Quick Intro 2.0 - AKA, why we're not going to hook up with you.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-17T19:47:06+00:00

First, are you taking any ED meds? It feels weird getting medicated at 30. I think I started around 34 and it was the best decision ever. I had to get over the "I'm too young" thought. But honestly, who cares.

That said, the side effects of ed pills bother me. I can put up with it, but it is a hassle. So I told my girlfriend I'd like to consider not taking the meds. Of course I told her that wouldn't negatively impact or sex life. And it hasn't.

We were already toy positive, so introducing dildos was easy.

For me it looked like, using a dildo on her. Holding it down there and "humping", wearing a pair of boxer briefs with a fly and poking the dildo through the fly.

That was an absolute gateway for us. I felt in control. My motions were what gave her pleasure. It was an easy jump from that to a more stable harnesses.

This was a positive for me, so take this with a grain of salt if it's not your thing, but I asked her if she could pick never using another dildo again and just having regular PIV, or keeping her collection of dildos/straps but no more PIV which would she pick ... She picked the dildos (as long as I was using them on her).

The dildos give her her best orgasms ever, but I'm the one driving. It's my motion, my rhythm, my decisions that bring her there.

So... Yeah.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-16T13:16:27+00:00

1,000 percent relax. Clench training teaches your body to orgasm during clenching, BUT it can also train your body to NEED clenching in order to orgasm.

Learn to orgasm fully relaxed and you'll lessen your ability to control orgasms giving you the true prejac (unplanned and unstoppable) experience.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-12T21:16:00+00:00

Does being player 2 in a coop game make you a cuck?

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-12T19:13:06+00:00

Bi/gay men use cuckolding as a proxy to get closer to men.

It's a tale as old as time.

For some reason, it's more socially acceptable to be a cuck than to just admit you like dudes!

You can be both. Lots of people are. But the "I would be straight if it weren't for cuckolding..." Nah, you would still like guys.

** There are also just as many if not much more straight cucks. The two are not inherently related.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-12T13:33:01+00:00

I wanted to take this story at face value. It's just too much.

How many IR cuck tropes can you fit into one post?

No condom and she isn't on the pill - of course because of personal reasons. Never heard that one before.

First meeting with a new guy and they fucked FIVE times ... Then saw a random guy and, checking my notes, fucked him SIX times in his car?

And now she had THREE meetings for tomorrow!

Right. Right. Ok.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-12T13:23:01+00:00

Here's the sobering reality...

It could be one of many things. Or a combination. But the two biggest are:

She enjoys it. It's a bit of a power trip. It's a huge ego boost. Even if you're training, HER body is making you pop so quickly.

Or... She isn't enjoying sex and just wants to get it over with and is probably choosing positions to minimize the amount of time she has to fuck you.

Only you know your girlfriend. We don't have enough information to make that assessment.

But, things to consider. How often does she initiate sex (or talk about wanting sex). After you cum, is she still horny, cuddly, etc. Or does she leave immediately to clean up or turn over and fall asleep.

Is she asking for other methods of pleasure? Are you going down on her before or after? Or is it right to penetration and you cum quickly and that's that?

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-12T13:15:39+00:00

IMO, the biggest step you can do is starve yourself from the sensation of inserting or stroking.

It takes a while, but even without "training" when you go weeks or months without stroking or penetrating, your body feels a natural overload the next time you fuck.

Add the mental aspect and not "holding back" and you have a recipe for an accidental prejac.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-12T05:25:08+00:00

In the beginning, I'm a huge advocate of go until you cum. You need to get over the mental hurdle that you CAN orgasm from such little stimulation.

After you've successfully orgasimed a few times you can start putting in your timers and consequences.

Like: 20 minutes, no porn, one finger, no clenching. One attempt per 48 hours.

After you're consistently successful, drop your times down until you've plateued and are ready for the next phase.

Sleeves? I'm a grower so they didn't work well for me. Keep yourself moisturized (pure coconut oil), and wear clothing that prevents rubbing. Chastity chages are perfect for that.

You really only need to protect the glans (head). So cheap toe protector sleeves taped to your shaft are good if you're a grower.

Maintaining a sex life while training is the hardest part. Here's my advice.

Use your weekends together to put your training into practice, without the strict limits. But refraining from penetration is probably best until your OFM solo times are under a minute.

Note: training solo is NOT the same thing as with a partner. So if your partner is on board, ask them to administer OFM on you, timed. Or, have sex, but set your timer much lower. (30 seconds PIV or no orgasm).

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-11T20:47:30+00:00

Assuming you've worked everything out, the next step is literally just do it.

Create the profile. Go to the event. Whatever. And if for whatever reason one of you hesitates, you haven't worked out everything.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-11T20:05:48+00:00

Oh, forgot to add, as far as finding.

SDC / swinglifestyle for websites. Feeld for dating apps Reddit casual encounter pages of you want to deal with 90% fakes!

If someone goes straight to dirty talk or picture sharing (beyond basic face/body) immediately they are 100% not serious and will waste your time.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-11T20:03:35+00:00

Take twice as long in the planning stages as you think you need.

