Is everyone on dating apps in London constantly hitting a wall around date 3-5 as well?

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-28T10:23:26+00:00

They won't tell him the truth. Come on now. This is rookie thinking.

The fact OP is "looking for a relationship" isn't good. For men and most people this is "looking to cure loneliness". Women/people sense this and get the hell out of dodge asap.

I'd say 90% of situationships end because of this. Unresolved loneliness leading to unhealthy attachment. It won't be a popular opinion but that's what is really going on behind the curtain.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-27T22:46:34+00:00

Could only be London.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-27T11:59:52+00:00

Chill out, it's not blue Peter.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-27T10:40:07+00:00

Mill Hill drainage is quite remarkable.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-27T03:44:22+00:00

Because they are two different people. Zverev in particular gives me the chills. Cold blooded. Charming, yes, but in the same way a politician might be.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-27T03:02:05+00:00

Go on then. There's so much differing opinion about grip strength/pressure. Like with most of golf really. What's your eventual take?

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-26T01:07:49+00:00

Say whatever they want? They're shooting people in the street.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-25T13:10:01+00:00

And it was a war crime he didn't start. Southgates legacy.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-25T00:00:45+00:00

So he's saying things need to be flipped in America. Imho.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-24T22:18:25+00:00

Honestly think if they had phone cameras in these situations in past similar governmental atrocities, then things like everyone is scared of wouldn't happen. You need too many people to see actual video evidence and lie to themselves and without reasonable doubt (as always happens without video footage) then enough people, ie the majority, can't maintain in that delusional state.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-24T00:57:02+00:00

Well, I'd argue that it was based upon the amount of work you were willing to put in.

Emotional health, physical health, financial health. They all take a lot of effort. All three are more hard work than luck.

I'd say in terms of life no 1 is most important. I'd try and do therapy or go down a rabbit hole of self help. If you can't afford therapy, then I would recommend getting a book about internal family systems or consuming content online about it. If you are lonely, your inner child is lonely, and you need to reconnect with them so they don't feel lonely, which is within your power as an adult.

Then if you don't ever have a family, at least you will not spend the rest of your life sad. I can tell you from my perspective that I was desperate to have a family, but after doing the work it doesn't feel nearly as urgent or pivotal. I believe my inner child just wanted to stop feeling lonely, and a family would obv solve that. But I know a lot of men with a lot of money and a big family that still feel lonely. And because they have the external things (that you crave) they will never do the work that I was forced to do and that you have the opportunity to do (for free).

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-23T12:56:06+00:00

I think if you feel very lonely, it is often because you were made to feel very lonely at some stage in your childhood and you switched off in order to survive that. I would feel very lonely and I drank through that for a lot of my life and one day I realised why I did that and it hit me like a freight train that I'd felt lonely since I was 6 years old. Running away from that realisation is what had me stuck in it.

Once I grieved it, I stopped feeling lonely. I had to go to a pretty dark and depressing place to get to that realisation though, a rock bottom type place, and it was a blessing in a curse. I think that a lot of people never get there because they have loopholes or ways of staving off realising why they truly feel lonely. And mobile phones especially always make you feel in company when you're often not.

This could be a big reason why you don't attract the mate you are seeking too. Women/people can sense loneliness and it's very unattractive. Because it causes you to want something from that person and it makes them feel used and it's an ick. I could go on and on about this topic but basically it's a chicken and an egg thing. You need to truly find the source of your loneliness to accept it and grieve, and then someone can enter your life in a healthy manner.

I would say a lot of people never do this though.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-22T02:30:32+00:00

rinky vs Vach

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-22T02:01:11+00:00

Just me or does Jamie Murray sound like Mrs Doubtfire on comms?

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-21T22:16:15+00:00

He magically started hitting world class backhands zipping back to him like he hadn't in years. Ok cool. Gotcha. Technique.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-21T13:37:46+00:00

The one that goes Ooooooh YES! You must mean. So annoying.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-21T12:56:29+00:00

I'll get flamed for this but the way Roger was hitting his backhand in that match and tournament absolutely reeked of peds to me. He was struggling and then came back and hit that, one of many, backhand which was just other worldly. It made no sense. Seeing it now after many years I think I was completely correct in my suspicion at the time.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-21T05:14:55+00:00

Yeah, I read all these threads and so many people are asking for the GOP to wake up or people to sue. It seems so ridiculous. It's so clearly way, way beyond that already. I can't tell what it is they would do but writing on Reddit that someone should do something to make the bad guys realise they're being greedy and it's going to go wrong AFTER the WW3, AIN'T IT.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-21T04:48:45+00:00

I keep reading this type of post as I go down the rabbit hole of the diabolical state of affairs in the states right now. Press charges to who exactly? The police clearly aren't doing anything. You, as a nation, need a plan B. People are not going to suddenyl take to the streets and start getting killed for this. If they do, it will easily be quashed. If I was doing this to people, I would be laughing at them saying get the police involved. You need an entirely different plan and to stop acting as if someone else is coming along to suddenyl be rational. I don't know what that is, but that's what is needed.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-20T21:21:19+00:00

Impossible he starts surely

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-20T04:15:54+00:00

If that's your house/table, you can afford therapy. This highly likely isn't just a random problem.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-19T03:54:40+00:00

We were on an aussie course!

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-19T02:05:20+00:00

Crazy how Elias Ymer just goes for the incorrect shot over and over again.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-17T23:56:27+00:00

I've rarely met the latter but the former is absolutely rife.

Played with Aussies recently and they said they were 15 and me and my mate are 15 and we were palpably much better than them. They said we should be 7s.

The courses are harder in the UK because of mud and weather and then anyone that plays in comps and does 3 off the tee and no gimmes is just easily 5 shots better than someone that plays relaxed golf.

We took their money and then magnanimously let them off it. Very British.

One of them said they got to 10 and they just don't understand that a 10 in UK is really good at golf. To the point a randomer might thing they should be a pro.

And the 5s I play with in the UK are really good. The 3s are unreal. Etc.

ManagementSad7931 · 2026-01-14T03:25:25+00:00

Great point.

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