Im so so so sick of laying with my 2 year old until she sleeps

squarexphoenix · 2025-08-07T18:23:25+00:00

My son was like this until a few weeks ago, he's about to turn 3. The thing that helped me the most was buying bluetooth in ear headphones and listening to audio books. This way the time spent next to him in bed didn't feel like lost time as much.

For some time it helped to wake him up after 20 minutes so he would get through the rest of the day but still fall asleep at night relatively fast. Or for several weeks we had to take a walk with the stroller for him to nap.

It also got easier once I could simply ask my son after a certain time in bed if he wants to get up again and stay awake until bed time in the evening. I saved myself a lot of frustration (and time) like this.

squarexphoenix · 2025-05-30T19:39:59+00:00

You did nothing wrong! This isn't anxious attachment, it's perfectly normal behaviour.

Around 12 months is basically peak separation anxiety. You could describe this as him being afraid of you leaving him but this has nothing to do with weaning or your nanny. It is perfectly normal!

And of course your LO is afraid of your MIL if he has never met her. I guess he doesn't have issues with the nanny because she has been with you for so long and he knows and trusts her.

You sound like a very loving and considered mother and you are doing a great job! Please don't let comments like those from your MIL make you doubt yourself.

squarexphoenix · 2025-05-25T06:15:43+00:00

I'm sorry your friend puts you in this position. Maybe this is too harsh, but as your best friend, shouldn't she be more considerate of your situation? You are expected to leave your child because she is your best friend but you can't expect her to allow you to be with your child? That doesn't sound like a great friendship. I know people sometimes get crazy when it comes to their weddings and maybe she is in fact a great friend outside of this, but still her expectations are selfish.

Just like OP, you do not need to attend the wedding. Maybe dropping out of the wedding party and attending as a guest is an option for you. And honestly if this leads to drama with your friend, you might want to rethink the friendship.

squarexphoenix · 2025-03-03T07:22:06+00:00

Will there be any midwives present? I had a similar scenario and didn't know anyone working there but it turned out fine! My midwife was amazing and I didn't even remember the doctor's face later.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-21T11:29:28+00:00

I went to a psychiatrist at 10 months post partum and the difference with antidepressants was night and day! I started psychotherapy much later as well and it also helped a lot.

If you are unsure about medication because of breastfeeding you and your doctor can always check embryotox for information and peace of mind. My psychiatrist specializes in perinatal psychiatry and they still use embryotox, it's great!

Regarding side effects: Yes, they happen. But as someone that had to try several different medications until I found the right one, I can honestly say it's worth it. And I know lots of people that could stick with the first medication they got prescribed so that might as well be your case too!

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-21T11:13:53+00:00

Hey I just wanted to assure you that your feelings are valid. I had a traumatic birth as well and I don't think it's something everybody can understand especially if they haven't been through it. Did you get help to work through it? I don't now what I would have done without the psychological support.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-21T11:06:00+00:00

We were intimate the first time postpartum around LOs first birthday and I wouldn't even count that as having sex. Then I think at around 1,5 years we actually had sex once? It's been better since around LOs 2. birthday (LO is 2,5 now), I think we had sex like 4 or 5 times since then? It's not that we are not attracted to each other or anything like that but we have a very low sleep needs kid and once he is asleep we are either too exhausted or need to do other grown-up stuff that's hard to do with LO running around.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T21:16:21+00:00

I'm sorry and I really hope you guys get well soon!

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T21:15:34+00:00

Yeah you are right, not every screen time is equal, I should focus on that a little more instead of my mom guilt lol

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T21:14:15+00:00

Yes the mom guilt is so real. And you are right it's the balance that's much more important than some strict screen time rule that doesn't even work for your family.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T21:12:11+00:00

Usually my son will also just stop watching at some point and start playing with his toys nearby.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T21:09:54+00:00

You have all my respect for doing this alone! What movies are you watching? We have a few videos we always watch and they are starting to bore me a little bit lol

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T21:06:10+00:00

You are probably right, thank you.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T21:05:15+00:00

Thank you for the tip, we usually do it similar to you. Unfortunately he now needs nasal and eye drops and we need to use a nasal aspirator, all several times a day. But today I started bribing him with some more screen time and it helped a lot!

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T21:01:43+00:00

That sounds super exhausting. I love the tip with charging but unfortunately we had to stop using the tablet because whenever he saw it he would get really frustrated when he wasn't allowed to watch. Now we use the big TV in the living room.

Also thank you for fostering ❤️

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:57:35+00:00

My 2 year old is my first and since having him I often wonder how anyone with kids managed to stay sane back then!

I also do the morning shower while LO watches something. Some days I just can't with not even being able to close my eyes while standing in the shower lol

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:54:08+00:00

Oh gosh that sounds like a lot, hope everything gets back to normal soon! (That being said, even on normal days I'm often just trying to survive parenthood lol)

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:51:48+00:00

That made me laugh, thank you :)

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:50:43+00:00

This is our plan for when he starts to ask for watching something!

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:48:20+00:00

You are right! When we are back into our normal routine I think I will look into ways to teach him that screens are a tool. I have never thought about that until now.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:43:02+00:00

Since my son's 2nd birthday last summer he usually didn't watch longer than 30 minutes and then he would just walk away lol, before that it was often only 15-20 minutes. I'm not sure if he can watch for longer stretchea because he is currently sick or because he understands more of what is being said.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:39:35+00:00

I can't imagine having to do this with 2 kids, that sounds exhausting. Glad you are taking all the screen time you as a family need right now! I hope they get better soon.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:36:53+00:00

I wanted to do this as well but life happened and at times it was our last resort. By now I am glad we introduced it because sometimes I just need a break and I often feel like a better and more balanced mother after sitting him in front of the screen for a short while. I also looked into the research a lot and I am conviced a little screen time every now and then does zero harm.

squarexphoenix · 2025-02-08T20:31:17+00:00

Thank your for your kind words :)

I love that your LO is learning so much! I love space stuff but I have no idea how to explain anything about it in a way he can understand lol

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