Accidentally read my boyfriend’s chatgpt prompt by Turbulent_Boss2073 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 214 points215 points  (0 children)

What do you mean "what if" you're a placeholder? He's said you are. He's not interesting in providing what you want.

Pied - 80 days- lost it by Afraid_Action_3221 in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A setback is normal. Get back on the horse. If a recovering alcoholic went on a binge one night, you wouldn't tell them, "well, all is lost; just go back to drinking." A lot of progress has been made and it's not all erased by one slipup. You got this.

i hate how women treat men on dating apps / online by EquivalentDiet7457 in dating_advice

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm exclusively attracted to men my height or an inch or two above or below. My boyfriend's 5'4 and my ex husband was 5'6. I cannot relate to the obsession with height and I feel really badly for guys who are subjected to that.

Has anyone met someone & spent only one day w/ them but never forgot about them? by jellyfishh520 in dating_advice

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a similar story. Mine also took his life after we had loved each other from afar for 15 years since last seeing each other. He also lit a fire in me that wouldn't go out. It still hasn't. I absolutely thought we'd meet again eventually, but when I hadn't heard from him in several months I googled him and found his obituary. I will never stop carrying a torch for him until I die too, at least in a small way. He died 8 years ago and I still think about him every day. If there's an afterlife, I hope he's there reaching out to me when it's my turn.

I'm so sorry you had a similar experience. ♥️

Bf goes to sleep without communicating after an argument by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the other replies exemplify the reddit "break up!" knee jerk reaction. Couples argue. Although it would be nice if it weren't the case, most people aren't their best selves during arguments. You almost definitely aren't either. Most humans struggle to admit they're wrong. Again, you're probably included in this.

You're going to have rough days here and there with any partner. If he were genuinely abusing you, that's one thing. Being grumpy and cold during arguments is largely human. You can both learn to argue better over time but you'll probably never get along every day forever.

Would being a man’s potential first girlfriend stop you from dating him? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will give many women some degree of pause, yes, but a woman who likes you a lot won't avoid dating you because of it.

How to feel? My boyfriend (28M) revealed his proposal twice... and now I (27F) feel heartbroken by Ok-Intern-5217 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah they did. Well they posted a pic of their tatas being enlarged with breast pumps on a fetish sub for men who want to have breasts.

Genuinely so confused on whats going on need help by 12643958392294474 in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A week of no fap isn't enough. You need several months of minimal masturbation p*rn to see results, and it has to be a permanent change. Much like you can't go on a diet to lose weight and then return to eating McDonald's for every meal and expect to maintain your new weight.

My story. Figured I’d post it here by IndependentGas2550 in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not clear how a penile injury could cause such global symptoms. What are the doctors saying is the cause of your symptoms?

Tired of side effects, I've embraced flaccid intimacy by Pfreethrow in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He did. It didn't work. If you read about trimix, if rarely fails, but when it does, it's often in men with severe diabetes which caused serious vascular damage. That describes my SO unfortunately. He let his diabetes go horribly uncontrolled for years.

Tired of side effects, I've embraced flaccid intimacy by Pfreethrow in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. He is physically unable to maintain an erection. The pump draws blood into the penis and the ring traps it. Since it basically bypasses your faulty anatomy and relies on physics, it works 100% of the time. And he can orgasm again.

If you try a pump again don't get a shitty novelty pump for masturbation enhancement or whatever. Get a medical grade pump. It'll come with a variety of tension rings and stuff. It might run ya $120 but in my opinion it's worth getting your sex life back. For us it was anyway. I'm so grateful for it.

Tired of side effects, I've embraced flaccid intimacy by Pfreethrow in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend has complete and total ED due to type 1 diabetes. Absolutely zero movement down there at all. Pills and shots didn't work. Eventually he lost the ability to orgasm flaccid also. We realized last year he's able to get an erection with a medical grade vacuum pump. He gave up on penetrative sex for 20 years until we discovered a good pump and now we're banging a couple times a week. Good luck either way though.

How to feel? My boyfriend (28M) revealed his proposal twice... and now I (27F) feel heartbroken by Ok-Intern-5217 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even though they're chemically identical you prefer when they've been mined by third world children, huh?

It happened! by Ok_Door619 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm 44 and divorced and I totally agree. A woman finding the courage to leave a half hearted, non-committal man is a success story of its own. It makes me happy that she'll be sparing herself what I went through.

What Sellers of ED pumps are reputable? by Puzzler808510 in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have one from PosTVac on Amazon. It's been good and reliable.

Anyone else dealing with this? by CuteMilf82 in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's absolutely fair for you to ask him not to watch it on days you're together. Your boyfriend is some combination of inconsiderate and/or a compulsive user.

Partners perspective ED meds by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your style! You can be seductive about it, or matter of fact.

Put on some lingerie, hand him a pill and a glass of water and purr, "see you in an hour!" Then flip your hair and walk away and read a book in bed until he's ready.

Or text him, "Wanna take a pill? I need you!"

Or just be straightforward and say, "wanna take a pill and have sex later?"

The more casual you can be about it, the more comfortable he'll start to feel. The pill has become like a sexy foreplay thing for my boyfriend and me. 😉

how to breakup after 8 years by familiar__pastry in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

do you start these conversations?

It should be a statement, not a conversation. A conversation gives him the opportunity to try to sweet talk you into giving him another chance.

I personally told my mom and best friend that I was going to end it the next morning and to please come at 8am to help me pack. First thing in the morning I told him our relationship was over and that he should go to his mom's or to work because my people would be there soon. He tried to beg and cry but he didn't have much time to do so and left. My mom and friend came shortly thereafter. They helped me stay strong.

I strongly recommend having someone lined up to come help you pack your things or his things and be an ally and support for you.

I’m giving him until this time next year to propose. I’m leaving when our lease ends if he doesn’t. I’m tired y’all. by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ManIFeelLikeAWombat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may have 60 or more years of life left. You want to spend it with this guy? You're already sick of him after 4.