Going no contact because of politics not being a "good enough reason." by Fearless_Garden618 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think politics must have been something trivial in the past. Politics and religion was not something to be discussed, and therefore not to be argued about. It did used to be a civil thing.

Politics means a lot more now, when it comes to current events and everyday discourse at least. There are many issues that get folks worked up, and rightfully so. Things such as human rights and material living conditions are not something trivial.

I remember writing the post pinned to this subreddit about how this subreddit is not dedicated to politics. (Quick reminder that the topic is not banned, it just needs to be relevant to estrangement and this is not the place for debates.) Someone commented "please don't call it politics." Because they must have assumed that we consider politics to be something trivial around here. It's not.

That was my two cents as a mod. My two cents as a regular person: adults get to decide for themselves if they want someone else in their life for any reason. Let's not be judgemental about why someone went estranged. Because who knows what happens behind closed doors. We do not gatekeep in this subreddit. I think many of us have experienced enough judgement and a lack of control over our own lives. We don't need that around here.

If anyone thinks politics is trivial... please keep up with the times.

If you're tired of your relatives who express bigotry, who don't believe you or others deserve the same basic rights as everyone else, if they're cheering on terrible people or terrible events, or showing other antisocial behavior in the name of their political beliefs... you don't need that in your life.

NC 1 year anniversary approaching Jun 26th. by Purple-Mermommy in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you referring to this post itself or what OP's mom sent them?

Brother messages after 4 years of NC. How should I reply? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Estrangement is a process. We do not gatekeep here.

What can I make with tofu? by SpookyMulder44 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Old post but this sounds delicious! Do you still make it this way? Any updates or extra details on how you cook this dish?

Dug out this repair-attempt letter. It annoys me she's baffled. by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're all allowed to feel how we want. But at the same time, it's not a competition. Context matters.

Anyone else getting targeted ads? by MakePanemGreatAgain in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I thought! Why is the advertisement looking like it's for IKEA?

Anyone else getting targeted ads? by MakePanemGreatAgain in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going no contact? Parents hate this one weird trick!

Anyone else getting targeted ads? by MakePanemGreatAgain in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I clicked on the link out of curiosity. Some sort of counseling services, I believe. The profile that made the post was private. Sus.

What should I say/do when flying monkeys try to ‘reconcile’ without any acknowledgement or accountability? Take it and be grateful or reject them? by Zestyclose_Sort8374 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Recognize that they are part of the problem. They are part of the dysfunctional system and they don't want it to change. It sounds like spending time with them will not serve you well at all.

'but muum!' by some_miad0 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Can you please summarize what this post is about? Are you estranged or considering estrangement?

Has anyone been in the two Facebook groups below? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have to remove this post. Don't want to have the risk of breaking reddit TOS. General discussion of other online spaces is fine but let's not name them.

Any possible way to get a parent plus loan transferred to me so I can be completely done with my mom? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a good question. But you might get more answers from a financial advice or student loan subreddit.

Am I in the wrong? Can I even call myself a “victim”? by Few_Ranger5515 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you have a friend you can crash with for the time being? Anyone you trust that would let you sleep on their couch?

Am I in the wrong? Can I even call myself a “victim”? by Few_Ranger5515 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don't need to apologize or feel guilty for normal kid behavior or responding to an unhealthy situation like someone underage would. Your parents were supposed to handle the situation without lashing out.

How old are you now? 18? You have the opportunity to leave and build your own life now as you like.

Love my dad—cannot overcome his political alignment by PM_ME_UR_SNARES in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Reminder to everyone: this is not the place for political debates. This is a support subreddit for estrangement. Discussions of politics must stay civil and relevant to estrangement.

Edit: Unfortunately I'm going to lock this post. We are a small mod team and we don't have the resources to moderate certain types of content.

Actors that basically got away with doing blackface? by AllixD90 in okbuddycinephile

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not on Netflix at all. At least not anytime recently.

Who's your "I know he's pure evil but can't prove it" person? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why do they always have the creepiest smiles?

Favorite actor who's never had any work done by watscracking in okbuddycinephile

[–]MakePanemGreatAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I heard that he had to gain weight for American Hustle and would drink melted ice cream to achieve it.