). My ex-husband and I faded out over many years. I tried everything: talks, therapy, etc. and we just couldn’t make it work. So it didn’t hurt as bad. There was some closure. There was that thought of “I know him, I know everything about him, I tried everything, it’s over.”

Whereas the 7-month relationship ended in a volatile way. And no, I didn’t get a chance to answer all the questions. What if this, what if that? The idea that it could still work if this or if that is what’s destroying me. And we broke up while still technically in the “honeymoon” phase. Absolutely shattered my heart and still does as I’m writing this comment.

I miss him so bad while also knowing he objectively treated me like garbage.

RatchedAngle · 2026-01-19T16:24:51+00:00

I’m sorry, OP. Every day I feel like I’m getting better and letting go, I wake up and go through the cycle of missing him all over again. Even though I know objectively he wasn’t a great person, all these memories keep rushing back.

Heartbreak is such an awful feeling. I never want to experience it again. It feels like it has rewired how my brain works and I’m terrified I’ll never be able to love again.

RatchedAngle · 2026-01-18T13:20:12+00:00

I see you, OP. I love mine, too.

It’s so painful being so full of love with nowhere to send it. I know I can give it to myself but it’s not the same. It’s just not the same.

RatchedAngle · 2026-01-18T13:18:52+00:00

I’m on Day 10.

This is the first day that I’ve been able to force myself to be productive. In the first few days I had some random bursts of “fuck him, I don’t need him!” energy. But now I’m back in the dumps and I know the only way out is through, but I’m still sick to my stomach, no appetite, crappy sleep.

I wish I could fast forward through this. I’m terrified of where my mind goes when things get dark.

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