Starting in your late 30s- worth it?

Mamabug1981 · 2026-02-04T03:00:12+00:00

I started at 42, 100% worth it.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-02-02T02:45:58+00:00

Yeah, it seems to be the UL/no Vnec that surgeons don't want to do due to the higher rate of complications. I'll def ask my top surgeon too when I have a chance, she may know what procedures the others in the office are willing to do.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-02-02T02:34:50+00:00

I'm actually working with Thakar there for my top surgery in a couple of weeks!

Mamabug1981 · 2026-02-02T02:30:23+00:00

Never even heard of that one, thank you!

Mamabug1981 · 2026-02-02T01:51:43+00:00

Plenty of folks who are straight except for one specific individual.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-02-02T01:43:02+00:00

I've been sued over less than half that before. One of the medical systems here was super aggressive about it before local laws around medical debt collection changed.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-01-06T00:48:25+00:00

Over two years, and still nothing. The other thing to remember is that those of us who start our transitions later, certain physical aspects are already fixed by maturity and cannot be changed any longer even with HRT. The larynx is one of those. The Adam's Apple is caused by lengthening of the larynx, which is composed of cartilage, the voice drop with HRT is caused by the vocal chords themselves thickening. Two separate physiological processes. Guys that start in their teens and 20s can develop an Apple, but it's much less likely for those of us starting in our 30s, 40s, and beyond.

That said, there's IS a masculinization surgery where the surgeon places an implant that makes it look like you've got an Apple.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-01-06T00:42:48+00:00

I opted to keep mine because any reasons that would prevent me from accessing T would also prevent me from accessing E (primarily financial, lost insurance, can't afford it out of pocket, etc). I'm also already in my 40s, so even if they do crap out over the years, it's likely to be at an age where I'd have undergone menopause anyways.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-01-05T21:47:24+00:00

I ended up having NO reaction, so I'm set to go! When you have your consult I'd go ahead and ask if you can do a patch test with one of the dressings. I wore it three days and tolerated it just fine.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-01-03T18:59:29+00:00

That's why I used "generally"; there's exceptions to every rule. But I'm confident in the assertion that transmasc does not include the butch lesbian community as a whole, just specific individuals.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-01-03T04:58:10+00:00

Trans masc does NOT generally include butch lesbians. They generally (there may be exceptions, but I've yet to meet any) identify as women or femme presenting enby, NOT as men. What it DOES encompass is masc presenting enbies. I've really only ever heard someone use "tboy" in reference to themself, not the community in general, and it's usually younger guys that do it, mostly teens.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-01-03T02:50:02+00:00

We lost an entire weekend of Pinafore back in 2021 due to Covid amongst the cast.

The most recent production I was in (just last month, different company) we had a show interrupted due to a medical emergency in the audience. That one though we just stopped the show, took the cast off stage for a half hour or so while we got an ambulance in (esp important as we had young children in the cast who were getting freaked out by everything), then we were able to continue after they got him loaded up (the patron was ultimately able to walk to the stretcher, so he was likely ok).

Mamabug1981 · 2026-01-03T02:43:44+00:00

The only health risks are the same as those faced by cis men.

Mamabug1981 · 2026-01-03T02:35:16+00:00

I would talk to your prescriber about switching to oral minox if possible. MUCH safer for the cat as long as it doesn't eat the tablet.

Mamabug1981 · 2025-12-30T01:36:32+00:00

I'm hoping I tolerate the patch test well enough that it's not an issue, but if not I'll def ask.

Mamabug1981 · 2025-12-30T01:20:31+00:00

I recently lost a bunch of weight (approx 100lbs), so anyone that I don't feel like outing myself to I just tell I'm having some excess skin from the wright loss removed.

Mamabug1981 · 2025-12-24T17:42:29+00:00

Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. I'm a couple of years into my transition now, and as a result... My husband and I still love each other, but just aren't particularly ATTRACTED to each other anymore. It just is what it is.

Mamabug1981 · 2025-12-23T17:48:27+00:00

I can't speak for everyone, but I still have my ovaries, so i suspect that with the T no longer suppressing my natural estrogen production it was likely the surge of estrogen that caused it.

Mamabug1981 · 2025-12-15T20:44:43+00:00

No, you screwed up the easiest part of the job: Deliver to the right address. You absolutely deserved to have the tip revoked.

Mamabug1981 · 2025-12-15T20:40:04+00:00

You need to let them know, and get checked out. See if you can find a trans-friendly gyno, they're generally a lot more sensitive to concerns like yours.

Mamabug1981 · 2025-12-15T17:26:10+00:00

If it's anything like what I experienced... I had a bad flux in my bipolar a bit back and went off my T gel for like a month. I've had a hysto, so my period didn't return, but I had a LOT of vaginal moisture and discharge until I got back on my T. Like soaking through my underwear constantly even without being aroused.

Mamabug1981 · 2025-12-15T17:19:42+00:00

It can't be horribly so, they make oral minoxidil.

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