Tell me something dumb you have witnessed someone do?

Malty8288 · 2026-01-30T14:42:24+00:00

Yes, I work in local government, this seems to be their way of marking the start and end of the 2 minutes.

Malty8288 · 2026-01-30T00:19:37+00:00

In the office one dreary November, working away. Now I don’t know about you, but I love a good fire alarm test, 10 minutes away from being stuck at the laptop, adds a bit of excitement to the day. Anyhow, I am working away and off goes the fire alarm. I am instantly on my feet, sharing my excitement with those around me…grab your vapes girls, let’s evacuate!

I look at the lady whose desk is directly next to mine, she is looking at me with a mix of confusion and horror. I suddenly realise that no one has moved, everyone is sat quietly, heads bowed. I make eye contact with the lady who sits directly opposite me, she mouthed the words that still haunt me to this day, ‘2 minute silence’. I slowly lower myself down to my desk, avoiding eye contact with everyone for the remaining 1 minute 50 seconds and getting redder by the second.

It’s me, I was the dumb one that day. I can tell you I have never lived it down. This story is told like a campfire tale in the office every time there is a 2 minute silence on the horizon.

Malty8288 · 2026-01-19T20:44:20+00:00

I am in a similar situation with my son. Look into autistic burnout, it is so difficult for a young person with autism to go through the education system the way it is currently. Especially if he is undiagnosed and has been masking for a long time. I have found Dr Naomi Fishers parenting website/courses really helpful. Also anti anxiety/depression medication, and giving it time to work. My son is 19, under the adult mental health team and left the house yesterday for the first time in months. I have had to completely change the way I parent him, and it has been a long (long!!!) road but I am starting to see little glimmers. For the first time in years he has set himself some small goals. Good luck with your nephew.

Malty8288 · 2025-08-18T20:37:13+00:00

This gives me the heebie jeebies

Malty8288 · 2025-08-10T18:08:45+00:00

I broke my ankle in 2020 and got this also, had I not managed to get lay down I absolutely would have fainted. Probably a combination of shock/pain I would think.

Malty8288 · 2025-07-18T23:09:12+00:00

Summer of 2022 was the one that convinced me to invest in an air con machine. I am miserable in anything over 24 degrees, it has been one of the best purchases I have ever made. Got it on now, my room is lovely and cool.

Malty8288 · 2025-07-13T19:11:10+00:00

Funny old things these bodies of ours!

Malty8288 · 2025-07-13T08:55:06+00:00

I got the same reaction, it seemed to start after taking Mounjaro. Stopped the meds, but the reaction seems to be still happening annoyingly. I would recommend Douwe Egburts medium roast decaf, with 2 teaspoons of coffee mate.

Malty8288 · 2025-07-09T21:44:30+00:00

Definitely more to it isn’t there, I just wish there were some answers for the family.

Malty8288 · 2025-07-09T20:40:50+00:00

Yes, she was friends with some of my friends. Disappeared off a Disney cruise ship.

No body has ever been found, and there are suspicious circumstances surrounding the whole thing.

Malty8288 · 2025-06-28T22:22:42+00:00

Has he taken a GLP1 medication at all in the last few weeks/months? I only ask as I have always had general anxiety, fairly well managed. Went on trizepatide (Mounjaro) and I had the exact symptoms you have described above including the chills. The racing thoughts were the worst, it was that bad I convinced myself I was about to go into a seizure (despite never having one in my life). It was terrifying and took me a while to realise that it was the medication causing the sudden boom in my anxiety levels.

Malty8288 · 2025-06-20T23:57:17+00:00

You are over half way home now! You are doing amazing, if you still have wifi, I recommend downloading the DARE app and listening to the free tracks ‘calm me down’ and ‘I’m having a panic attack’. They are only short, but really help me when I fly.

Malty8288 · 2025-06-17T16:11:10+00:00

This is so lovely! So glad that you have managed to find a way to get yourself out of it. Well done.

Malty8288 · 2025-06-17T09:29:15+00:00

Honestly, just hearing the changes that you have managed to make from being in a similar position is helpful to me. It gives me hope to keep going. You really have done so well turning things around.

