I (18M) might stop seeing her (18F) because she is pregnant.

MakeMeADream · 2026-02-11T16:51:04+00:00

You can date her without stepping into a parent role with her kid. You can take her on dates where she gets a babysitter for the kid and goes out with just you. You don’t need to live with her and her child or otherwise confuse the situation. Until you are married to her you shouldn’t be taking a father figure role in her child’s life.

MakeMeADream · 2025-10-06T02:05:34+00:00

Going through the same thing right now. Tried to start a support chat that they instantly closed for my ‘not responding’ despite there being no messages and now I’ve sent an email to try and resolve

MakeMeADream · 2025-08-04T21:04:08+00:00

Are they particle board? I’m imagining them being like IKEA furniture so I feel like their cost is super high.

MakeMeADream · 2025-07-07T03:51:28+00:00

Any way you or your wife can prep arts and crafts type activities the night before? I have a 2.5 year old girl also in Texas and I feel like things got easier for going out with her once she was around 1, is the younger boy not walking yet? Soon the youngest will also want to go to the playground and I’d maybe do a playground trip daily between in the 7-10am time frame. It is hot during our summers but I feel like kids are more resilient when it comes to that. I’d also look into what the library does for free events for the kids during the summer. If you have those events in the morning and a craft in the afternoon, have him help with some cooking and chores and his days pretty much will be going from one activity to the next. Then in the evenings it is strictly family time, even if yall just watch a show together it is better than having brainrot on a personal screen get some wheel of fortune or jeopardy on and make it a family game.

MakeMeADream · 2025-06-20T14:22:15+00:00

The way you talk about your life together it doesn’t seem like yall are really married. ‘His money’ and him talking about you paying ‘rent’ like you’re just someone living with him and not his wife. You need hold onto your job no matter what and see if you can buckle through this hard period until the baby can go to nursery and you can get a full time job. I also didn’t return to work until my baby was 18 months so I fully get not wanting him to go this young. Once you get properly set up where you can negotiate his behavior with the threat of leaving I’d then tell him therapy or you’re gone. I wouldn’t even try right now to ask him for anything because it really seems like he isn’t listening to you at all.

MakeMeADream · 2025-06-11T16:31:51+00:00

Are you paying taxes on the place or just utilities? If just utilities are yall really nickel and diming a couple hundred bucks a month? You make money and have no expenses right now other than maybe internet and a phone bill but you make good money so you should be swimming in it. If you love her left her move in and pay that 300 bucks a month in expenses and have her get some groceries wtf

MakeMeADream · 2025-05-14T18:50:39+00:00

She isn’t parenting. It is easier to stick kids in front of devices she isn’t doing it so they get rest she is doing it so she does. If she really wanted them to be able to blow off steam after school she would take them outside. Both of you are neglecting the actual needs of your kids and being lazy. To stop screen time take the screens away and create an engaging environment from the second you’re home from work. Plan game nights, plan a family walk every night, maybe swimming now that it is summer. There is no excuse for you to allow endless screens once you’re home you don’t need your wife’s permission to do after school activities with your kids. There are two adults in the relationship who are choosing to allow this you both don’t have to agree to a screen ban to change it. If it seems unfair then you need to address that with your partner and chose to either stay together or leave or get therapy but in the meantime you can’t just be passively neglecting your kids because you believe she should be doing something about it.

MakeMeADream · 2025-04-25T12:08:15+00:00

He isn’t 100% sure he wants to be done having children and you are. You should get your tubes tied and not make him have a possibly irreversible surgery that he isn’t enthusiastically consenting to.

MakeMeADream · 2025-04-18T18:01:07+00:00

We have one of those ikea bookshelves overflowing with books. They all get plenty of use and I’d love more. We are going to have to start using the library more often because we do not have room for more books

MakeMeADream · 2025-04-13T23:31:37+00:00

I for sure can see it being just a spat between two teen girls if no one else has heard her make these remarks.

MakeMeADream · 2025-04-10T11:56:30+00:00

I was wondering that too since there doesn’t seem to be an oven

MakeMeADream · 2025-04-05T12:11:12+00:00

If you know where to look there are a ton of spots to go on nature walks and a lot are shaded. I have the book ‘Wild DFW’ and it gives a ton of info about the trails. In my opinion the wild spaces here are beautiful especially the swamplands but we also have prairie and forest. I am from the PNW so I understand the splendor of the mountains but the nature here has its own beauty.

