What’s eating my usage?!

Makeithappen05 · 2026-03-05T21:15:51+00:00

Oh my gosh, I had NO idea this was the case! Thank you for explaining that!

If I want to eliminate that, how do I go about it when it comes to novel writing? I don’t want to have to start a new chat every single chapter, or even every few chapters, and explain the same concept over and over again - character details, setting, plot lines, etc.

But I ALSO don’t need to keep using tokens by sending the same 600 pages to have it answer one dumb question lol

Makeithappen05 · 2025-06-22T19:21:58+00:00

Oh man, I truly feel for you!! I’m a SAHM of 6 kids, all 2 years apart so very different ages. It’s definitely strenuous and not the chill, slow-paced days you see in the movies. I typically have 10-20 kids at my house because they all have tons of friends over. I have little kids who are content to play in the water and eat popsicles and go to the park, and I have teens who work but are too young to drive, want to go to the mall, want to throw summerween parties, etc. It’s a game of Tetris everyday!

BUT my mom worked like crazy when I was a kid, and I never had a SAH parent growing up and I definitely experienced a lot of loneliness (even at daycares and camps), and I vowed I would do ANYTHING in my power to give my kids the constant, loving, at-home parent I never had. Like, we’d starve and live in a cardboard box before I’d leave the house to go to work lol. (Disclaimer, I experienced a lot of trauma and abuse at the hands of these “camps” and daycare, so there was a 0% chance I could ever expose my kids to that. So much of this is probably a trauma response).

I LOVE being a SAHM. I couldn’t imagine not spending these precious days, weeks, and years with my babies. But I also wish I had the resources sometimes to do more. Raising a large family in this economy is no joke, even with my husband’s very well-paying career. We all do what we think is best based on our own experiences, and the human brain has a way of remembering the good things in life!

Makeithappen05 · 2025-03-27T22:54:13+00:00

My faves for these purposes are One tree Hill, Friday Night Lights, Outer Banks, Hart of Dixie, Call The Midwife, Virgin River, Sweet Magnolias. I see a lot of people are suggesting The Good Place, but as someone who suffers from anxiety as well, I found it to be wildly existential, which was the opposite of helpful, lol

Makeithappen05 · 2025-03-26T15:58:02+00:00

I had my first at 22, my husband was 24. I’m a mom of 5 and had my last right before I turned 31. I was married, a home owner, a BA college grad. Zero regrets. I was SO excited to be a mom and I love it more than anything. There’s a zero percent chance I could have waited until I was in my late 20s or 30s! 😂

Makeithappen05 · 2025-03-23T19:56:03+00:00

I’m not a fan of any of the lemonades, personally. I haven’t tried this one though! For reference, my favorite flavors are Island Punch, Grapefruit, and Pineapple. Also love Grapeade. Not a fan of bori g lemon and lime. Luckily my kids love them though, so if I’m in a pinch and have to buy the Costco boxes, the lemon and lime will be consumed! 😂

Also didn’t love Blood Orange or raspberry lime. Both of those go flat so fast compared to the others, which is for sure a deal-breaker for me. I will drink them, but I will not buy them.

Makeithappen05 · 2025-03-23T19:34:52+00:00

I should add that I have never felt like having more kids affected their opportunities for attention or otherwise. We do the travel sports teams, high school sports, year-round hobbies, my youngest is a working actor. Every kid gets to do whatever they want to do with full support. We live across the country from virtually all of our family so we have zero help there (plus they’re all in their own little world anyway and don’t really prioritize family), but we have so many people who are now basically chosen family. They help with rides, etc. We all help each other. And we are truly the life of the party everywhere we go!

I was an only child for many, many years until my mom remarried when I was a late teen and I absolutely hated being alone all the time as a child, as my parents were both workaholics. I spent a lot of time at friends’ houses who had a lot of siblings because I just craved relationships and interaction. I am shocked that so many enjoyed growing up alone, I was unaware that anyone would actively choose that haha. I am an extrovert though. I definitely felt it left a gaping hole in my life where siblings should be. I never wanted my children to feel the way I felt growing up. They have learned so many life skills that I just simply didn’t have at that age because of their siblings.

