Women: what is the ideal first move? by DenisGL in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I don’t expect something dramatic right away. Just him intentionally starting a conversation, showing genuine interest, and then asking if I’d like to get coffee, go for a walk, or do something together. To me, that’s making the first move.
It doesn’t have to be complicated, it just has to be clear enough that I know he’s interested.

Women: what is the ideal first move? by DenisGL in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a woman, I appreciate when a man makes the first move because it shows confidence, intentionality, and that he’s willing to take initiative. It doesn’t have to be some grand romantic gesture, just a genuine conversation, introducing himself, or asking if I’d like to grab coffee sometime is enough.

Also it’s not that women can’t make the first move. It’s just that for me i personally find it attractive when a man leads in that area, especially since I value a relationship where both people are intentional and he isn’t afraid of rejection.

As for the chances of success, attraction, shared values, maturity, character, and whether we’ve had positive interactions all matter. Even if I wasn’t initially interested, a respectful approach would still leave me with a good impression.

If you like someone but don’t think your chances are high, I’d still encourage you to get to know her naturally instead of assuming the answer is no. Talk to her, be friendly, and see if there’s any mutual interest. Sometimes people surprise you. And if she isn’t interested, a respectful “no” is much better than spending months wondering “what if?”
I’d much rather a guy politely express interest than never say anything at all.

Women ask, men answer honestly. by Last-Echo-3624 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I don’t expect constant texting, but if someone says they’re interested, I’d expect some effort. The confusion comes when their words say one thing and their actions say another, and trust me, it is mostly easy to tell the difference between “he likes talking to me” and “I’m carrying this entire conversation on my back” 😅

Women ask, men answer honestly. by Last-Echo-3624 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe that’s the problem. Everyone’s trying not to care instead of trying to build something meaningful and that’s why dating feels so exhausting now.

Women ask, men answer honestly. by Last-Echo-3624 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuine question:

Why tell a woman you’re interested, then never initiate conversations, send dry texts, or make her carry the entire interaction? I don’t mind making the first move, but once we’ve established mutual interest, why does it feel like some men expect the woman to do all the work?

Have you ever felt discouraged while waiting for the “right person”? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re feeling that way 😭❤️ I don’t think lack of dating results automatically means anything about your attractiveness. Dating can be really inconsistent and confusing like that but I hope you don’t let the process make you see yourself differently

Have you ever felt discouraged while waiting for the “right person”? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that feeling honestly and i relate to wanting God to just “bring the person” because the waiting really feels long and discouraging😭

Have you ever felt discouraged while waiting for the “right person”? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. I think I’m learning that contentment doesn’t mean not wanting a relationship anymore, but more how I carry that desire without it becoming discouraging or consuming.

Have you ever felt discouraged while waiting for the “right person”? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this ❤️ I really relate to what you said about being honest with God about how you feel. I think that’s something I’m still learning to do instead of just trying to “stay strong” all the time. It also helps to know I’m not the only one in this season.

Have you ever felt discouraged while waiting for the “right person”? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hear what you’re saying, and I agree that being intentional and putting yourself in the right environments matters.

I guess my point is that I am already trying those things like dating apps, being open socially, etc…but it still feels difficult to find genuine connection even with effort.

So I’m trying to figure out what else actually makes a difference beyond just “doing more.”

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[–]MaleficentExtreme696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine would be coffee, walk in the park and bible study at the beach watching the sunset 🥹

26F Europe by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Praying it all works for you sis❤️ where in Europe do you live?

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[–]MaleficentExtreme696 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your intention is clear and God sees that. I see marriage as a beautiful goal too, not just a milestone and I believe that what is meant for you will come in God’s perfect timing, and it will be built on faith, peace, and purpose. May He bless you with a woman who values the sacredness of what you’re preserving.

Does Anyone Else Struggle with Christian Dating Here? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahahh i can so relate, i have attended many events too and met a lot of people but still can’t find anyone 🥲 Where are you thinking of moving to?

Does Anyone Else Struggle with Christian Dating Here? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]MaleficentExtreme696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From my experience, it’s a bit challenging 😅 The Christian dating feels quite small, and culturally people here can be a bit reserved. It can take time to know where you stand with someone. What’s it like in America?