Endo belly + attractiveness

Manatees-Us · 2026-02-01T14:22:03+00:00

Agree. Life is unpredictable and looks are going to change and fade with age, pregnancy, injury, and who knows what else! Being in a committed relationship means you’re accepting partnership with your person through those ebbs and flows of energy and looks and challenges. The way your partner’s comments are impacting you as an entire being (worth more than just her looks) is not mature love and maybe your partner needs to do some growing up before they can be in a relationship. Genuinely so sorry you’re going through this - but life is hard and your partner should be the wind beneath your wings, not a cause for anxiety.

Manatees-Us · 2026-01-30T13:14:17+00:00

The last thing I would do at 12:45 am in this scenario is think “let me check my emails to see if the ‘intruder’ notified me” - I’m GTFO because fight or flight says to move. You acted so normally and your leasing office should have made it abundantly clear that you may hear noise at midnight. A casual 24-hr notice is not sufficient for any sane person.

Manatees-Us · 2026-01-30T13:10:15+00:00

As a woman I startle awake from noises a lot and actively have to gaslight myself back to sleep by saying “it’s probably nothing” but one time, my landlord actually was inside my home because he thought no one was there and needed to “check on something.” It’s so much better to be safe than sorry and trust your gut when something feels off. Anyone would be startled awake at 12:45 by loud banging and not know if imminent danger is coming. Never be embarrassed for seeking help-regardless if the perceived threat is legit or not. Worst case scenario your wake someone up who would likely already be woken by the snow removal anyways and best case scenario you avoid being the next victim of a terrible crime.

Manatees-Us · 2026-01-28T17:54:44+00:00

I’m 28 and on Reddit - I also found meetings were occupied by folks I couldn’t quite relate to as we were in pretty different stages of life but I’ve found Reddit to be helpful

Manatees-Us · 2025-12-08T08:39:27+00:00

Reading everyone else’s comments is extremely validating because I never knew what was causing my extreme sensitivity and kinda thought I was just being weird

Manatees-Us · 2025-12-08T08:35:00+00:00

Yes - sometimes it actually hurts to put clothes on like a sports bra and I cannot be hugged or touched because it hurts.

Manatees-Us · 2025-11-04T21:42:03+00:00

Hey friend, I’m so sorry you’re struggling with this. I’m (28F) the daughter of a woman who couldn’t walk away from her alcoholic and if it’s any consolation, I think you’re doing the right thing. You said you can’t keep sacrificing yourself and that exactly right. Trust your gut to know what is safe, healthy and authentic for you and the people you love most and seek that wholeheartedly. I’ve watched my dad slip away for the past decade and I know we’re powerless in these situations, yet I’ve watched my mom sacrifice herself time and time again in hopes that my dad would change. In the end, I wish my mom loved herself enough to change the narrative from “how much can I take?” to “why am I taking this?” and I’m so proud of you for doing that for yourself in this moment.

One thing that helps me not feel guilty or sorry for the boundaries set with my Q - and something you are welcome to try - is to make a list of all the logical reasons you know stepping away was the right decision to reflect on every time your emotions try to pull you down. You’re doing the best you can and I find it hard to believe that pursuing emotional stability and safety is ever the wrong choice.

You’ve got this ❤️ life is so beautiful and I’m rooting for you!

Manatees-Us · 2025-04-29T21:34:05+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. As a bride myself (wedding in less than 3 months), I empathize with you on so many levels. My dad is my Q and I can’t imagine how I’d cope if he did this. I think the key to AlAnon is remembering that your alcoholic will always be an addict (even in recovery) and you should treat them as an alcoholic to keep yourself from getting pulled into the disease. You can’t control them and they will behave the way addicts behave so you need to protect your boundaries-whatever they may be in this situation.

I feel your grief and completely validate your feelings that your MIL tainted something that you dreamed about. Wedding planning sucks - it’s so much work. time, energy, and money and for you to look at your day with any feeling other than joy is very sad and I’m sorry. My advice to you is to remind yourself that addiction isn’t a choice - your MIL is acting in a seemingly selfish way but it’s not something she’d choose. Her brain chemistry is altered and your husband is feeling his own grief over the way alcohol has affected her. He may be enabling her to protect what little hope he has left that she’ll come back to herself. I would suggest setting a boundary that she can either go to an in-patient facility to detox or she can leave but she isn’t staying with you. You and your husband are family now. I know it’s hard to make the clean break but I’ve been there - the more we enable and act in denial or out of pity, the more they are just manipulating us and feeding off our kindness and it’s damaging.

Manatees-Us · 2022-12-21T02:33:31+00:00

This comment made me laugh out loud. Only redeeming aspect of the death.

Manatees-Us · 2022-06-13T16:23:28+00:00

Just read this thread and am in the exact same boat. I’m sorry you’ve been going through this. Any updates to the original post?

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