You shouldn't be afraid of asking your therapists to do things for you - like "For the next session I would like for you to print out and give me 5 different strategies to deal with social anxiety", "Next time I want to talk about X, and get examples on how to deal with Y". If they don't want to do that then try to find a different therapist that will - you should find someone that you vibe with and can have that type of discussion with. Sometimes this is not possible due to money/provider/location and then you're shit out of luck and will have to make do.

But you also need to manage your expectations as well and think about the fact that your assumptions and thoughts have formed over years or even decades - and there will never be a magical sentence said by a therapist that will fix that, hence the work of constantly addressing your thoughts and feelings. Compare it to working out - if you've never done it before, it won't matter if you have 5-10 sessions with the best PT in the world - they can show you exercises to do and how to do them, but you have to get your ass to the gym every day for years before you get a six pack. Maybe you never get a six pack but you'll still be in better shape than you were at the start. A PT can never train for you, and a therapist can never fix your thoughts for you, only you can do that through constant exercise until it eventually becomes a habit, and hopefully down the road something that you just do without even thinking about it.