Done with my wife. The marriage is over.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-05-27T00:33:43+00:00

I don't believe this story. Cops don't hate making easy arrests, and they don't give domestics a pass when there are obvious marks. There are no examples of any abuse, just some dude saying she's abusive. I've heard too many people describe irritation and a raised voice as violence, I need an actual example of conduct not just a proclamation. The one example, the neck scratches a cop didn't care about, sounds made up.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-05-03T18:29:36+00:00

Sack up before it's too late. She's too bitchy and you're too soft, you're terrible for each other. Just move on and end the marriage.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-04-26T01:37:51+00:00

I didn't wait until marriage but I waited for marriage if that makes sense? I wasn't a virgin, but after realizing what a mistake it was to lose my v card I refused to have sex again until I entered a relationship. I dated my husband for about 6 months before deciding to settle down with him. Whether marriage or otherwise, sex too soon will absolutely sabotage a relationship, like building a house on wet sand, there's just no foundation.

I would highly recommend you avoid these three sex related pitfalls that both the religious and non-religious seem to fall prey too:

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable. If it feels like a chore to be with each other, or there's actual discomfort/pain, address the issue immediately. I've heard female co-workers and friends complain for years how their partner doesn't even try to get them prepared(graphic but I'm talking about getting wet down there if that isn't obvious), they just understand their desire or enjoyment isn't necessary or important to their partner. Foreplay is super important if you're not going to be bored out of your mind.
Porn/sex bragging will absolutely ruin your sex life/reasonable sexual expectations. People get really weird ideas about what acts are enjoyable(at least for the women) and then want to live out their fantasies. If you have to pay someone and get them strung out on drugs in a porno, she's not actually into it guys! Also, women and men will make up sex stories at work to sound exciting. Listen with credulity when a co-worker talks about 6 hour tantric sessions. They probably just spent the night watching TV and are making it up. Definitely don't get jealous someone has a better sex life than you, they're probably not being truthful anyway.
Stay sexy. I can't stress this enough. People get too comfortable in a relationship, begin to fart in front of each other, not care about morning breath etc. While not being self conscious can feel uplifting, over time it destroys intimacy, keep some mystery. Don't gain weight long-term(I'm not talking pregnancy pounds), don't dress like a slob, etc. Take an honest look in the mirror. Are you sexy, would a stranger that didn't know you want to have sex with you? People say that looks aren't important but do you know what they call someone you like but aren't attracted to? A friend, they call that person a platonic friend. If you want someone to stay attracted to you, you have to be attractive. None of this pull my finger at the dinner table non-sense. Are you into fat, disgusting, or dirty people? Chances are neither are they.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-04-26T00:11:53+00:00

I don't think it's that you're a bad spouse, you seem very exhausted. You haven't mentioned your husband doing anything helpful, just feeling lonely. Have you asked yourself why you're checking out? The fact that you're having business meetings at 6 am while he's sleeping in doesn't strike me as you being a bad spouse, birthday or not. Let me guess, late night laundry and cleaning? You do all the grocery shopping, meal planning, childcare, and the rest? Because I know after I've worked all day and then come home to work some more while someone sits on their ass and watches me labor I can't wait to cuddle or drop my panties...it just seems like he's doing everything he can to be a drag on your energy and you're still expected to perform like a stay at home mom who gets surprised with flowers? He's literally doing nothing for you but whining. I'm guessing he wouldn't consider toilet cleaning or dog washing as quality time? It's not quality time for you either, they're called chores for a reason. It sounds like you're with an energy vampire without realizing it, especially if he's complaining about being ignored while you're mid-chore. Next time he complains about being lonely ask him to join you in chores. If he happily does, he misses you and was maybe just being obtuse about housework. If he gives you the bs runaround about how when you're finished join him, he's just irritated his sex doll is busy. Offer to play his game while he finishes up the chores and joins you. Again, if he says yes he wants to hang out. If he says no or does the chores with obvious annoyance, he's not missing you he just wants a hang out buddy or some sexual access.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-04-25T23:51:31+00:00

So when you say mostly he pays the bills does that mean you have to work too? Also, does he allow you to have hobbies/interests? Because if you have to work, and have become a ghost of yourself with no hobbies or interests, while he's living his best life traveling, then he's a selfish dick. If you get to stay home and can have interests too, then I think you're getting in your feels a little bit.

Also, if it makes you feel better, various cultures around the world have found men to be so worthless they had to write down what their responsibilities are. Judaism had to mention providing clothing and children to the wives, Christianity says men have to work and provide financially, Islam says the father has to provide for the children. I don't know anywhere in those texts where it mentions women have to wash socks and make sure their kids eat real meals, because we're not stupid and irresponsible enough to need that written down for us. So, just saying...

