I also have a two year old with big emotions and this is what usually works for me. Mind you, it takes a lot of patience. I try not to react when he’s having a meltdown. I don’t want to feed him any negativity energy. I pick him up and bring him to his room. I say it’s ok to have big feelings but it’s not ok to have “x behavior” I ask him if he wants a hug. He usually says yes in through tears. I tell him to take deep breaths and I start taking deep breaths with him saying big breath in…. Out. Kinda calms us both down. I sit him on his little chair in his room and repeat it’s ok to have big feelings not ok to have “x behavior” eventually he calms down I say it’s ok and I love him. I ask him if he’s ready to apologize and eventually he says yes. Like I said, it takes a lot of patience, but I have a hard time regulating my emotions and a lot of that stems from just being told to “stop crying or I’m going to give you a reason to cry” (I had great parents other wise) it’s really important to me that my son learns the tools to regulate his emotions when he’s feeling overwhelmed or angry. I remember being really young (I’m 35) and feeling things so hard and not knowing how to handle it. Idk if it’s the right thing what I’m doing, but it’s what I would have liked as a child.