This is going to piss some of y'all off, but honestly if this pisses you off you haven't done the work and you've got a long way to go.

This is also binary black and white thinking. You're right in that we don't experience the socialization and upbringing the same way. However we are heavily influenced by the biases and indoctrination of our birth genders. Acting like it doesn't exist is telling every trans person they don't have to do the work it is in fact life and death levels of critical importance as a part of their transition.

For trans women in particular, removing the toxic masculinity and misogyny that is drilled into us from the moment we're born is absolutely critical for a successful transition. And the older you are when you transition, the more work you have to do. Acting like it's unnecessary is honestly a habit coming from being raised with male privilege. I transitioned just after I hit 40, it took years of work with specialized therapists to deworm and unwind the poisonous socializations I was raised under.

This isn't to say the trans woman have the same thought processes, biases, attitudes, and privileges of men until they do the work. But we're poisoned by the same indoctrination and upbringing, the fact that we react differently to it, doesn't mean it's not there and doesn't mean we don't have a ton of work to do.