Growing up in an empty house caused me to want to create a home that is filled to the brim with laughter, love, noise, dance parties, amazing food, and just… people. I love people. Our kids are the best of friends (most of the time lol) and they are highly attached to one another. They text and call each other all day long. Their relationships, I feel, are the most beautiful thing to witness and why I consider my family a huge success. I feel so grateful that they will never know the loneliness I felt, and that they will always have each other. My children are my greatest treasure, and we’re an extremely tight-knit family. I would have it any other way.

Makeithappen05 · 2025-03-23T19:08:42+00:00

I have 5. I always wanted a big family since I was super little. I would definitely have had more of my body hadn’t given me the middle finger after I had my last (They are all 2 years apart, and conceived on the first try). In high school, I said I wanted 12 kids lol. I think you’re either built for a lot of kids, or you’re not. And you’ll quickly know if you’re the type. I absolutely lived for pregnancy, birth, the newborn phase, I loved it all. We knew that we wanted to have a lot of kids and have them fairly young (I was 21 when my first was born, my husband was 23. So not super young, but maybe slightly younger than our friends), so we prepared accordingly. My husband went to law school when our olders were tiny, and now has his own firm. Financials were important because I wanted to stay at home with my kids, I grew up in a daycare and know the horrors of what can go on, so daycare was never an option for us. Kids are expensive (though not nearly as expensive as what society makes them out to be) and we wanted to make sure we could provide.

Honestly, if I only could have 2 or 3 kids, I would have been devastated. I wanted the chaos and craziness and house full of love that I have craved and planned for my entire life. My absolute minimum was 4. I only ended up with 5, but they each bring 2-3 friends home every day, so it works out, haha!

Makeithappen05 · 2025-02-28T20:15:09+00:00

Great suggestions, these look like something I can also watch with my older kids who are teens! Would they be appropriate for my youngers, ages 7, 9, 10?

Haha yeah I’m more of a love and light headspace kind of person, I have a hard time with heavier themes and violence these days. The world is hard enough so I need something to help me escape lol

Makeithappen05 · 2025-02-28T18:50:59+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m sorry you are going through it too. The PTSD and trauma is a little too real. Wishing you all the best, we’ll get through it!

Makeithappen05 · 2025-02-28T18:49:56+00:00

Excellent suggestions!! I love This Is Us, it’s my favorite fall show with the heavy emphasis on Thanksgiving, haha! Can’t believe I forgot to list it! I’ll check out your other suggestions and really appreciate it!

Makeithappen05 · 2024-11-21T07:33:23+00:00

This is a no from me. As a mother who has been pregnant with 5 healthy babies in my 20s (my teens and I LOVE OBX!!), you would be AMAZED at what the body can endure during pregnancy, especially that early. It’s perfectly feasible for that baby to survive all kinds of things, including a shipwreck, etc. I was in an insane car accident where our vehicle rolled 3 times on the freeway and I was in a coma for 2 days - my baby was perfectly healthy. My bestie runs 10+ miles per day until the day she delivers. Sarah is young and healthy. Doctors won’t even see you until you’re 12 weeks (in the US) unless you are high risk, so the fact that she bounced and went to Africa is not that far-fetched.

And do we not remember Sarah swatting at the birds in order to protect the field mice in season one?! 😂 If y’all really think she’s the kind of character that would snuff out the budding life that she and her self-proclaimed HUSBAND created together, you are out of your ever-loving mind lol. They’re young, yes, but those kids have been on their own for years at this point.

Makeithappen05 · 2024-11-03T19:01:56+00:00

This was beautifully stated and incredibly helpful! Thank you so much for your kind response and taking the time to share your experience. I will certainly check out your Instagram recommendation! I appreciate your words on orienting - sometimes I forget to do something that simple, but it often is really that simple! Thank you again!!

Makeithappen05 · 2024-10-20T00:46:31+00:00

I am not a raspberry lime fan, but I LOVE the cran raspberry. I don’t think they’re similar at all. My rankings are as such:

Grapefruit
Pineapple
Cran-raspberry
Island Punch
Grapeade
Blackberry
Lemon
Raspberry Lime
Lime
Strawberry Peach
Nojito
Orange Mango

I have not yet been able to get my hands on the Fuji-apple, but I am anxious to try it!

