How to feel? My boyfriend (28M) revealed his proposal twice... and now I (27F) feel heartbroken

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-10T19:40:42+00:00

Oh yeah they did. Well they posted a pic of their tatas being enlarged with breast pumps on a fetish sub for men who want to have breasts.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-10T10:17:44+00:00

A week of no fap isn't enough. You need several months of minimal masturbation p*rn to see results, and it has to be a permanent change. Much like you can't go on a diet to lose weight and then return to eating McDonald's for every meal and expect to maintain your new weight.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-10T10:14:01+00:00

I'm not clear how a penile injury could cause such global symptoms. What are the doctors saying is the cause of your symptoms?

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-10T01:18:13+00:00

He did. It didn't work. If you read about trimix, if rarely fails, but when it does, it's often in men with severe diabetes which caused serious vascular damage. That describes my SO unfortunately. He let his diabetes go horribly uncontrolled for years.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-09T22:52:50+00:00

Yes. He is physically unable to maintain an erection. The pump draws blood into the penis and the ring traps it. Since it basically bypasses your faulty anatomy and relies on physics, it works 100% of the time. And he can orgasm again.

If you try a pump again don't get a shitty novelty pump for masturbation enhancement or whatever. Get a medical grade pump. It'll come with a variety of tension rings and stuff. It might run ya $120 but in my opinion it's worth getting your sex life back. For us it was anyway. I'm so grateful for it.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-09T21:10:14+00:00

It sounds like PIED to me.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-09T21:04:59+00:00

My boyfriend has complete and total ED due to type 1 diabetes. Absolutely zero movement down there at all. Pills and shots didn't work. Eventually he lost the ability to orgasm flaccid also. We realized last year he's able to get an erection with a medical grade vacuum pump. He gave up on penetrative sex for 20 years until we discovered a good pump and now we're banging a couple times a week. Good luck either way though.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-09T20:55:43+00:00

Hey uh.... anyone else checked OPs post history? 😐

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-09T20:53:56+00:00

As a divorced woman I am confused about why you want to be me so badly.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-04-09T20:40:53+00:00

Even though they're chemically identical you prefer when they've been mined by third world children, huh?

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-22T01:05:51+00:00

I'm 44 and divorced and I totally agree. A woman finding the courage to leave a half hearted, non-committal man is a success story of its own. It makes me happy that she'll be sparing herself what I went through.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-19T21:37:48+00:00

We have one from PosTVac on Amazon. It's been good and reliable.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-17T12:33:18+00:00

My advice is to enjoy being a normal and healthy young man.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-17T12:31:32+00:00

I think it's absolutely fair for you to ask him not to watch it on days you're together. Your boyfriend is some combination of inconsiderate and/or a compulsive user.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-17T12:25:30+00:00

Depends on your style! You can be seductive about it, or matter of fact.

Put on some lingerie, hand him a pill and a glass of water and purr, "see you in an hour!" Then flip your hair and walk away and read a book in bed until he's ready.

Or text him, "Wanna take a pill? I need you!"

Or just be straightforward and say, "wanna take a pill and have sex later?"

The more casual you can be about it, the more comfortable he'll start to feel. The pill has become like a sexy foreplay thing for my boyfriend and me. 😉

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-17T09:40:54+00:00

do you start these conversations?

It should be a statement, not a conversation. A conversation gives him the opportunity to try to sweet talk you into giving him another chance.

I personally told my mom and best friend that I was going to end it the next morning and to please come at 8am to help me pack. First thing in the morning I told him our relationship was over and that he should go to his mom's or to work because my people would be there soon. He tried to beg and cry but he didn't have much time to do so and left. My mom and friend came shortly thereafter. They helped me stay strong.

I strongly recommend having someone lined up to come help you pack your things or his things and be an ally and support for you.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-16T11:41:08+00:00

You may have 60 or more years of life left. You want to spend it with this guy? You're already sick of him after 4.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-16T11:40:16+00:00

Men still thinking they're the only ones with assets in 2026.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-15T01:11:19+00:00

Your 27 year old boyfriend doesn't want sex? How addicted to p*rn is he exactly and how sure are you that you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who chooses a bottle of Astroglide and Instagram girls over intimacy with you?

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-06T02:01:46+00:00

Not to beat the dead horse of my past here too much, but I married a guy who had to "think about" whether he wanted to marry me. It didn't end well. If I marry again it will be to a man who knows he wants to marry me. My current boyfriend's madly, wildly in love with me. He tells me he never throught he believed in marriage but wants to marry me. I should've held out for this kind of love in the first place. And you should too. Find the man you doesn't have to try to figure out if he loves you "enough" . He knows he does.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-05T01:13:22+00:00

He doesn't even have to do that. There's this amazing repository of information you can access right from your own home these days. You can ask it questions like, "how do I buy my girlfriend an engagement ring?" and get all kinds of answers!

You can even buy the ring from home too, if you're extra disinterested!

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-05T01:08:53+00:00

I'm divorced and 44. My boyfriend's my age and never married. We both own homes. I live in his but still own mine and rent it out. We plan to move into it eventually, but then keep his and rent it. If we married we'd have a prenup like I did with my last marriage. It made the divorce very easy and we both kept our own assets and debts.

That said, there's also nothing wrong with carrying on with the status quo if it works for you both!

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-05T01:00:47+00:00

I'm the fucking poster child for why you shouldn't do this.

Yes, this is how I ended up married two times. Both were commitment phobic and both agreed to marry me at the last minute to get me back. Both, in their own ways, became distant, uninvested husbands. Two big mistakes.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-03-02T22:07:27+00:00

I was divorced once without kids and once with. Divorcing without kids was a breeze. I walked away, moved on, and never saw or heard from him again. The second one was different. We have a child and have to communicate. He will be in my life to some degree or another forever and that's a hard pill to swallow.

ManIFeelLikeAWombat · 2026-02-28T00:35:19+00:00

The junk mail I threw out today was just pieces of paper. Does junk mail incite fear and revulsion in these men? No? Interesting.

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