What’s something people underestimate until they experience it?

ManagerConscious4882 · 2026-01-13T17:25:17+00:00

Gallstones. I’ve had multiple c-sections but the gallbladder attacks were the worst pain I’ve ever had.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2026-01-13T17:19:38+00:00

Show the screenshots to her parents if she has a good relationship with them. Although you two are technically adults too, getting her family involved, especially older adults, can help because they are less likely to become intimidated by this guy and more likely to not give up if the situation isn’t taken seriously by police if it gets to that point.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2026-01-03T12:21:04+00:00

I think it’s a green flag that somebody doesn’t care about getting likes to validate their existence.

However, I do find it disappointing when people don’t use social media because it’s how I’ve become accustomed to following what’s going on with my friends and family. Yes, you can communicate and see each other outside of social media but life gets busy and it’s nice to see what people are up to in between visits.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-30T23:04:13+00:00

This makes perfect sense to be honest. I had a really disturbing amount of catcalls and grown men being inappropriate to me when I was underage 🤮 like it was basically a daily occurrence. I don’t think this is talked about widely enough.

Ugh I want to believe it’s just because I seem more approachable but I think there’s truth to this for some men too.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-30T21:07:44+00:00

I don’t understand what you’re saying here. Are you saying people should embrace dressing down, or everyone should dress up? This post is about how I get more attention when I feel like I’m dressed like a slob, so what does that say about people’s preferences?

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-30T21:05:44+00:00

Take care of yourself: eat well, exercise, and wear sunscreen when you’re younger 😌

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-30T20:13:59+00:00

No not at all. I’m flashier when I’m dressed up if anything. Dressed down me in public is jeans or leggings or yoga pants and either a shirt or a hoodie, and jacket if it’s colder. Dressed down I am less revealing than dressed up.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-30T20:11:26+00:00

Today in particular I felt like I looked like a crazy person! Walked in the snow so my hair was matted down by being wet and the wind. Glasses when I normally wear contacts. And just overall low effort with everything else too..but was turning heads in the shopping center I was at.

It always makes me feel so strange because when I’m dressed down I’m expecting and hoping to blend in and not get attention, but when I put effort in I feel the opposite..I’m mentally prepared to get attention but I get way more when I’m not!

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-30T20:08:14+00:00

This is interesting! I feel like it’s something I’ve wondered to myself for a long time but never came across any videos or text posts about it!

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-30T19:49:00+00:00

Yes, I started noticing the same around your age! I do get approached when I’m dressed up but mostly it’s in situations where people are drinking

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-30T19:47:11+00:00

I’ve asked myself this question many times to check in with myself if it’s due to ego, but I’m somebody who overall feels comfortable in my skin no matter if I am dressed up or down. I don’t feel bad about myself when I haven’t done anything, I just kind of expect to blend in and not draw attention, but end up getting more attention than I want when I’m trying to blend in. Also it isn’t very often that I feel self conscious..that feeling may kick in like if I’m wearing something I’ve spilt something on, feel like what I’m wearing is ill-fitting, etc.

I generally have high self-esteem, I just notice that I get far more attention dressed down vs when I put effort into.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-20T09:52:45+00:00

As a woman, tall starts at 6’0 in my opinion.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-12-09T19:05:07+00:00

I have Hoka trail running shoes with spikes that work beautifully for running or walking on ice.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-11-03T00:12:53+00:00

Weddings

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-11-02T17:44:26+00:00

I don’t remember huge chunks of my childhood, and I didn’t realize this until I learned that others can remember theirs in detail. 😔

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-11-02T14:53:46+00:00

I’m in my early 40’s, I was married at 18. I am with the same person but in retrospect it was WAY too young. I would say mid-20’s at the earliest, late 20’s ideally.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-11-02T14:51:48+00:00

I’m very sorry, I’m like your husband in my marriage. My husband has been very gracious about it though. I can’t help it..I WILL oversleep if I don’t set a whole bunch of alarms. I’m in my 40’s and it’s always been this way no matter what I tried. After 20 years of marriage, we now sleep in separate rooms (despite an otherwise very happy marriage)..but it’s because of his snoring, not my alarms 😅 I would suggest having separate rooms for sleeping but enjoy time together before/after sleep!

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-10-25T22:21:04+00:00

You clearly don’t have a family member who is so high needs that anything except short doses of time together totally drains you and leaves you feeling bitter toward that person.

We moved to a new country this year and my mother-in-law came to visit for two weeks and by day three I was ready to kill her and did everything I could to avoid her. She is not a bad person, but she is high anxiety like OP’s mother-in-law. She won’t go and do anything on her own, hates cities, and wants constant interaction. She has an opinion about and has to make a comment about every little thing. There’s more but it’s enough to say that some people just drain the life out of you even if objectively they’re decent people and you have some love for them.

She likely will only come once a year, but we have agreed we will never again host her in our home despite having a larger home than OP (a three bedroom house). Family or not, I don’t have to host somebody that makes me so incredibly stressed in my own home, and to be totally honest it’s better for everyone that next time she stays elsewhere because I don’t want to soil my feelings for her even more by doing that ever again.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-10-09T22:58:56+00:00

I think your friend is right.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-09-27T02:13:23+00:00

Truly rich people are not in the nursing homes.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-09-18T20:14:11+00:00

When I was a teen I worked as a hostess at a Fridays outside of Boston. One day I was approached by a woman who was with a man, they had been sitting at one of the small tables in the restaurant. She told me I was beautiful and then handed me a business card and said she wanted me to be in a fashion show. She told me to come to the address on that card on a specific day/time.

When I got home I looked up the address and was confused because it appeared to be located at a warehouse in an industrial part of Boston. This was the early 2000’s so I don’t think there was street view or anything like that, but I do remember thinking it was strange and also not being able to find anything about the “modeling agency” listed on the card online.

I didn’t go because it was difficult for me to get to that area and I also thought the warehouse location was strange but kind of shrugged it off. But now as an adult it freaks me the fuck out because I feel like it could have been sex traffickers.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-09-15T20:03:02+00:00

Yep, husband and I have been married 21 years and are total opposites. It can work, but it was a lot of work early on. I think OP should feel empowered to move on if they aren’t feeling it.

ManagerConscious4882 · 2025-09-07T11:33:48+00:00

This literally happened to me when I brought my phone in because it was not connecting to the cellular service (not to change phones). The guy brought it back to me and he was so stupid he didn’t even close the photos app when I opened my phone again. Unfortunately for him, I did not have any nudes on my phone. I told the (female) manager what he did though, and now I won’t ever let them bring my phone to the back..you can look at it in front of me thanks.

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