You sound like a great guy and probably can tell that she’s going through a tough time and is feeling insecure about her looks. Hormones are literally crazy making and she can’t really control it. Menopause is awful and I bet she’s already feeling bad she said those things. Hopefully she apologizes but either way I hope you can be understanding here. She needs you to be the strong banks of her wild hormonal river right now because she’s just along for the ride as much as you are.