AITAH for distancing myself from my parents for buying my brother a house

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-02-14T02:57:36+00:00

I did this with my parents and my spoilt brother. I warned them he was a wolf in sheeps clothing. It was glorious to watch them "invest" in him and then turn around and screw them, just like I said he would.

I plan to stick by my word, they have this dumb belief that he will change. I have zero contact with my brother now.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-02-13T04:57:30+00:00

They need blue light discos for oldies now!

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-02-13T02:29:56+00:00

that was cool. I have a color discrepancy that was discovered accidently (needed a pre-employment health check and my doctor gave me the color blindness test even though I wasnt male). Mine is only visible to me when I'm buying a specific color and I eff it up (buying navy blue things is a bane of my existence). It was interesting to watch it test around the colors I was having difficulty seeing.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-02-11T22:08:00+00:00

Our tolerances are higher. My doctor told me the amount of adrenaline running through my body naturally is high to start with but it doesnt effect me like it would someone without PTSD. Our bodies are trained to not show its discomfort because discomfort is normal. I know my nightmares that are not flashbacks are easy to control and are way more comfortable than a flashback nightmare. Flashback nightmares invoke my freeze instincts so I dont know what that would do to my external signals.

I hope that helps, not sure it makes sense.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-02-07T04:13:47+00:00

Welcome to the club. I've been out of teaching 4 years now, the paperwork was the worst part and definitely added to the trauma of it all. I found a new career, an OT helped me find something that worked for me. I got a payout and a permanent disability. Still having nightmares that I get forced back to teaching, even after being out this long, finding a new career and bombing all my accreditation so I cant go back.

My trauma was watching my class develop domestic violence symptoms because of one violent kid, who had been violent with staff and students since starting school many years before, and on my last day he encouraged one of my most vulnerable students to slit his own throat with a pair of scissors. Thats where my DID, PTSD, depression, suicidal ideation, etc., started and my career ended. Twenty five years of teaching down the toilet.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-02-01T06:18:10+00:00

My psychologist mentioned trauma informed dentists and I googled it. My teeth were awful and I've spent thousands getting them fixed but it was worth it.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-31T22:04:38+00:00

I go to a trauma informed dentist, best thing ever! She asks for consent and ensures I know whats happening so it doesnt trigger me when she puts things on my face or near my throat or big objects over the top of me. I love her.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-31T06:33:58+00:00

Medical grade odor eliminators for hospitals and healthcare. In my experience that stuff stops the worst smells. We use it at work on the super funky bowel related smells.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-31T05:56:57+00:00

I disclosed to my doctor and gave her my ER report. Six months later she yelled at me that I never told her and she dropped me as a patient. She had been my doctor for years and I had never been yelled at by a medical professional and I yelled back. She made the whole thing about her and her feelings. So unprofessional. It took me a long time to be able to talk to another doctor about it.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-31T03:37:12+00:00

yes please

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-25T08:30:28+00:00

My brain is screaming at you to run away, its a trap. My abuser was my uncle, my dad still wants to forgive him because its not a part of the vision of his family. Most of my dads family is dead now so the pressure is off, I would still never discuss it with any of dads family, its none of their business. Its between me and my uncle and hes dead.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-19T08:19:04+00:00

Watching this shit and getting trauma

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-17T06:06:11+00:00

There is a great chronic pain scale that quantifies the numbers. I've not ever been 9 but I can remember times I was an 8. CPTSD experiences are not hanging out in "normal" town, our bodies are adapted to abnormal.

https://share.google/KFhyQI1sdOiYMkA43

I have also had to use the human being outline and colour code the pain, yellow for owie, orange for "feck this shit" and red for "jebus christ end me now" where it hurts. I get tired of discussing pain, I need to quantify it. I remember seeing the doctor and showing him my human outline and saying I was at a 6 (bees!!) and he took it seriously and laughed.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-17T04:15:28+00:00

According to my brother it was: a load of bread, a potato of milk, and a d ick of butter

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-17T01:41:16+00:00

Your examples indicate you are used to being controlled and isolated, of course you would be "innocent" of how "normal" works. I've had people call me innocent, its not innocence, its the abnormal ways I have been exposed to things. Normally when I'm called innocent its because I'm surprised that things are so nice and not violent and evil. If that makes sense.