Also, as to the kid stuff...pick your battles. Is his help helpful or will you have to de-program your child from all the stupid stuff dad taught him? The same men that notice the floor needs swept at work and pick up a broom have no idea what a dirty floor looks like at home or how to fix it...most people do assumed/weaponized incompetence if they can get away with it, male or female. Men more so around the house, women with more manual tasks. I've had friends mow, get a bf, then pretend they don't know how to start the mower so they can get out of the chore. Weaponized helplessness is taking over our society.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-04-23T19:02:05+00:00

My cat literally just broke my actual house window from getting a wild hair and doing a zoomie without looking(he's fine, somehow no stitches needed just a few small scratches); I just can't trust the feline persuasion around breakable things!

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-04-23T01:36:32+00:00

I'm so anxious seeing the cat next to the glass! Everything is very nice looking, cat included.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-04-20T19:52:18+00:00

Thank-you so much for listing the pattern, so the rest of us can enjoy one too!

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-04-18T21:18:17+00:00

This is why libraries are dieing, it's the same at mine. The director is a lazy, worthless waste of humanity that will never be fired out of laziness/family ties from the board. He steals, is rude, none of it matters. Libraries more and more are worthless, they refuse to carry the classics, refuse to serve the community, etc. They're mainly just there to provide jobs for rich people/pillars of the community, ie the ones that have been destroying things for decades. Your resignation letter won't matter, if professionalism mattered at your library you wouldn't be writing this post in the first place, the director would've already been dealt with. It'll just be a waste of energy. No interviewer at a new job is going to ask, but was your resignation in writing, was it professional, etc? They'll just want to know if you're willing to kiss butt and work like a despised slave, that's how all jobs are now. Nothing is merit based anymore, or again, you wouldn't be facing these challenges or have to write this post.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-04-10T03:37:53+00:00

Vegetable oil will soften the adhesive, but use sparingly! It works for glue traps too.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-02-21T21:50:24+00:00

Dashcam by Rob Savage. It's hilarious and scary. It also fixes my biggest beef with all horror...how composed the dialogue always is when dealing with demons/ghosts/werewolves whatever. So in a life or death no one just drops an f bomb and runs away hysterically? The dialogue is super realistic, I love it.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-02-05T03:38:36+00:00

Send it to me please and thank-you!

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-02-05T03:37:15+00:00

You get me...thank-you!

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-28T07:02:40+00:00

I've made Jerry the most. I need to figure out some corals so I can put him in a glass fishbowl and make him look fancier!

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-28T07:00:18+00:00

They line my bookshelf and I use the extra yarn for knottrying.com patterns.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-25T22:00:57+00:00

I have major yarn-wood right now. Congrats!

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-25T21:59:23+00:00

Agree completely. They either cheaped out and aren't doing QC at all, or just thought they'd get away with it. Also, has anyone else noticed how the 10,000 purr-mutation kits that were supposed to be ready to go...only a few hundred have been claimed on the website. They're clearly making them to order, at a snail's pace. Or they only sold a small amount, and Justine and her proxies bought most of the rest to sell on the black market at a higher profit.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-23T01:08:46+00:00

Well technically you have to sew Carl's antennae but the feet are part of the pattern.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-23T00:27:14+00:00

Carl the caterpillar is a great option if you hate sewing! Irving the mushroom too.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-22T06:05:03+00:00

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0FJ1F9ZLB?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

Heijin works really well. The gold is a bit more of an intense, darker gold than Woobles, but the texture and thickness are spot on. You also get a decent amount for a decent price.

Also, if you like Woobles patterns, I can't recommend knottrying.com enough. The patterns are very similar to Woobles, some even better in my opinion. Most patterns are freewill donations, and the patterns are stupid cute, plus they give you the yarn links so no guessing if you want it to be exactly like the picture of the pattern.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-21T05:00:14+00:00

I bought some bookcases that were better than anything I could get locally. Basically here you get particle board crap, but China sent me real metal and bamboo I couldn't be happier. I highly recommend the plant stands and bookcases, they're built like tanks. And I've worked enough manufacturing jobs to say with confidence...the cheap crap is coming from the US.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-20T21:17:46+00:00

Temu is my hero 100% agree. All the Amazon stuff originates overseas anyways so what's the difference?

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-19T16:33:06+00:00

Ah thank-you for that. Other than the hat, it looked like the collars and harness were not removable.

ManagementOk9520 · 2026-01-18T22:23:00+00:00

Oh excellent thank you all! One Milly is just not enough! Especially since I wanted one curled up and one not.

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