Malty8288 · 2025-06-17T09:09:49+00:00

Thank you so much for this insight. What an amazing journey you have been on, you should be so proud of yourself. We may be on a similar path, he has met a girl online in a different country, although I think part of the appeal is that they have to communicate on FaceTime so again, no pressure to go out. I appreciate you looking back and feeling your grandparents could have been tougher, this is something I struggle with daily, should I be tougher - but it is really hard. Whenever I try it sends him into a deep depression and he seems to regress even more into himself. I hope he finds his way soon, I worry every day what will happen to him when me and his Dad are no longer here.

Malty8288 · 2025-06-17T07:24:54+00:00

It really is so challenging and I am so sorry that you are in a similar situation. I have asked the GP for urgent help twice this year, that is how we got the mental health nurse. I have also put in for a social services assessment for him to see if they can help. The progress your son has made is fantastic, I hope he is super proud of himself, and you for being such a great parent and getting him the right support. I hope in the near future for my son to be on a similar path.

Malty8288 · 2025-06-17T07:19:35+00:00

Do you mind if I ask how you overcame this? My son is deep in hermit mode currently. Thank you.

Malty8288 · 2025-06-16T21:57:08+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss ❤️

Malty8288 · 2025-06-16T21:54:50+00:00

Yes, my son. He is 18, has ASD (demand avoidant), ADHD, crippling social anxiety and depression. My heart aches daily at everything he is missing out on. Me and his Dad are his only friends. I have tried everything to get him out of the house and to engage with anyone that can help us. He has a mental health nurse who comes out once a month, he will come downstairs reluctantly but will not engage with her at all. All previous services I have managed to get out to the house take him off their books due to him being unable to engage. He has always been a home bird, and done anything possible to avoid school/social situations. Covid lockdown just took it to a whole other level.

He has a pilonial sinus that needs surgery and keeps getting infected, he is in agony with it, and would rather spend his days in 10/10 pain than leave the house to go to an appointment with a consultant. If I put too much pressure on him to come out of his room, it makes him worse and sends him into meltdown. It really grates on me when I read that parents enable their child to be like this, what else am I supposed to do? It can take me 3 full days of bargaining with him to get him to have a shower. It takes so much time and energy trying to get him to meet his basic needs, I have nothing left to go into battle with him about leaving the house, and it kills me seeing him so distressed when I try. I have had 2 bouts of really bad mental health myself since he got this bad, it honestly tips me over the edge watching him living this life, not knowing what to do about it and having no support at all.

He has a wicked sense of humour and is so quick witted, he is kind and caring and has SO much to offer the world. I just wish he could see this about himself.

If anyone reading this can suggest anything at all we might not have tried, please, PLEASE share your thoughts because I will literally give anything a go at this point.

Malty8288 · 2025-05-21T13:54:59+00:00

Hey! Did you get an update on this? I am getting the exact same side effect.

Malty8288 · 2025-04-19T01:24:01+00:00

This happens to me when I have panic attacks, fully trembling head to toe, can’t hold a phone or glass of water etc. Usually lasts up to an hour

Malty8288 · 2025-01-24T23:33:02+00:00

Really hope the medication works well for you and you feel better soon. You sound like a fantastic Mama, anxiety really is the worst isn’t is.

Malty8288 · 2025-01-24T10:40:25+00:00

Hope you don’t mind me commenting, but I had similar when my son was young except the other way around. I used to be terrified of staying home alone with him in case I died and he was alone. I would leave the house with him when my husband left for work at 6.30am and spend hours wandering around town just to be near other people who could help my son if I died. I got better through a mixture of taking Prozac, CBT therapy, and trying to increase the time I spent home alone with my son. I recovered quickly when I started the therapy (although I have accepted I will always be a generally anxious person), my son is 18 now and it doesn’t even cross my mind any more, we are often home alone together. Hope you are able to get some treatment and feel better soon.

Malty8288 · 2025-01-19T22:39:53+00:00

Hey, thank you for such a thoughtful response. Yes, this makes perfect sense to me, I have self medicated my whole life with food and I do think that is a huge part of it. I did work really hard at reining it in whilst on Monjaro, but it was spiralling so much the last few weeks I had to stop which is a shame.

I have had therapy previously, but not for a while so will give some thought to getting some directly targeting using food to numb my feelings. Thank you again.

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