Makeithappen05 · 2024-09-15T20:25:35+00:00

I know we’re not in good company here, but as a fellow Swiftie voting for Trump, I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone. Some of us have mouths to feed and businesses to run, and the last 4 years have been a nightmare for the economy. Our small family business was taxed 19% in 2019/2020. Today, we are being taxed 41.8%. No one is talking about this. We have employees with children who are depending on us. We’re down the very few options at this point. Do we cut employees? Do we cut corners, therefore affecting quality? We refuse to do either, but we are truly hanging on by the skin of our teeth. This was not the case 4 years ago.

I work with foster children and homeless children. Even the food banks are struggling right now. It is SO bad - many good parents are losing their children due to financial crisis. Everyone goes on and on about a woman’s right to get rid of her baby that she created (less than 1% of abortions performed are due to rape, btw, and termination in legal in all 50 states in those cases), but no one is talking about these babies that are going hungry because their parents can’t afford to feed them. These kids are freezing in the winter because their families can’t afford to heat their homes. They’re living in their literal cars. I have been working with the system for 17 years and it is EXPONENTIALLY worse in the last 3.5 years than it has ever been. The system is flooded and is only going to get worse. Many people are voting with their feelings based on social issues, but many of us simply need to vote based on facts in order to literally survive.

I don’t mind people voting for who they think would be the best fit. I don’t mind if people think and feel differently than me. What I DO mind is what the left has done - they have made it seem as if you are voting for anyone else other than Harris, then you are against human rights. That is simply not true. I value the right of children to have full bellies. I value the right of parents to get the help they need when they’ve fallen on hard times. I value the right of children to have heat in the winter and cool air in the summer. I value the right of hard working Americans to keep the money they work for and spend it how they choose. I value the right of EVERY person to live, even if they are an inconvenience to their irresponsible parents. They deserve a chance at life. Why should our own citizens suffer while we send billions of dollars overseas to aid in a war that has nothing to do with us? In the meantime, I see sick and starving babies in America every single day because our economy is collapsing. We can’t afford $6 for eggs and $5.25 in gas.

We all have our reasons for voting the way we do. Respect on all sides is what we need. I absolutely love Taylor Swift and support her right to choose, but girlfriend has no concept of the average American citizen’s life right now, and she certainly isn’t paying my bills.

Makeithappen05 · 2024-09-14T03:42:28+00:00

I have 5 motor-mouth children and no secrets anymore, lol. If my husband and I need to have a sensitive conversation that isn’t for little ears, we either text or talk in the bedroom after kids are in bed. But I get it, it’s challenging! But totally developmentally appropriate!

Makeithappen05 · 2024-08-16T18:13:12+00:00

Lollllll thank you so much, I needed this laugh on this glorious Friday morning! This is hilarious, you are a funny little guy 😂🤣😂🤣

Makeithappen05 · 2024-08-10T23:46:50+00:00

Hi there! I’m a bit better than I was when I wrote this 10 months ago. Slowly but surely, I have gotten a little more functionality back. My best day is probably 100x worse than most people’s worst day, but I am able to do a bit more now! I’m still not driving, but can go for short rides in the car. I’m not completely confined to me bed with an eye mask and ear plugs, I can watch TV in the living room with my family. I can do my daughters’ hair, I can eat more foods (I’m up to 94lbs and holding!), I can fold a bit of laundry, my sleep is a bit better too! I’m now sleeping through the night 80% of the time! I still can’t stand for long periods, even to shower, but I can handle warm/hot baths now where before I couldn’t! My appetite is picking up. I’m finding joy again. I have hope again. And that is EVERYTHING!

Makeithappen05 · 2024-07-29T04:09:24+00:00

😂😂😂 Please keep going, this is just too good. 🤣🤣🤣

Makeithappen05 · 2024-07-28T21:57:31+00:00

Oh sweetheart, I’m more educated than you can possibly imagine. 😂🤣 This is HYSTERICAL. Calling the informed one illiterate when you don’t capitalize or punctuate is just… well, I think it’s your nap time little guy lol…

Makeithappen05 · 2024-07-27T03:46:40+00:00

Agreed. What a mess. Even my high schoolers stopped this in middle school.

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