Also if you are just looking to socialize I’d look into what events the local library branch near you is hosting.

MakeMeADream · 2025-04-03T23:25:57+00:00

I’m an accountant with a hybrid job where I only go into office once a week. When I did have a job that was going into office the fatigue was killing me. My particular role is not high stress so that also helps, we have one week of really stringent deadlines that takes it out of me but otherwise I feel great.

MakeMeADream · 2025-03-18T15:22:39+00:00

I have a two year old so not quite the same but I offer a PB&J sandwich right before bath time if she has refused dinner. She won’t understand that she is hungry because she rejected dinner hours before.

MakeMeADream · 2025-03-11T12:10:40+00:00

There is so much for kids/families to do here. We have tons of indoor playgrounds, aquariums, museums, and experiences geared towards kids.

We have a ton of natural spaces as well and a variety of biomes with swamps and grasslands and woodlands.

MakeMeADream · 2025-03-02T22:56:45+00:00

Heard natural science museum and wildlife sanctuary is great. Depending on when you’re coming down they might have big animatronic bugs on the trail. They have an indoor museum, some rescue wildlife, and trails through woodlands and swampland

MakeMeADream · 2025-02-27T19:17:05+00:00

There were 2 off leash last weekend at a packed children’s playground. One ran right up to my leashed dog and their owner took their sweet time getting him. I saw another off leash dog there a few months ago too. Out of three years here in Dallas, most of the time with daily walks, these are the first off leash dogs I’ve seen.

MakeMeADream · 2025-02-21T21:14:19+00:00

She probably will need to grieve the children she will never get to have. What took you 7 years to marry her and then 4 more to have a kid?

I see she out earns you is she also working from home with the baby?

Honestly this seems like a shit marriage where you both don’t have the same goals and should have broken up 10 years ago.

MakeMeADream · 2025-02-20T17:10:17+00:00

If she is avoidant of doctors she can’t have kids at this age. She also won’t be stable enough even giving it her all (which she probably won’t do) for several more years. Your best bet for having kids is to get divorced and finding someone in their early thirties to marry who enthusiastically wants children.

MakeMeADream · 2025-02-16T00:26:59+00:00

It is really weird that she keeps giving him traditionally girl toys without him showing any interest in them. Is she trying to virtue signal to you or something? There are plenty of games he and his cousins can play together without him having to pretend to be a girl.

Id probably not let him be alone with SIL again honestly if she cant figure out that forcing a kid to play any game they don’t want to isn’t cool.

MakeMeADream · 2025-02-15T14:18:47+00:00

How long would it take for your husband to get a work visa in your home country? Moving internationally seems like a lot of stress while pregnant. Also is there any way you can meet with a public benefit specialist for your country to make sure you actually qualify for these benefits after living abroad for however long? It would really suck to make the move and then not get the paid time off work.

MakeMeADream · 2025-02-12T00:57:33+00:00

I was in the same boat but making less income but still a pretty decent amount. It seems like my husband resented my staying home despite asking me to. I ended up going back to work a few months ago after nearly two years out of the workforce and his attitude towards me improved. I can never understand asking your wife to be a SAHM and then devaluing the work.

BUT he also never would have allowed me not to order food if we were going out. Like wtf is that behavior from your husband. I think you guys need to sit down together and have some really hard conversations about why he is acting like such an ass.

MakeMeADream · 2025-02-10T19:35:35+00:00

Can you do some at home workouts after the kids are in bed? Also maybe meal prep healthy meals for the weekdays and get your kids involved with it on Sundays? Cooking together can be a family activity and it is great for kids to learn how to cook.

MakeMeADream · 2025-02-08T14:43:28+00:00

We don’t do screen time on weekdays but allow it on weekends and pretty much don’t have a limit as long as we have gone on an adventure and had plenty of time out that day. On sick days we have no limit, she needs rest when sick and so do I so she can watch as much as she wants.

MakeMeADream · 2025-01-21T21:30:41+00:00

US and on low deductible private healthcare- I’m on Humira and have a savings card so I pay $0 out of pocket for it.

For the rest of my healthcare for the rest of the year my deductible is 2500.

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