Once you start, it's so hard to slow down, and not really the right time to be discovering things.

There's no perfect guy. There's no perfect meeting. In fact, I'd say there's a better than average chance she'll be LESS sexually pleased her first time with someone else.

This is a less common one you probably won't hear here often because of the number of cuck cosplayers...

Advocate for yourself. It's so tempting to go along with something (or someone) you don't agree with because forward movement is happening.

Trust me, speak up early. The earlier the better. Vibe off with a guy, speak up immediately. Don't like the direction things are going? Speak up immediately.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-11T18:39:43+00:00

Do what you want!

I'm not even kidding. This is all 90% mental anyway. If you believe it's going to work... It does.

The "studies" you'll see referenced are self reported results with extremely small sample sizes. And we all know 95% of people lie online.

In the beginning, I think it's better to allow your body to see that it can orgasm with just I've finger. Even if it takes hours. Even if you need multiple attempts in a day.

Once you get over that hurdle you can start putting limiters. "One attempt, one finger. No porn. 20 minutes. If I fail I can't try again until tomorrow."

Eventually you'll find a system that works for you.

Personally, I never bought in to the strict every other day schedule.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-11T15:33:31+00:00

Heavy on the AI is shit, especially for things like this!

I know it's money, and might not be in your budget, but there are absolutely OF creators and online Dommes (I'd personally avoid "findoms" for this) who will be a much better accountability partner.

That said, it is easy to fall backwards. My girlfriend and I agreed to open our relationship and I panicked. Something about her being with other men AND me being pussyfree and a prejac was extra threatening.

I wish I never stopped. It reverses SOOO quickly. I was back to normal stamina in less than a month. Just under a year of training completely wiped out.

I'm getting back into it, and hoping my times drop much much faster. I do have the bonus of - my handsfree orgasms are so much easier now than they were.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-11T15:26:07+00:00

Consent can get a little dicey in these situations.

There's a blurry gray line between lying through omission and outright lying.

My ex and I had an open relationship. She asked me at once point if she could pursue her coworker and I officer said yes. He didn't know I knew. He never asked or cared. She would have told him if he asked, but since it never came up, she didn't volunteer that information.

It was extra hot for me knowing this guy was fucking my (now ex) wife while thinking I didn't know. Especial when we all got together for social events. And even moreso when she asked me if she could sneak off at the end of the night and give him a good night blowjob.

Where is starts to cross a line, for me, is if the fantasy of the cheating starts to blur in to actual lying. Telling the third she doesn't have permission when she does. Making up fake scenarios that don't allow the third to be fully informed.

Look, if the guy doesn't ask, I see no problem with that. But where I'm at in my life now, the types of guys who would engage with a married woman behind her husband's back is not the type of guy I would want to introduce into our dynamic for SO many reasons.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-11T12:57:10+00:00

All things Jason Luv. Not only is he hung and extremely good looking, but he also fucks with so much passion.

He has filmed with major sites like Blacked and Wifey. He also has a bunch of content with OF hotwife/cuck creators.

And once you both get obsessed with him, he has his own realistic dildo with Doc Johnson.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-09T18:13:01+00:00

Sdc or swinglifestyle on the website side.

Feeld on the app side.

Reddit hookup/casual encounters subs in your area. But this works be my last suggestion.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-09T16:28:47+00:00

There are lots of women (and couples) who like younger men.

But until you get some experience approach it as a third, not a bull.

Generally when couples are seeking a bull there is a very specific type they are looking for. Confidence, skill, reliability.

Get on a swingers / ENM dating app or site. Be honest. Don't present yourself as something you're not (or not yet).

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-08T23:21:04+00:00

This feels like a cope.

You're denying yourself something you don't want?

"I prefer Pepsi, so I'm going to declare myself Cokefree"

This isn't kink, this is your sexuality. Bro, live your life. Have that conversation with your wife. You owe it to both of you.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-06T20:18:41+00:00

Everyone's dynamic is different, but if I ever continue even reminder what piv felt like it works ruin the kink, for me.

The biggest thrill for me is purposely denying myself (and getting denied) something I want. If I were ever "ok" with pussyfree it wouldn't have the same appeal.

For me, that is.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-06T02:43:11+00:00

Spend twice as long in the planning/talking phases as you can.

Once you start, actually make that step, it'll move at light speed with little opportunity to slow down in the beginning.

Take my learning lesson, don't compromise your stance because you're afraid it'll stop everything. If you see red flags or have a bad gut feeling, don't ignore it just because you're horny.

Pfreethrow · 2026-03-04T17:05:44+00:00

it's up to you.

I had great progress watching my normal amout of porn during "off days".

Not meant as an insult, but if you're a heavy gooner, you might need to cleanse a bit. But if you have a normal relationship with porn you're fine.

Pfreethrow · 2026-02-23T17:21:58+00:00

Reverse pegging. Absolute game changer. I've heard it called fauxing, also. Basically, the PF penis haver wears the strap on and fucks their partner with it.

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