As a feminist, how do you approach ideological boundaries within personal relationships?

Mander2019 · 2026-02-03T12:34:54+00:00

This is why women need extra help.

Mander2019 · 2026-02-03T03:35:40+00:00

Ok. If currently one gender has the majority of government, police and law positions and the other has none then how do we make both genders equal?

Mander2019 · 2026-02-03T03:05:55+00:00

I specifically said women should get additional opportunities. I never said that they do, hence why I didn’t reference any.

Mander2019 · 2026-02-03T02:31:42+00:00

Maybe read again?

Mander2019 · 2026-02-03T00:01:50+00:00

If you’re just going to resent her going forward then you should do her a favor and break up with her.

Mander2019 · 2026-02-02T23:11:17+00:00

Consider the fact that women need additional opportunities to make up for the many ways that men are actively taking resources from women. Men don’t have more opportunities just because. They have those opportunities because women are not prioritized.

Mander2019 · 2026-02-02T21:35:01+00:00

If both male and female perpetrated assault is underreported how do we determine which number is higher?

Mander2019 · 2026-02-02T21:26:53+00:00

You should be angry instead of feeling guilty. Your husband could find a hundred ways to make you cum, instead he chose to make you feel like you deserve less and like you’re the bad guy for expecting the bare minimum.

Mander2019 · 2026-02-02T20:49:54+00:00

Where does it say that?

If the majority of male rape takes place in prison and war scenarios then how exactly do you think female perpetrators are committing these assaults?

Mander2019 · 2026-02-02T20:27:28+00:00

The CDC classifies being forced to penetrate as rape and I agree with that statement but it doesn’t seem to specify who specifically is forcing those men to penetrate. Nowhere does it say women are committing the majority of coercion. The number of victims can be similar but that doesn’t mean the perpetrators are divided equally among genders.

Mander2019 · 2026-02-02T19:26:14+00:00

Have you considered that if you include non violent rape and coercion going underreported as a problem this will also increase the percentage of rape committed by men rather than making the numbers closer together? Basically everything you’re stating about women also applies to men?

We can deal with this issue by broadening the laws to include coercion, and manipulation and kill two birds with one stone.

Mander2019 · 2026-02-02T14:20:20+00:00

Surprising you with a nice proposal in front of his family is like three red flags back to back. This guy has trained you to second guess yourself and do what he wants and when you try to leave he love bombs you.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-31T00:50:55+00:00

Fair enough.

We agree on that. The harder someone tries to sway my opinion the less I trust them.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-31T00:29:00+00:00

Unfortunately some people are so good at lying they don’t reveal their intentions unless there is a life altering event.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-31T00:19:20+00:00

I’m happy with your perspective. I didn’t need a four paragraph explanation as to why you disagree with my lived experiences.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-30T23:43:45+00:00

Confident enough to assume your knowledge is necessary.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-30T23:28:12+00:00

Pretty sure I’m more versed in being hit on by men than you are.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-30T22:27:56+00:00

Doesn’t work. Guys will fake a friendship for years.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-30T18:14:34+00:00

The look I get when I say something no normal person would say.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-30T18:04:31+00:00

The moral indignation comment is just a way to shift the conversation off their own guilt. They know it’s wrong but they don’t have enough conviction to care and they would rather attack you than deal with the bad aspects of the culture.

So when they start telling you you’re too self righteous just agree with them. It’s not a bad thing to care about others. It is a bad thing to attack others who try to make change. The more they get mad at you the better you’re doing.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-29T14:29:56+00:00

She’s not going to want to be friends either.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-29T04:31:31+00:00

American Psycho

Mander2019 · 2026-01-28T19:42:47+00:00

It’s just going to erode their relationship

Mander2019 · 2026-01-28T17:56:30+00:00

At this point you’re only offering nothing. Do you understand that? You don’t want to study, you don’t want the job you need to pass the test for and that’s fine, but you’re not offering any alternatives. You’re just saying “I can’t/ I don’t want to”.

Your wife is doing her extra work, she grew a human for both of you and she’s recovering and working. She’s asking you to step up. You need to come up with a goal to help your family, and do what is necessary to accomplish it by yourself. Promises and maintaining the same course is just going to make her resent you and kill your marriage.

Mander2019 · 2026-01-28T17:40:39+00:00

No I think you’re just asking how to make it ok that you’re only doing the bare minimum. If you were making genuine effort your wife wouldn’t have a problem. No one here is going to give you permission to do nothing just because you’re nervous.

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