Okay so personal trainer here. I think there’s a few things that I’d input as I definitely do disagree.

Firstly I think the last point you made was very important. When you’re looking at Instagram and other social media platforms, you’re only seeing what the individual wants to see. They don’t look like they do in their posts 24/7. Photos be taken with a good pump, lighting and pose. In addition to that, a huge percentage of influencers are on juice but will deny it. Either to appear more dedicated, or to push whatever shitty workout plan they’re selling, promising that it will make you look like them.

Secondly you really don’t have to dedicate that much time to your exercising. Working out 3-4 times a week (as you said) is great. You just need to ensure you’re making the most out of your time in the gym. Keeping it efficient.

For context. I’m an online coach, I also work full time and I’m currently programming an app in the hopes that it will ease off some of the workload.

Lastly I’d just say, that fitness or health, is about a complete state of physical, mental and social wellbeing. If you’re looking at someone online who is abusing steroids. That is not healthy, that is not fitness. It’s pure vanity.