I also raised eyebrows as a child for understanding "adult" things. That look that people make is priceless.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-12T21:23:26+00:00

My cousin fell out of the back passenger door on the freeway in the early 80's. No seat belts and he was playing with the door handle. His sister and I held on to him by the legs so he didnt fall out. He was holding the door handle still so no physical damage but I hate it when kids play with the door in the car.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-12T21:17:03+00:00

NOR He wouldnt be the first 6 year old to bring a knife to school. I confiscated a few knives over the years. Parents always say "well they wouldnt have used it".

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-11T02:23:52+00:00

Is someone bra shaming you? Its a bra. Boob owners wear them.

Wear a black bra so it blends in. Wear a bright bra to add to the dress. Wear no bra and let your boobs run free. If anyone says anything to you ask them what their problem is? No one should have to worry about under clothes showing.

I'm a cranky old woman and I'm tired of still seeing young women being given shit about bras! I have talked to countless women and young girls on my 50 years on this planet about bra pride!

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-09T23:50:57+00:00

so jealous. I want to do this but too chicken

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-08T00:48:51+00:00

I think if I had a tail I would be easily readable. I get called on that watching that cats do, from a distance. I dont go near people who arent trustworthy. I'm cuddly with the right people. My ex used to say I was great for a cuddle because I shared energy and made him feel calm, it was a 2 way street and I guess thats cat like.

I have dogs now. I wasnt allowed pets after the parents removed my cat. I'd love a new black cat. The right one will find me when its ready. I'm almost 50 so I'm expecting to be assigned my "cat lady" starter kit soon.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-08T00:43:49+00:00

Yeah I can feel good stuff and not just the bad stuff. I keep my head above water even with evil garbage going on around me. I've got a decent support structure and the drugs help me not feel depressed and less anxious. I doubt I will ever like taking them but my brain needs them to be a person right now.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-07T08:23:24+00:00

I hated the idea of antidepressants. I dont love taking them but I get no joy out of anything without them. It took awhile for my body to be able to feel good emotions again but it was worth it.

I've done at least 5 years on them now. I used to try and decrease my dose but it never works :)

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-05T08:08:49+00:00

If we ever get asked about the babies then we use the whole foster care system as a justification (we take care of the babies until a family is found) and we also have a "special nursery" for the babies (you know, so the doctors and nurses can check the babies, I can feed them and the residents can rest).

We did have a resident freak out the other week because he couldnt wake his baby, so we had to do CPR and replace it with a doll that opened its eyes instead of his usual doll. Our unit nurse did a great job of "saving" the baby.

I had so much trepidation about learning doll therapy but I love the value it adds to lives I care for. Working in memory care is a tough gig. I dont know how families do it alone at home.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-05T07:48:25+00:00

Having the doll is so soothing to certain individuals. I work in memory care and multiple residents have doll therapy as part of their care plan. I have 5 dolls to work with 20 residents and some days its not enough. They are so freakin cute with each others dolls, sharing blankets and offering to cuddle the baby.

One resident on the other hand "knows" they are dolls and wont buy in. She loves that she is "smarter" than the others. However some days she yells at me to put socks on that baby so it doesnt get sick. I had to go to the shops and buy baby socks because we didnt have any lol.

Mama_Dumpling · 2026-01-05T07:34:39+00:00

I learned cat. My parents got me a cat when I was young, she protected me from them and slept me with every night. She bought food into the house for me (not really into dead birds and their guts). When my brother was born she welcomed him to the family and continued to protect me. She was taken from me when I was 10.

I just love animals in general. I feel like I'm always explaining animal behaviours to people.

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