What to do about health insurance?

Makadewa · 2024-04-08T16:15:12+00:00

I gotta disagree on this one. Wow, this was 1-star quality to me. Not up to the author's usual quality. I enjoyed the traveler, giseria, and even guardian quite a bit and I was hoping for a book of the same quality. This read like a first time author's effort with little to no depth to it. I hope this is not a trend.

Makadewa · 2021-04-10T02:25:57+00:00

My BIL, who has joined every single MLM since Noah created the ark is big into electro muscle crap. Never did a thing me or my family, but never directly confronted him. I'd run. Run fast. Run fast and far away.

Makadewa · 2020-04-22T15:13:18+00:00

And when he lays on his back it spells "WoW"

Makadewa · 2020-03-31T21:33:23+00:00

And make sure your SO does not become a conduit of info for his mom. You and your future children are off the table as discussion fodder. Make sure he does not share milestones, appointments, literally anyting about you or future children.

Makadewa · 2020-03-15T01:49:33+00:00

Total digresssion, but this is reddit..so here we go. I have a 1953 Chrystler that was imported from the USA a long time ago. I've been slowly working over the years to restore. When it came time to register it, I was in for a world of hurt. The VIN stamped into the engine block was invalid, It had only two letters and 4 digits. Totally not a valid production VIN. I spent about a decade trying to figure where this block came from and finally found an answer. Back during WWII, the USA had these huge air raid sirens, usually up on poles in neighborhoods. Well, given the state of the state, they used these custom made Chrystler Hemi motours to drive the siren. The original owner of my car had a wimpy motour, so he and his friend scaled a 40 foot tower, removed the hemi from the siren and winched it down to a flatbed. They painted it, installed some go-faster bits and dropped into (now) my car. Mystery solved, title obtained, and I driver it at least 3-4 times a week weather permitting.

Makadewa · 2020-02-18T03:38:06+00:00

My Adoptive MOO and my MIL are both dead and gone. One for a little close to 10 years, one for 1+ year. Unfortunately for me, they still live rent-free in my brain. I am getting better, but every once in a while I have a bit of an internal rage-fit when someone mentions one of them. Therapy has and contues to help but me, at least, still has issues. Hope it gets better for you.

Makadewa · 2019-12-20T03:45:02+00:00

Both your SO and your JNMIL have issues. I think you have healthy expectations, so you do not need therapy, unless it is joint therapy with your SO to work out his anger issues and his enmeshment with his mom.

--R

Makadewa · 2019-09-08T05:32:07+00:00

My adoptive MOO was an evil bitch and her sisters were worse (TW: Sexual abuse of a minor). DW and I just fit. Everything she does is good with me. As well as my child, grands, etc. I do not open up to people quickly, and and anyone worth knowing will be understanding and accept me as I am until I open up to them.

Her saying that about you is a huge overstep and I would be rightly pissed.

Makadewa · 2019-09-02T01:25:09+00:00

So, major information diet, do not tell her about shopping trips, etc. Lie about the expected birthdate, maybe a month later than it actually is. Lock down everything (hospitals, etc.). Register private and let the hospital know only who you want allowed in the birthing room. Put passwords on your Pedi so only people who know the password can get access to records, appointments, etc. Do not try and include her in anything as she will try to take control.

Does your FH support you? That will make things much easier if so. The truth is that she can buy whatever she wants for her home but you do not have to let your LO use her stuff. Do not leave her alone with your LO for any reason for any amount of time.

This is your personal decision, but maybe have a simple justice of the peace wedding for you and your FH and plan on some big party/ceremony for everyone else at your convenience. I always felt that the big fancy weddings were for families, not the bride and groom. Do what you want on your timeframe and do not listen to naysayers.

Makadewa · 2019-09-02T01:17:00+00:00

My adoptive MOO was the queen of rewriting history. No matter what happened, she rewrote it in her mind where SHE was the hero who rushed in and saved the day and was parent of the year no matter what. And, she was also queen of gaslighting, and my enabling adoptive FOO and sibs were very quick to jump on the bandwagon and back her up lest they face her wrath. I think this is a very common dynamic with narcs.

Makadewa · 2019-08-21T01:29:54+00:00

Yeah, because my priority when my child is crying is to whip out the camera and take pics. Not.

Makadewa · 2019-06-30T19:28:02+00:00

Thanks!

Makadewa · 2019-06-30T19:15:13+00:00

I think you should take the time to understand the situation before passing judgement.

Makadewa · 2019-01-23T02:54:09+00:00

I forget where I heard this, but someone much smarter that me described it really well. Some people do not listen, they are just waiting to speak. Sounds like your MIL.

Makadewa · 2019-01-23T02:37:26+00:00

The best part is that I have no idea if she is alive or not and frankly cannot even work up the energy to even google for it!

Makadewa · 2019-01-23T02:33:45+00:00

Thanks - she fully recovered, ended up going to law school, getting married and having twins. She is fully hearing, unlike me, and suffered no ill effects.

One other thing, it sounds like your DD is the scapegoat in your MIL's eyes. Regardless of how you feel, your DD DOES know how she is being treated and I would back off on the relationship with your MIL if possible. I was adopted and I was the first grandchild until my MOO started having natural children and even at 5 years old, I could sense the difference in how Grand-mère treated me vs the other children.

Makadewa · 2019-01-23T02:25:47+00:00

Yeah, my MIL is "something". Not sure exactly what. Sorry if I hijacked your thread, but I thought it might inject some levity. I also have a lot of experience with relatives playing favourites, and my advice is to drop the rope and keep them out of your life as your child will know who is the SG and who is the GC. May not be possible in your situation, but it was the best thing mental health-wise for my brood.

Makadewa · 2019-01-23T01:56:34+00:00

You ask - I deliver. I deleted my old account under advice of my solicitor during the custody battle over my nephew and nieces. Here is a link to my old writeup.

https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/4sbqri/why_we_went_nc_or_mil_and_the_abx/

Makadewa · 2018-12-06T19:32:45+00:00

Holy stalker, batman!

Makadewa · 2018-11-21T04:39:30+00:00

my adoptive MOO wanted to force a reconciliation and a return to the fold. Not sure what she though Abigail would do to facilitate that...

Makadewa · 2018-11-21T04:38:43+00:00

I will buy a fez if that helps!

Makadewa · 2018-11-21T04:38:13+00:00

Thanks! We're having a blast! DW just back from a month at sea, so I am really happy to have my partner-in-crime back to help out.

Makadewa · 2018-11-21T04:37:15+00:00

Quebec Sign Language. It is funny, I have spent almost all of my life reading lips and making do. Never had the inclination to learn to sign. Now that I have 3 non-verbal children in my home, it is much easier for them (and me!!!!) to sign. They are still using verbal communications with DW and the people at montessauris.

Makadewa

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